I’m 16F and every time my fam comes over, this guy crashes in my room even tho there are two guest rooms. I’ve let it slide because he’s close to me. But then right before bed, he start praying OUT LOUD. I’m an atheist, but even if I weren’t I’d still find it super disrespectful. It’s not about religion, it’s basic courtesy. Dude’s acting like I’m not even there trying to sleep.
And it used to be worse. He would literally wake up in the middle of the night, turn on the light, and start reading the Bible out loud. Like some kinda exorcism to banish sleep from the house. I complained bc it’s my damn room and he stopped.
Honestly I should’ve never let him sleep in my room in the first place. There’s a guest room for a reason. I was way too nice for way too long. And some relatives think I’m wrong just bc it’s religion stuff. Like… it could be anything, it’s still rude. Praying silently exists. He can pray out loud even in hell if he wants but not in my room ruining my sleep lol
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I’m 16F and every time my fam comes over, this guy crashes in my room even tho there are two guest rooms. I’ve let it slide because he’s really close to me. But then, right before bed, he start praying OUT LOUD. I’m an atheist, but even if I weren’t I’d still find it super disrespectful. It’s not about religion, it’s basic courtesy. Dude’s acting like I’m not even there trying to sleep.
And it used to be worse. He would literally wake up in the middle of the night, turn on the light, and start reading the Bible out loud. Like some kinda exorcism to banish sleep from the house. I complained bc it’s my damn room and he stopped.
Honestly I should’ve never let him sleep in my room in the first place. There’s a guest room for a reason. I was way too nice for way too long. And some relatives think I’m wrong just bc it’s religion stuff. Like… it could be anything, it’s still rude. Praying silently exists. He can pray out loud even in hell if he wants but not in my room ruining my sleep lol
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NTA. WTF is this guy’s deal? I mean, if he’s so religious, he should be opposed to an unwed man and woman sleeping in the same room, right?
NTA, just because he’s religious doesn’t mea he’s excused from common courtesy. He probably doesn’t think anything of it and just needed to be reminded, he is a guest. Or worse, he’s taking it as a personal mission to convert you.
Either way, you’re NTA. It’s your space and if he needs to pray in the middle of the night outloud, he should go to the guest room.
Yes
NTA. Bro has got to find a different space to pray. Your room, your rules.
NTA because even if you were religious him doing stuff in your space like that would be rude
Dude since when are people so soft, just ask him to move to the guest room or deal with it. clearly your close to him so just have a conversation, hes not doing it to spite you. Take a deep breathe, not the end of the world
NTA. If there are two guest rooms, what is the logic behind this dude staying with you? Like, did he ask to, did family say he had to? and why? That’s just so weird. I would tell your parents it makes you uncomfortable and that you’d prefer to have your room to yourself as you get closer to adulthood. It’s disrespectful for him to be praying like that, but it’s more disrespectful that he’s sleeping in your room with you when there are other rooms available.
NTA. Seems like he’s pushing his religion on you and even if it’s not like that- it would be rude and annoying for anyone to just pick up any book and start reading it out loud. Bible or not. And if he wants to pray he can do it in his head.
Sounds performative. Spirituality is inward, not outward.
He should just move to the guest room. Or the garage.
NTA
NTA but why on earth is he staying in your room?? why does he want to? why do your parents let him??
NTA. But the religious relative is an A-hole.
NTA, don’t be groomed into other’s beliefs. You can’t CHOOSE a belief, you either do or don’t.
I think Mets time for some heavy metal and if you can’t get away with that, recite the lyrics from a song next time he starts.
But I have a bigger worry:why is your family letting a boy/man crash in your room? I don’t care if he’s not doing anything toward you in a sexual way, it’s inappropriate. Where ere your parents in all this? Have you spoken with them? Don’t focus on the religion part, just that he’s being loud, rude and oh, by the way, is a guy on a teenage girls room.
“This guy”? Like your age? Or like an adult? Actually, it’s creepy either way. There are empty rooms and he insists on bunking with you. Then he’s being a rude, disrespectful asshat. I wouldn’t want to be asleep in a room with that guy. Praying loudly and reading aloud from the Bible? I hope it’s not stuff about having impure thoughts. Ick.
NTA. And I would want him firmly locked outside of my room before I tried to sleep.
Why is a grown man sleeping in a 16 year old girls room? Is he trying to exorcise his impure thoughts? wtf! Just NO! Next time tell your family he needs to stay in the guest room.
Why is your family housing a teenage male in your bedroom? Totally inappropriate!
You have an extra bed in your room? How old is this guy and why are your parents letting some guy share a room with their underage daughter, especially when there are empty rooms in the house
NTA. Regardless of the prayer, he needs to stay out of your room. You need to set that boundary that your room is off limits to visitors, and if you are living with your parents, you need to discuss this with them as well so they can help enforce it. If your house guest wants to pray wherever they stay to sleep, they need to do so quietly to not disturb others who are sleeping.
An older guy sleeping in your bedroom.
No, just no. It’s not appropriate, it’s creepy af and dangerous.
NTA and get him tf out of your room.
Get him out of your room. Don’t be ridiculous — you’re not being nice. You’re being a doormat.
Exorcism to banish sleep from the house.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Consider becoming a writer, you have a flair. Also NTA, relative is so rude no matter the content if their middle of the night soliloquies. Tell him he has lost his bunking with you privileges as you are a growing young man who needs his sleep. The guest room has fresh sheets as is waiting for him.
NTA and why would your male relative sleep in your room when there are guest rooms? Make him move.
NTA, if he was actually practicing his religion properly there would be no interruptions to your routine. He’s going out of his way to irk you
NTA. Might I suggest you pick up some merch from The Satanic Temple and have it in a conspicuous place in your room? https://thesatanictemple.com/collections/all-products-excluding-route
This seems.. fake.
OP-NTA. I’ve got to be honest, I’m not comfortable with this. I feel like he’s going to say that he’s reading the bible out loud so he doesn’t sexually assault you Like “I tried to stay away from her, but she tempted me to sin”
I don’t have positive feelings for religious people.
Fight fire with fire
https://www.openbible.info/topics/silent_prayer
Also I’m sorry an old man is crashing your room, that’s fuckin weird
Honestly this is such a non issue.
You knew in the past this person did this, and yet you still agreed to share a room.
Nobody likes bible thumpers, not even other Christians.
And finally if you are actually throwing a fit about this then yes your family is going to look at you weird, because it’s a non issue and you are family.
This is a mix between No Assholes Here and Everyone Here Sucks.
Don’t let them stay in your room.
Tell him you have a dedicated “prayer room” then show him the guest room and tell him god only listens to prayers when the door is closed.
If you really dislike him tell him the prayer room is the broom closet
You’re too old to let this dude sleep in your bedroom, especially if there are guest rooms he can use; there was simply no reason for you to give him permission, or for him to ask for it. Don’t let the fact that he’s “religious” blind you to the fact that pretty soon he’s gonna be creeping on you if you’re not careful. NTA.
NTA. Kick him out. That’s just really weird for him to be in your room. Complain to your parents. Why are they letting him stay there?
NTA:
Matthew 6:5-6 from the New International Version of the Bible reads: “And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by others. Truly I tell you, they have their reward in full. But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you”. This passage instructs people to pray sincerely and privately, not for public recognition, as true devotion is a heartfelt connection with God, not a performance for others.
I would utilize this passage to encourage him to pray silently.
Print this out and leave it on his pillow
But when you pray, go into your room and shut the door and pray to your Father who is in secret.
And your Father who sees in secret will reward you. (Matthew 6:6)
He’s making a show of his [supposed] faith.
Even if related, unless it is your brother or dad, it is so so weird for an adult male to be sleeping in your room, an underage girl.
Religion etc aside, that is inappropriate.
Besides that, you are right. Prayer or something else, respect those in the same space with volume.
A guy, family or not, should not be crashing in your room. There are other spaces. You need to tell your parents you’re not comfortable with this. If they say it’s ok, then ask if your boyfriend can sleep over in your room then. This guy is acting weird and is probably praying because he’s tempted to molest you. It’s time to show backbone.
parents are letting a grown man in the same bed as you?
either this story is fake or someone needs to call cps on your parents.
NTA and also you really buried the lede here… the praying out loud right next to you while you’re trying to sleep is disrespectful of course, but the middle aged man getting in bed with a teenage girl is the serious WTF here. Please talk to someone you trust about this situation. It is not normal or appropriate.
Your parents should be directing this man to the guest room. I cannot imagine why they’re letting him share a room with their teenage daughter and that’s not even considering the inconsiderate behaviour. NTA.
NTA. Next time they visit tell them you’d prefer they stay in one of the guest rooms.
NTA. He shouldn’t even be sleeping in your room to begin with. He should be in a guest room.
NTA
Look up some satanic prayers. Your relative will likely choose the guest room on his own.
NTA& it’s really inappropriate to be sharing a room with him. What are your parents thinking?
It was an exorcism to banish his boner away or hopefully to wake you so you could console him. This is SO HORRID, why are your parents allowing this!!!!!
‘bout time he moved to a guest room
NTA
How old is this guy?
You are a 16F sleeping in the same room with an adult male when there are two other rooms available? Sorry this just sounds incredibly creepy. I understand if there is no other space available, but when there is?????
Next time, he sleeps in the guest room. Problem solved.
NTA bite the bullet and tell him that from now on he has to sleep in the guest room. This is in response to the other night. If the prayer performance was for his benefit, it can be done in the guest room. If it was supposedly for yours, it’s not welcome or appropriate. It’s your room and you were trying to sleep. You don’t want to argue about it. You don’t want to deal with anything like this again, and anyway, it’s more appropriate for him to sleep in the guest room. That’s what’s going to happen form now on. End of.
If he keeps making an issue of this, tell him doing that is only going to drive a wedge between you, not force you to give in. He needs to drop it. He doesn’t need to sleep in your room.
If he continues each time he starts you go on a rant of the Muslim call to prayer for 15 minutes or you start invoking spirits saying the you aline with Yahwe or the African voodoo due to his lack of respect
NTA. Matthew 6:6. Worship and prayer is supposed to be private.
Has anyone even asked why he wants to stay in your room? Be careful. He sounds like someone trying to hide behind religion for nefarious reasons.
If someone can’t pray silently I automatically assume they’re full of shit.
Like if the only way you can express your faith is super performative, you probably don’t actually have any.
Is this a joke?
If this isn’t fake, your family and this guy sucks.
This guy who’s really close to you who’s staying in your room when family comes to stay even though there’s 2 guest bedrooms needs to make use of one of those rooms. Forget about the praying and you being an atheist, you should probably do a bit of the ol’ googling about how many super religious people are really into non-consensual sex, especially with teenagers (and sometimes much younger).
Praying out loud before bed is something many people do and even though you are an atheist, you aren’t a vampire. You should accept it.
Waking you up in the middle of the night is absolutely unacceptable.
But you need to reframe this. It isn’t about prayer. And if you talk about it that way, you come across as an intolerant bigot.
This is about your privacy and your sleep.
So just say “hey, I need my privacy can you use the guest room”
Tell him Jesus spoke against worshipping for show which is exactly what he is doing. Here’s the receipts: Matthew 6:1-6 and Luke 20:46.
Edit: spelling
Wake up in the middle of the night while listening to, out loud, the Blasphemers Bible. I watch it on Aron Ra’s YT channel. But NTA in your room. Tell him to read elsewhere if he wants to do it during the night.
Random men should not be sleeping in a teenage girl’s room.
For the described situation: NTA, it’s time for him to move to the guest room, you deserve your privacy. I will say if it’s less than a few minutes of prayer and it’s something he also does in his own home when he’s alone that would change my answer to NAH. The out loud Bible reading is also weird, but people deal with difficulty sleeping in their own ways and depending on how long it went on for and whether it was performative for your benefit or just something he does changes the outlook on it dramatically. Once you accept bunking with someone for a night you accept their sleep habits whether it’s snoring, sleepwalking, sleep talking, weird pre-bed routines, insomnia, etc. If they bother you, you can change up the sleeping arrangements in the morning.
But also the way you framed this, I think most people could have predicted how this was going to go. Redditors en masse on these types of subreddits can’t be objective about certain subjects, and this is definitely one of them. If it’s religion and you’re an atheist, they’re going to tell you you’re NTA. If it’s government and you’re on the left, you’re automatically going to be NTA. If it’s heterosexual domestic and you’re the woman, you’re going to be NTA. If it’s heterosexual domestic and you’re the man, you’re going to be TAH and get some very specific and repetitive insults thrown at you unless you describe physical abuse.
None of this is to say you’re wrong for asking the question OP, but for future reference this isn’t a place to find objectivity on such subjects, reddit has a clear and distinct bias.
INFO: Who is this relative, and how old is he?? How close are you guys when you say you’re “close?”
Gee NTA, is your family trying to sell you to this dude?
Your parents are the biggest assholes to let this happen.
Next time call the police. This is beyond creepy.
NTA. Get a spray bottle. Train it out of him.
NTA. It’s your damn room. Kick him out and make him use the guest room.
Why is a man sleep in your room in the first place? NTA
OP please put a lock on your door and do not give this weirdo the opportunity to get into your bedroom again. Why are you parents tolerating this?
This is just weird. “Religious” people are quite capable of not making noise.
NTA. I’m more concerned that at 16F you have a male relative who insists on sleeping in your bedroom when there are two guest bedrooms available. If your parents are on the scene, they shouldn’t be allowing this either.