Unfortunately I’ve never had the chance to kiss a girl at my age (32M). I’m quite hideous I’ve never really been attractive enough for it (always get rejected whenever I pursued women). I have plenty of women friends but I’m not easy on the eyes.
What does it feel like? Is it warm, wet?
Thanks
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Unfortunately I’ve never had the chance to kiss a girl at my age (32M). I’m quite hideous I’ve never really been attractive enough for it (always get rejected whenever I pursued women). I have plenty of women friends but I’m not easy on the eyes.
What does it feel like? Is it warm, wet?
Thanks
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A lot like the second, third, fourth…
Softer than you think, and not sweet like sugar but definitely in that train.
I hope that you find someone who pursues you and loves you authentically, brother.
Soft, wet but not dripping lol, intimate, it brings a feeling of closeness with the right person.
The first kiss with a new girl is always exciting. It’s a new person, tensions are high, desire is high, and you wonder how she kisses.
Except when you’re pissed drunk. Then it’s just another number in the book.
O.o I was curious to know how ugly it would be for this to be true.
Bro your face is just an aspect of you. There’s a lot more you can offer that will atract women. Go study, get a good paying job, start working on yourself like gym and dieting, volunteer in dog shelters… diversify and try to be interesting to be talked to. Your life should lit peoples faces when your face doesnt, as harsh as that sounds. Do you have abs? Go to the gym and start a caloric deficit. Do you earn well? Go study and get a high paying job/a job that has respect like a lawyer or doctor. Also, are you trying to date 10’s or 3 or 4’s? Hell, have you looked up on plastic surgery? its crazy what doctors can change in a face. I know its not what you asked, but these are my two cents.
Your other posts haven’t helped? You could ask ChatGPT and get similar responses.
To offer something are you going after attractive women? You self identify as hideous so if research is what you seek maybe ask out someone hideous?
It feels like flipping downwards into Dire Dire Docks
Finding out for yourself will be a lot better than hearing about it on Reddit
A kiss feels.good, it feels warm..you connect with a person. You look into their eyes and feel warm. Atleast thats how i experience it
The first kiss.. ah, let me bring you back to my memory lane. We were both 15. I crushed on her for months. We developed contact and started going on walks together in the evenings. I had butterflies in my stomach. We held hands. Just two innocent souls, feeling romance for the first time. At one of our evening walks we sat down at a spot. I looked into her eyes. I touched her hands. We didn’t say anything. I looked at her, and she at me. You know that moment right before the kiss, where both of you know what will happen next, but you feel the tension of the moment, the silence right before… We had that moment. And then I leaned in, looked at her lips and kissed her.
It was such a new experience. Her lips were soft. It was wet, sweet, and tender, and we made out. It lasted maybe a minute or two. I liked it. She liked it. I looked at her again, feeling every butterfly in my stomach bursting up. A moment in time I will romanticize and cherish until the day I leave this earth.
First few tasted like cigarettes but still nice
It depends, but some of us have too weird a context for it than to think of it as romantic in any way possible… ‘First kiss’ will always be just that weird for me 😅
what’s a kiss/kiss?
No one is hideous. Some men just don’t know how to take care of themselves. Hygiene, good grooming and knowing how to dress counts. Work on your personality and character too and I’m pretty sure you’ll find a nice woman. 🫶🏼
My first kiss was soft and tender. Very sweet. I miss her.
It doesn’t feel like a magic it feels normal ..depends on the intimacy that follows
I won’t say what it’s like, since it’s different for everyone. But you saying you are hideous is not helping your situation. You are someone’s child, you are someone’s baby, respect yourself man. Put your chin up, stop saying you are hideous. Be kind, be helpful, be funny, be sympathetic, be courteous and well mannered and I guarantee you will find someone that loves you for those things more than your looks. Nothing would make a parent more proud than someone who has a daughter that’s dating a man that has those characteristics that I mentioned, on top of that, someone that loves her and respects her. What good is it to date a good looking man if they might treat her terribly or not respect her? Start with a wardrobe change and work on the rest as you go. Hygiene and wardrobe go a long way. Start with changing shoes, then pants/trousers, then shirts. That way the change isn’t drastic and you avoid the comments about your wardrobe change that can make you feel uncomfortable. Love yourself like your friends and family love you. You are worthy of being loved and respected. I hope you find your partner in life soon.
Only been kissed, truly kissed, once. It was quite a rush and momentarily cured my chronic ED I’ve been suffering from since I was 19.
It feels alright, I’ve never really enjoyed it. In the end it’s skin, I’ve always been a minority with this opinion though.
Come on, I know ugly guys who have had girlfriends. It the loser mentality that is stoping you.
Mine was shit. Mostly cause I lied to him that I kissed someone before cause Inwas ashamed and he called my bluff and told me tomorrow that I’m weird and that he wants a “mature” gf. But then a year later I met another guy and told him the truth and we ended up kissing all the time and it was amazing. So I guess in your case it’s best to just say you don’t like kising and don’t go there considering your age but if it happens happens.
Some people never learn how to swim. Maybe they let go of the side once or twice and almost drowned, so they never tried again. Some don’t have the confidence to paddle. Some thrash about wildly and get nothing but tired. Sure, athletes have advantages. But learning to swim just requires the determination to keep trying. Determination and good hygiene. But swimming isn’t necessary for a fulfilling life either.
Don’t over think it..just go with it and it will be awesome
It feels like gravity forgot its job for a second. Like your soul leaned forward before your body did.
Wet
It felt uncomfortable, I mean I am comfortable with my man but still the first kiss is always a little awkward, shyness is always there
My first kiss kinda sucked. It happened when a very drunk girl hugged and kissed me out of nowhere. I don’t really remember much of how it felt physically, but I do remember being incredibly confused and not knowing how to react because I didn’t see it coming at all. Overall the entire situation made me feel very uncomfortable.
my first kiss was with someone who used tongue. it was awesome
My first kiss for me was electric. I had so many butterflies and I couldn’t get the memory of the feeling out of my head. We had been talking and hanging out for ages and there was a crazy amount of tension. We both knew we liked each other and were both too shy to do anything for months. She was so soft, smelled great, had beautiful eyes.
I’m really grateful I had gradual progression from flirting to first kiss, all the way to sex. It built everything up in a positive way for me.
Initially I wasn’t very good at kissing, but we learned what we both liked and didn’t like. I’ve similarly had good and bad kisses since for various reasons (tension, experience of smell, pressure, accidents like bumping teeth). Kissing now varies, it can range from a quick peck for routine all the way to passionate. The feelings you have for the person and tension you build are what make it. I have to remind myself to not be all stoic or think about what others think of you because it takes away from what is a good experience.
Cripes, you need some confidence, friend. Until you start to appreciate yourself more, you’re in no state to find someone to love. I hope things turn around for you.
Good lord holy hell
Nervous. Clicking teeth accidentally. Having to reposition your nose. Soft lips that feel nice. Definitely a fan. You feel light headed afterwards. You quickly figure things out.
Edit: Have you thought about going to Nevada or Europe where escorts are legal and regulated? I know that’s not everyone best scenario. But you could get over your nerves and I am sure the escort would be sympathetic to your situation.
absolute cinema 10/10 would recommend
Marshmallows.
I’m not going to answer your question but I just want to state. I myself am a pretty ugly guy compared to most men. I have however still had my first kiss later in my life (I was 26 at the time). It is not too late for it to still happen my guy but your self esteem is going to be the death of you. Even if you feel like you are ugly you should at least go ahead and try meeting a potential partner anyway. You don’t need to make it a core focus of your life it can just be a thing you do on the side but at the very least it would be better than entirely giving up. People who are not very attractive still managed to get into relationships and marriage. It’s going to be hard but if you at least are a friendly guy and willing to engage in conversations with women and show you are genuinely interested in what they have to say you will be surprised what life gives you. We may be ugly my friend but we cannot give up.
I envy you all…
I felt nothing…and still feel nothing. Yes, I feel the physical contact. But if I have to rate the “pleasure”…I would give it a one out of a ten.
I have two colleagues who are totally fine looking men in their 40s, but have no self confidence and have never kissed a girl either (well one guy kissed one girl but is also a virgin).
Neither are bad looking, but both have such shattered confidence with women that they think they are not appealing. So they don’t date, they don’t try to date, and have accepted that they’ll never date.
I wish I could help them since they’re decent dudes and absolutely are not as unappealing as they think they are.
Sorry, just realized this didn’t answer the kissing question. But I hope you eventually can develop your confidence to a level where you absolutely will be appealing to someone.
My first kiss was hilariously terrible, with an excessive amount of sloppiness that I cringe thinking about now. But kissing varies wildly from person to person that you kiss.