so, i was approached by a guy in class. we spoke for a bit, and when i got home he texted me after finding my number in class group chat. he was obviously flirty, wanted to talk about books & other interests, and seemed genuinely interested in me as a person.
we even made plans to get coffee after class and just talk. but as things progressed, he explained he wasn’t emotionally available (just got out of a relationship) and basically just wanted to hang and talk as friends, but also have sex. i said i was down.
we were talking pretty consistently for a couple days, but i noticed he only really seemed interested in talking sexually. if we weren’t talking sexually, he was conveniently too busy or tired.
two days ago, he said he’d been feeling down the whole day abt his ex and doesn’t want to talk anymore, only in class. he said he thought he was “ready to get to know someone knew” but isn’t. i said that’s fine, but i felt weird.
first of all, we have class together and i have to see him every week, so it’s going to be so awkward. we spoke very sexually and i even sent him explicit pics (not fully naked, but still). secondly, i feel like the ex thing is an excuse bc he was fine being super sexual like the day prior.
it sucks because i embarrassed and naive for trying to talk to him as friends, he probably felt overwhelmed. but the thing is, he was the one who mentioned being friends and he approached me first. i wish he would’ve been honest about what he wanted bc i would be down for strictly hooking up.
i guess i wanna ask for advice on how can i make things less awkward in class? bc i have so much anxiety thinking about it. also, maybe some clarity on what his mindset/intentions might be because i’m very inexperienced with this stuff. i wish there was a way to reconcile, even if it’s just hooking up, because i’m really attracted to him and i’m frustrated and disappointed.
please help !! 🙁
TL;DR: a guy in class approached me wanting to be FWB. at first, he said he wanted to hang and talk and friends, but later on he seemed only interested in talking sexually. couple days ago, he said he didn’t want to talk/see each other anymore. i want advice on how to make class less awkward. also, on if there’s any change for reconciliation or help me better understand his mentality.