Hey people, I need your advice as I have no idea how to handle the situation I’m in.
I (30F) have a friend (29M) who texted me two weeks ago ” my brother died”. I immediately called him and we were on the phone for a few hours, he told me his brother and his best friend (who are also friends) were in a car accident and both of them died. He cried for hours and I was just there listening.
The days after we were on the phone a lot and I tried to be there as much as I could, checking up on him, etc.
After a week I checked the best friends instagram and saw that he repostet a story, which was extremely weird but I thought maybe someone else has the password to his account?
A few more days go by, friend tells me he attended the funeral of his brother (which he invited me to and offered to pay for the flight). He told me his best friends funeral is still coming up and he doesn’t know when as his family is handling his.
All of this was 3 weeks ago, since then the best friend postet stories from vacation, his work, his music etc, so I’m sure its him and not someone else having access to his account. I also dm’d his brother and he responded. I asked him how he’s been and he said he’s doing great.
What the fuck do I do? Do I tell my friend that I know? Do I just block him? It’s just such a fucked up thing to lie about, I have no idea how to handle this situation. I was also thinking about telling the brother “hey your brother says you’re dead maybe you should check on him” because I feared he’s going through some sort of psychosis.
I would like to text him something like “hey I know you made this whole thing up, I don’t know your reasoning for that but please never contact me again, I wish you well”
Advice please, I’m so lost in this situation
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Bruh, I ain’t gonna sugarcoat it – this whole situation is like 50 shades of messed up. What your “friend” did ain’t cool, not by a mile. It’s next level gaslighting and honestly, mad disrespectful to folk who’ve actually lost peeps.
IMHO, I’d probs message the brother first, make sure he’s clued in on this whole shit show. Your mate’s either pulling a sick prank or needs some serious help.
As for the ‘friend’, no harm in laying down the law. “I know you lied – don’t hit me up again, GL.” Trust is a two way street, man, and this dude just dumped a truckload of trust issues on your doorstep. Ain’t nobody got time for that. Stay strong, OP!