Hi everyone, my bf and I F’29’have been officially dating since June and we’re talking for 3 months prior. We have gone on a couple mini vacations together and that’s one of the only times we have shared a bed.
I honestly miss sleeping next to someone , especially someone I love and it kind of makes me feel a bit sad. I have voiced that I would like him to stay over once a week as a compromise, but I also don’t want him to do anything he doesn’t want to.
He says that the reason is that he cannot sleep well. This part is true he does wake up often at night , I noticed from the vacations. He always says he has to get his sleep schedule right and when he sleeps with me it messes him up more. So the last couple times he was supposed to sleep over, he didn’t .
He said as the first excuse , that he had a bad day and just wanted to go home. The second weekend he told me he had to wake up to do school. I have never been with someone who is so against staying the night. We do however spend pretty much every day or other day together.
TL;DR is it unreasonable for me to ask for him to stay over at least once a week. I understand he has school and other priorities but I really miss the intimacy it brings.