Thanks to everyone who took the time out to reply in my previous 2 posts btw. Really appreciate it.
1st and foremost – I didn’t get that job. Got a call from my old client contact to say they’re going to try and cope with the resources they have in house for the foreseeable future and see if it’s a success. But he stressed they thought I was great, I’m the sort of person they’d recruit if they were going to recruit so he said he’d keep my CV and details on file and if it doesn’t work 6-12 months from now, I’d be first on the list for an interview. I personally think it’s all a load of bollocks and I’ll never hear from him again so if I do, I’ll eat my own arse.
I’ve also been applying for more jobs. One, a recruitment agent rang me about and it seemed promising but as typical UK recruitment agent bullshit, they then contacted me back not long after saying they didn’t go for me but they’d keep my details on file, get in contact if there’s anything suitable etc etc. Everything else is no good – either for less money or if it is ok, too far away in the country to even commute realistically. But I’m keeping my eyes open, and am very selective.
I’ve checked out at work now and am doing the basics – I’ve had enough now, just don’t want to be here anymore. I’m doing the minimum this week and also doing my contracted Hours – getting in on time, leaving on time, having my exact lunch break and not eating at my desk. People keep on asking me if I’m ok, I’ve just said yeah I’m fine. Also asking for my usual dad jokes as it’s been a couple of weeks and I’ve said I don’t have any.
Our department deputy manager (Big Boss’ deputy, not recently promoted colleague) came back from holiday Monday and was talking to us all and they mentioned about this work experience person who’s coming in next month and she said the plan was for her to sit with me for the time she’s with us and get me to show her things, Train her etc. I said no, I don’t think I’m comfortable with it and to get her to sit with someone else. She said why and I said to chat with our manager/newly promoted colleague about it. She just went quiet and I didn’t hear anymore (manager has been working from home so I haven’t seen him).
Also, we’ve been taking in some different work from the whole restructuring thing and there’s this one task/procedure we’re going to have to do – a few people in my team were talking about it including promoted colleague. Instantly, I knew the sorts of things we should do – create a new database/spreadsheet, get IT to write particular codes, write this sort of report to use and have people check in a certain way. But I kept quiet. Didn’t say anything. Someone asked me “what do you think, this is right up your alley this?” I just said no idea, I think management should look at it. Which kind of ended my input in the conversation.
Promoted colleague is now starting to train with the deputy in the tasks that she’s going to take over from her and the manager in the restructure. Also she’s been included in the teams managers calls/meeting. And I’ve seen it all in front of me. Feels like rubbing salt into the wound.
I also didn’t go to the celebratory meal that was held to celebrate promoted colleagues promotion last night – deputy manager and another colleague who’s been on holiday too decided to book something as soon as they heard about the promotion and said we need an excuse to do something social. I said no, it’s my Karate class and I’m not missing a lesson and people were going no come, don’t be a Grinch, you can miss a lesson mate and weren’t really giving me an opportunity to say no so I said I’ll see what I can do (and we’re at me all week) – and then I just didn’t turn up. I had a few WhatsApp messages in the work group chat and texts but I said sorry, can’t leave my class early. I just guarantee they’d be bitching about me, lol.
It’s my WFH day today myself and I’ve not heard from anyone this morning yet, not even to ask me any questions. I think people are catching on now. I dare say when I’m back in next week and manager is in the office, I’ll probably be having a sit down with him and the deputy and have another “chat”. Look forward to it (not), lol.
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Thanks to everyone who took the time out to reply in my previous 2 posts btw. Really appreciate it.
1st and foremost – I didn’t get that job. Got a call from my old client contact to say they’re going to try and cope with the resources they have in house for the foreseeable future and see if it’s a success. But he stressed they thought I was great, I’m the sort of person they’d recruit if they were going to recruit so he said he’d keep my CV and details on file and if it doesn’t work 6-12 months from now, I’d be first on the list for an interview. I personally think it’s all a load of bollocks and I’ll never hear from him again so if I do, I’ll eat my own arse.
I’ve also been applying for more jobs. One, a recruitment agent rang me about and it seemed promising but as typical UK recruitment agent bullshit, they then contacted me back not long after saying they didn’t go for me but they’d keep my details on file, get in contact if there’s anything suitable etc etc. Everything else is no good – either for less money or if it is ok, too far away in the country to even commute realistically. But I’m keeping my eyes open, and am very selective.
I’ve checked out at work now and am doing the basics – I’ve had enough now, just don’t want to be here anymore. I’m doing the minimum this week and also doing my contracted Hours – getting in on time, leaving on time, having my exact lunch break and not eating at my desk. People keep on asking me if I’m ok, I’ve just said yeah I’m fine. Also asking for my usual dad jokes as it’s been a couple of weeks and I’ve said I don’t have any.
Our department deputy manager (Big Boss’ deputy, not recently promoted colleague) came back from holiday Monday and was talking to us all and they mentioned about this work experience person who’s coming in next month and she said the plan was for her to sit with me for the time she’s with us and get me to show her things, Train her etc. I said no, I don’t think I’m comfortable with it and to get her to sit with someone else. She said why and I said to chat with our manager/newly promoted colleague about it. She just went quiet and I didn’t hear anymore (manager has been working from home so I haven’t seen him).
Also, we’ve been taking in some different work from the whole restructuring thing and there’s this one task/procedure we’re going to have to do – a few people in my team were talking about it including promoted colleague. Instantly, I knew the sorts of things we should do – create a new database/spreadsheet, get IT to write particular codes, write this sort of report to use and have people check in a certain way. But I kept quiet. Didn’t say anything. Someone asked me “what do you think, this is right up your alley this?” I just said no idea, I think management should look at it. Which kind of ended my input in the conversation.
Promoted colleague is now starting to train with the deputy in the tasks that she’s going to take over from her and the manager in the restructure. Also she’s been included in the teams managers calls/meeting. And I’ve seen it all in front of me. Feels like rubbing salt into the wound.
I also didn’t go to the celebratory meal that was held to celebrate promoted colleagues promotion last night – deputy manager and another colleague who’s been on holiday too decided to book something as soon as they heard about the promotion and said we need an excuse to do something social. I said no, it’s my Karate class and I’m not missing a lesson and people were going no come, don’t be a Grinch, you can miss a lesson mate and weren’t really giving me an opportunity to say no so I said I’ll see what I can do (and we’re at me all week) – and then I just didn’t turn up. I had a few WhatsApp messages in the work group chat and texts but I said sorry, can’t leave my class early. I just guarantee they’d be bitching about me, lol.
It’s my WFH day today myself and I’ve not heard from anyone this morning yet, not even to ask me any questions. I think people are catching on now. I dare say when I’m back in next week and manager is in the office,
I’ll probably be having a sit down with him and the deputy and have another “chat”. Look forward to it (not), lol.
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Man I totally understand, that was two people who were supposed to be on your side who treated you like you were disposable and now everyone’s expecting you to eat shit and like it. Don’t do anything so bad that it might affect you getting a better spot somewhere better but I don’t blame you at all for checking out. Good luck.
Edit: Oh, and that fuckin weasel trying to gaslight you into doing extra work for some other fictional promotion is just the shitty cherry on the turd cake, also.
Yep totally don’t blame you for checking out. I hope your new job search goes well and you can get the hell out of there soon! Best of luck to you!
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I honestly don’t blame you at all for checking out. Keep doing the absolute minimum that your job requires. Don’t do anything outside of your job description. If someone asks you to do something, if it’s not in your job description just say “sorry, but I’m not qualified to do that.”
I think it’s smart of you to stick to your required job duties only, because cutting back on the extra should make it clear how much you’ve been taking on. However, I do think you should be careful around your coworkers. Reducing your workload is one thing but damaging workplace relationships is another especially if you’ll need references or if word of mouth holds weight in your industry.
Also, while your management has made it clear a promotion from them won’t be coming, a raise could. If they ask you to pick back up on your previous duties then you should consider picking them back up IF you are paid for them.
Look, I don’t think you’re wrong. You got screwed. But be careful. You don’t want to be perpetually salty. You can’t have it both ways – can’t act your wage and then get upset when they train her in front of you (of course they will).
IMO, you’ve had your sook, now act professional about it all. Yes, do what your contract says, but you’re not helping yourself long-term by constantly shitting on everything. People know you’re cut about it, and that’s normal, but if you keep it up people will get sick of your shit and have no sympathy for you.
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Just read all your posts and I sympathize. Keep your head down and I hope you find a better employment soon
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Man, keep doing your absolute best to get out of there. This place seems like a trap at this point.
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Hey dude, look it sucks.
But hey it’s a lesson learnt, there is no use wallowing. The more you fixate on it the harder it will be while you bide your time looking for another role. Chill, be sociable, but don’t stretch yourself. Ask to do maybe additional training that will prep you for roles outside the company. I.e. look at the role descriptions and see how you can tick them off on your companies dime.
I’ll put it bluntly, you are reinforcing their decision to get someone else in over you. No matter how you feel about it or how unjust.
Perhaps you can request for a DataCamp licence to learn how to code yourself so you don’t need IT to do it. Or at least know the structures to be able to know how it works.
You could then set something important up that won’t work without your constant debugging 😉
I can’t wait to hear about mental gymnastics from the colleague and manager next week.
Make sure they can’t fire you for anything.
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Send your resume to recruitment society. They really have a stash of high profiles that they are eager to put in places opening.
Also, consider therapy. You have been hit the hard way. It woke up past events ( like your previous job). You need to be mentally fit for your coming interviews. See it as doing gym to prepare a competition.
I have been there. I know. Your anger and sadness are legit. But if you stay in, the situation won’t evolve. Pay a shrink so you can scream at him, redefine your sun’s and your means, and take out unused talents that could make thd difference. You are never too rich, too armed or too prepared.
Remember : the best revenge is to live a happy life without them.
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