So I’m(16m) not very talkative. I have my handful of friends and acquaintances and I’m chill with that. New people seem to get awkward talking to me but I chalked that up to me being awkward myself but I guess thats not the case.
This girl started weaving her way into my friend group recently and she was nice enough so nobody really minded. She was pretty interested in being my friend which I thought was weird but didn’t question until we were at another friend’s house and she pulled me aside and got frustrated with me.
She said that she’d been nothing but nice and supportive so I should have told her about my scar by now?
I didn’t know what she meant and I told her that so she got pissed and left.
Turns out that I have a weird crease/line on thing across my neck just above my Adams apple? I hadn’t noticed it until now cause it’s not a scar it’s just always been there. I asked my other friends about it and they all said they thought it was a scar and told the new girl not to ask cause I had never told anyone about it?
Apparently this is a huge deal? Most of the people in my grade know me as the ‘scar guy’ and I don’t know what to do about it. How should I set this straight? cause I’m now finding out that some people are scared of me because of it and I don’t want that
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Man, that’s rough, tbh. Look, highschool’s a jungle – peeps get labels, rumors fly, shit happens. Your situation just got awkward coz of some dumb scar misunderstanding. Here’s the deal tho, own it! It’s not a scar, it’s your ‘badge of mystery’ or whatever. Flip the script, it’s only a big deal if YOU make it one. Next time someone asks, just chill and tell ’em it’s a birth mark or some alien imprint. Nbd. You’re more than ‘scar guy’, don’t let ’em forget that! šŖš
Just be honest with your friends. They are really the only ones that matter. In high school, it’s not necessarily bad to have people afraid of you, so they don’t mess with you or bully you.
Obviously, the girl was just trying to get the story to pass it around. Odds are the truth will come out anyway because one of your friends will leak it. At that point, it will shift, and people will know anyway.
Lol.. I am not laughing at the situation but just how innocent all this is compared to the real world. When I was your age I wasn’t aware that my entire school was scared of me.. it wasn’t until literally the very last day of my final year waiting to take my law exam when a male acquaintance said that there were a lot of guys interested in me throughout all 4 years but were scared to approach cause the entire school thought I was a witch. Mind you, I went to a Catholic school so we wore uniforms, not like I dressed a certain way.. but it was just my presence. I was both flattered but also sad cause I had crushes during my high school years and always thought that people thought I was a loser since they didn’t approach me.. not knowing I was just intimidating to them lol.
Be aware that your school experience will pass by in the blink of an eye.. so literally none of this will even matter. I say just own it.. if anyone asks tell them you were born with it and that’s it. You do NOT own anyone anything no matter how nice they are to you. If the girl just asked she would’ve gotten her answer.. but she seems to have thought that her kindness is gonna get her some answers that no one else knows about.. some kind of special VIP privilege.. which is toxic of her. Don’t even worry about it.. how people know you as doesn’t reflect on who you actually are.. it’s just human nature to always label things, so just be yourself and focus on the things that matter to you.
Honestly? Own it. āScar guyā sounds kinda badass even if itās not a scar.
My sister had a weird line across her neck and they all told me mum cut her throatĀ
It was just a line on her neckĀ
Sounds cool š
this is your chance to make up some vigilante shit hahah
You could be called worse. Embrace it.
So if not a scar, a birthmark or something? If it’s prominent, maybe people were speculating. Just be honest with your friends, like tell them the truth, that it’s been there from birth and not a scar, and you never thought anything of it or whatever.
Make yourself a T-Shirt: It is not a scar, my body is just weird.
Or: No demon hunting scar, just born that way. Sorry.
You are akward, embrace it. Be the akward, nice and funny person. Life is a lot nicer when you accept your inner freak.
You seriously lucked into one of the coolest “behind your back” nicknames possible.
Just play into it. Kinda cringe for them to be going on about it at that age but the best way to handle these things is just to be chill about it and any malicious actors will simply lose interest once they see it doesn’t get a rise out of you
Time to make up a good story
I have a huge scar running across my skull from my hsirline. You are just more interesting. Own it
You need to come up with like twenty crazy stories about how you got it. Tell every person something different. I agree Own it.
I mean that sound extremely minor and those people sound weird af for caring or even thinking about it lmfao. But Iād just own it I guess? Scars are cool.
Well…..if it is natural then it would be a “mark” you got naturally through birth or it can be your genetics that you got this from your one of the parents/ grandparents it can be anything and if it doesn’t hurt from when it is their then it is just a mark i my self help ” scar type line marks all over rmy back and when i do pull ups it looks clean but not too intense as it is my genetics confirm by Dr.)
Fuck it man just make up some crazy story at this point. Say you were held at knife point as a kid in a mugging and they tried to slit your throat but you survived and now you are tracking them down for vengeance
Some kids walked up to me in the apartment complex I live in while I was working on my jeep and said I was known as the ābisexual beastā complete confused to what ever that means lmao help me questioning if I look like a Dyke or not lmao
Iād tell/show my friends and that particular girl this post
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Leave it at that. We are self conscious about our looks and how people see us. Ok.
Itās really nothing! I know it feels like something.
Itās nothing.
Why do you have to do something lol? People will talk nonsense, thats human nature. Just focus on your own stuff.
Own it!
Donāt ever tell anyone the story about how you narrowly avoided death by one of your areas most notorious kingpinsā¦
But, seriously, donāt make anything up or lead anyone on, but, just tell folks you donāt talk about it and leave it at that.
Could be worse. You could be Lil bitch boi. Scar guy is cool so just roll with it. Make an interesting back story…”you should’ve seen the other guy.”
“knife fight” roll with it kid!
They’re all afraid to ask you. They probably think that you tried to cut your own throat. Hope that that wasn’t the case. Good luck.
Just be straightforward and chill about it. You can say something like, āItās not actually a scar, just how Iām built, no big deal.ā Most people will drop it once itās clear itās nothing weird or scary. Donāt overthink it, confidence makes it normal fast.
Yeah, this is not my original body.