I (f34) have been in a relationship for almost 4 years with my current bf (m33). We live together in Germany and have been fighting over the last couple months to the point that we decided the best was for me to leave 2 weeks to Spain(where my family lives) to think if the relationship is worth saving and what both of us need to change in order to be together.
After arriving in Spain, i realized that he was sharing his location with me via his iphone since many weeks and he didn’t realize. Since we are not talking to each other to give space for thinking, i didn’t tell him that i can see his location. Fast forward to now i have been watching how he is going every 2-3 days to the same residential area, picks up someone, goes to a bar and then goes back to the same residential area and stays for over an hour there before driving back home.
I have to go back to Germany to live with him in 10 days, but i already know now that he is cheating based on his location sharing.. Can anyone give me advice how is best to break up/ what to say / what to do? So that he regrets everything?
im currently really heartbroken about it and do not know what to do about it.
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There is nothing to explain if its CHEATING. Just leave the guy and focus on yourself.
Girl. Don’t say shit. Just pack your stuff and leave. If you live in Berlin I will help you.
It could be his friend? And he just having a drink and then chilling at this place before going home. Probably talking to him about if he should save the relationship. The only way to know is to go to the location and see who is there?