I (22F, flight attendant) fly to the U.S. every month, usually to the same city, and recently I met a guy (22M) there. We’ve met three times so far, he’s been super sweet, caring, and honestly I’ve never been treated this well before. We really connect both emotionally and humor-wise, and since then we’ve been texting every day and had a few calls (even a 2-hour FaceTime).
He invited me on a trip next time I’m there, and he definitely puts in effort to stay in touch. We haven’t hooked up yet, and I actually don’t want to rush that because I like him too much for it to be just casual. The thing is, I’m starting to get attached, and I don’t know what he’s thinking or if he’d ever consider something serious. I live in Europe tho.
I don’t want to come across as pushy or ask too soon, but I’m at the point where I wouldn’t be okay with this being casual or him seeing other people. Has anyone been in a similar situation? How should I bring this up without scaring him off? Is it too early, or should I just be honest about what I’m looking for?
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You need to think about this practically rather than through the lens of emotions, he lives in the US and you live in Europe. How does this work in practical terms? Feelings for people come and go and it’s easy to be caught up in the moment, but practicality has to come first.
Imagine if you and him do decide to hook up, build a relationship and then it falls flat on it’s face because you can’t progress things due to distance, going to hurt a lot more.
Honestly girl, life’s too short to beat around the bush. You’ve got feelings, he’s obviously into you, and there’s no shame in wanting to clarify things. It ain’t pushy, it’s real talk. You like him, he likes you, y’all already making plans together. Long distance? Hell, you’re literally a flight attendant. Sounds like a movie in the making to me. Go for it!
10-11 years ago, I met a woman who was in my country (UK) for work, we spent a lot of time together until she went back to her country (Romania), which was a 3hr flight away.
We stayed in touch, and she eventually moved over to be with me, we got married and had a daughter. If she hadn’t passed away (from cancer) last year we’d have been married 7 years this month.
In summary, if you enjoy each others company, keep talking and meeting up, you never know what will happen.
Communicate. Let him know your feelings. If it scares him off then he isn’t the one. You are correct. Life is too short. Jump in and give it a go. It might be your future happiness that could slip past without you trying.
Just talk to him. Ask him what he thinks and voice what you are wanting. The worst that will happen is it’s not what he wants then ok move on and try again with someone else. It sucks to hear and I get sounds kinda mean but it’s the truth.
you lose nothing from being honest with him. If you dont ask now, you might regret it in the future and think back “what if i had done this and that”. I look back at your age and have so many of these