M 35. Before joining this group, I thought I had the worst MIL. But from reading some of these literal horror stories, I may need to change that assessment.
Yes she’s over bearing and yes she buys too much stuff off Temu and fills my house with it. Yes she over steps with my children and goes against what I say all the time. Yes she annoys the hell out of me and yes when she comes to visit, I’m already counting down the minutes until she leaves. So she may not fall into the worst category, but the headaches are long and the smile and wave attitude falters very quickly.
Stay strong everyone. These little bundle of joys are too precious to have our MIL bring us down!
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Yea, this is always the take that drives me crazy. Just because she doesn’t actually abuse you or your SO doesn’t mean she isn’t the worst. Overstepping with kids and countering the parents is AWFUL and the worst. It just may not be abuse.
And you can limit contact for behavior that isn’t abuse. I wouldn’t let anyone in my house if they undermine my authority as mom. To each their own.
It’s not a competition. We’re all dealing with our own unique sets of circumstances. I love that this group gives us a place to commiserate as well as gain perspective, and learn from each other!
Welcome to the sub!
We can commiserate, but we can also help if you desire.
If you want to change your situation regarding the house clutter or undermining your parenting, or if you want strategies for decreasing the annoyingness of her visits, we can help you with that. Acceptance is not your only option!