I broke up with my ex/kid’s father about 6 months ago. The breakup has been the best thing for me ever, not exaggerating at all. He was an angry man who spent about 85% of our interactions either yelling or angry at someone or something. It was ruining me, I was diagnosed with depression and had severe anxiety and I’m proud that I left because now I finally have a peaceful, loving home.
I recently got reconnected with an old coworker who I have been spending a lot of time with. My ex found out and is now losing it. For the past 2 months, nearly everyday he has sent me about 100+ messages a day just saying things like I ruined my family, that he will make sure to tell the kids how evil I am, calling me names, saying he hates me etc. But the hate texts turn into texts about how much he loves me. Then he starts saying he wants to die and says if he dies its my fault.
Today it has been nonstop panic attacks and I don’t deny that he has anxiety. He has severe anxiety. But I have probably at least 200 texts to where he is giving me a play by play about his attacks. “My chest hurts, im dying, I cant breathe, this is your fault, im dizzy, I need your help, im scared, and I need you.”
I CANT HELP HIM! Can I ? I’m becoming so angry at these texts. I could block him but we also have kids together. Idk what to do.
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Get a co-parenting app and only communicate about the kids
Nope, you’re smart for not falling for it.
Tell him you’ll be contacting the police for an immediate welfare check. I’d also ask to make a report to document this harassment, because this is harassment.
Yep, welfare check. Call the bluff. I don’t think these are panic attacks.
Get a coparenting app to communicate about the kids and block him. He is also bluffing and is not going to hurt himself.
If he continues to threaten to hurt himself call emergency services to do a welfare check on him and call his bluff.
You need to get a restraining order. You have more than enough to do so. They will see it up so that he’s not allowed to get in touch with you except through a third party whose job it is to do this in situations like this. It’s probably going to end with him being put on an involuntary psych hold but you cannot bring this into your child’s life. Get an attorney after you get the order of protection. You aren’t qualified to help him and your child definitely has no business being alone with him.