Hi guys
I (20F) have been with my boyfriend (22M) for a few years now. We live together, and our relationship is strong. I love him deeply, and I’ve learned so much being with him because we come from really different backgrounds. I grew up in the Middle East, and he’s Black from Nigeria.
The issue is with his parents. They’re very open about sex, in a way that honestly shocks me. It’s not just casual comments about intimacy — they’ll actually ask us direct questions about our sex life. For example
His mom once asked me,Do you feel satisfied with him, or do you need him to slow down sometimes?
His dad has said Y’all are young. How many times a week do you usually go at it?
And once his mom even asked Are you two being careful with protection, or like are you on pills?
They don’t say it in a rude or judgmental way it’s very matter-of-fact, like they see it as their responsibility to make sure we’re healthy and stable as a couple. My boyfriend doesn’t think it’s weird because he grew up in that environment, where sex was talked about openly and without shame.
But for me, it’s incredibly uncomfortable. In my culture, sex is private even married couples would never discuss these things with their parents. So when his mom or dad bring it up so casually, I freeze. I usually smile awkwardly or try to change the subject, but inside I feel so out of place.
I don’t want to offend them, because I know it comes from love, but I also don’t want to keep pretending I’m fine with conversations that cross my comfort zone.
I just want to if this is normal or im overreacting
I just don’t how to deal with it so id appreciate any help..