I deleted his chats and pictures
It may seem silly but it was a big step for me
He was a major part of my life
Basically 1/4th of my life
I finally deleted everything And I feel like a huge piece of me was taken away
I feel hollow-er but I guess this feeling will fade away right?
I need assurance I did the right thing please
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Society teaches women to ignore our instincts. Yours said to delete – listen to them. And yes, it’ll fade with time. Hang in there.
You did the right thing, it will hurt for a while in the start you might even get withdrawal within a year but this is the step you needed to move on to develop and go forward as a person.
Hey OP, first off, big props for taking that leap. It’s never easy ripping off that band-aid, especially when it’s been stuck on for yrs. But trust me, you’ve done yourself a solid. The hollow feeling? Totally normal. It’s like quitting an addiction cold turkey… it’s gonna suck at first, but it’ll get better. Give it time, let yourself feel all the feels, and remember this – your worth ain’t defined by who’s in your life, but by how you live it. Keep your chin up, u got this!
My dear sister – you did the right thing. I’m going through the same situation right now. Just broke up with him yesterday and deleted all his stuff from my phone.
Men take up so much of our lives and our selves when we get involved with them, so of course it feels like there’s a giant hole when we leave them. That’s because he pushed YOU out of the way to make room for HIM. It took time for him to do this, and it will take time for you to grow back into that empty space. But you will.
I know you’ve probably heard this a thousand times, so I won’t harp too much on it. Focus on what matters to you. I made so much space for that man, I’m now trying to figure out what I lost and how to get it back.
Don’t give in to temptations to talk to him “one more time”. A clean break heals faster. Remind yourself of all the bad things about being with him. Be kind and gentle to yourself – no epic “I should have known better” blaming sessions. Acknowledge your mistake, learn from it, and move on.
Last but not least, don’t be in any hurry to get involved with another man. We have a glut of them and most are junk. You, however, are gold. Treat yourself that way.
I am so proud of you
You know I still haven’t deleted those chats yet
But the thing is instead of reminding me of good times they remind me of how he behaved in the end
I really hope one day I will have courage like you to delete all those chats and not hope to bump into him someday
Yes. Like finally getting a rock out of your shoe, you’ll immediately notice something is missing.
Do NOT put the rock back just because you were used to it. Learn to live a rock-free life.
When things are bad, you might be tempted to reach for the familiar rock, because you haven’t gone through tough times without it. Be strong, you don’t actually miss the rock—and even if it takes you a long time to learn to walk without it, you’ll be better for it regardless.
Hey, respect for taking that big step, sis. It’s hard, I’ve been there. The void will hurt for a while, but look, it’s the first step of your new chapter. Time heals even the deepest wounds, trust me on that. Hang in there, you’ve got this! It’s all about self-love and growth now.
You can fill that hollow bit up with more better you. Well done! Look forward to finding the new things.
Good for you! It’s really hard to let go of relationships, toxic or not, and you’re taking good steps!
You’re going to go through all the stages of grief, and that’s ok. Try to rediscover who you are without him, do the things you didn’t do together and try new things! Fall in love with the most important person in your love: YOU!
>I need assurance I did the right thing please
Hard to say without knowing details.
Not wallowing in the past is always a good idea
When two people spend a lot of time together, they kind of become a binary individual. The experiences you both go through are remembered by both, but each one has a slightly different memory.
The two build themselves together, overlapping or reinforcing the memories.
And when break ups happen… that binary is ripped apart. Healthy relationship or unhealthy, the split is painful because now there are experiences from or own memories that are less. Those memories were carried by two people. Now those two are far apart.
It’s rough. Good luck!