So basically, I was using my GFs phone the other day to take pictures of something because my phones camera is terrible and I found recent nudes on her camera roll that she never sent to me. I think she might be messaging and sending them to other guys.
We have been together for about 4 years now and I’ve always trusted her before, but now I’m more sceptical as I have noticed she has started to be a bit shady when she’s on her phone.
Is there a way to find out if she has any secret social media or dating accounts that she’s talking to other guys on?
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Don’t trust her? Break up
You don’t need “proof” that you are unhappy and you do not sound happy
Idk maybe just ask her about them? Gauge if you’re satisfied with the response and see if you wanna continue the relationship?
Yeah, so being shady yourself is not a great plan. Either you trust her or you don’t. Maybe she is, or maybe she took them but then decided she wasn’t sure she wanted to share them. Who knows? She does. Talk to her. If you’re 4 years in and feeling like you have to sneak around and can’t have a conversation then you really need to evaluate where you’re both at…
My only question is if you are actually telling the truth and that matters a lot for the advice anyone can give you here, like I find it hard to believe that your GF would just let you use her phone to take pictures knowing that she cheated if that was the case.
Then you say she has started to be a bit more shady using her phone but she was okay with you checking her camera roll?
Idk something doesn’t add up.
I’m not saying this to call you a liar or something, I’m just saying that there should be more details and context in order for us to give you a more accurate advice.
The “break up” comments are entirely unhelpful, but there’s been some insightful things said so far nonetheless:
I wish you luck friend!
so you search through your GF phone, ascribe a shady reason for something, then try to crowd source a way to intrude even more on a person who has done nothing….how about you reveal your account to everyone, so we can see how shady that is? just talk to your partner first. dont become the shady one over some imaginary reason.
ps. I have forty pictures of my bussy, and 37 of my penis..you gotta take a Buch to find a good one…I usually send the ones where I get a ‘mini’ soda can and place either of my assets next to it? you think a penis looks huge in a tiny hand? try next to a tiny soda can..I used a miniature Statue of Liberty once but that just seemed fake for some reason…One time someone said in person” that doesnt look nearly as big as the pic” and I went “it the angle, you have to see it from below”, then I whacked him with the bussy, when he went to check.
Best to handle it in a way that’s consistent with the kind of relationship you want – so ask her directly, without accusing or shouting.
Women take nudes all the time
Not to share
Just to feel confident in themselves
Plus we all know we’re never going to look this good again as aging hits us like a freight train
Little memento to remember how hot we once were
I’m pretty good at finding people if you want DM me
If she has an iPhone, go to her settings, then battery, and at the bottom of that report will show you which apps she is using if its greater than 1% of time. If she is actively cheating, then the app she uses will be listed there.
You can also go somewhere else in iPhone and turn on App Usage Reports and it will generate a thorough report. I can’t remember how to due that.
Take a deep dive in all her electronics: phone, iPad, emails, everything. IF she’s cheating she’ll NEVER admit it. So you have to go rogue. After a 4 year relationship there should be nothing to hide anyway. Don’t forget to check deleted folders as well. As well as histories. Second phones. There will be signs.
If she is cheating it will likely be there.
she selling content, how do you think you got those new jorts