How do you handle people who never admit they’re wrong? It can be frustrating when every conversation turns into them defending themselves no matter what. What’s the best way to deal with that kind of mindset without getting dragged into endless arguments?
How do you deal with people who never admit they’re wrong?
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I provide irrefutable evidence they’re wrong, failing that, I cut them loose.
Parents, huh?
Understand that they have low IQ and treat them as such. So, with extra care and kindness but don’t spend too much time around them.
Stop dealing with them. You know they don’t admit the truth. Waste of time.
Never wrong, but right again 😏 muhahahaha
I have a very simple strategy: I don’t deal with them; I stay away.
Not taking responsibility for your own mistakes is a HUGE turn-off for me. I’d avoid having any kind of relationship with such a person.
I just try not to indulge
“Never argue with stupid people. They have years of experience and they will best you with it”… to loosely quote mark twain
Make peace with the fact that everything that ever happened or will happen in the future is your fault. It’s not them being naive or less than human, it’s their mind’s only mechanism from not losing their marbles.
Was married to one, we’re on and off since she was 16 and me 20.
Narcissist are never wrong. Their version of reality is it period. One of the hallmarks is never ever apologizing and defending themselves even when they’re so wrong it’s laughable many will blame you for their behavior or lie and say it never happened like that or even at all. There’s no point in trying their feelings are the only feelings that count that’s because in their universe there’s only them. This is a mental health disorder with no treatment no drugs that will ever fix it. I decided to no longer deal with abusive people like this because they are emotionally and psychologically abusive. Diced to love and value yourself and leave them.
I don’t discuss.
The second time, I am interrupted or I receive a ” yes but”, I stop talking. Not my circus, not my monkeys.
The audience will know. And the future will tell. My fire extinctions will be ready for their incendiary moves.
Walk away. You will never win with someone who always plays the victim.
I eventually learned to set boundaries and limit my interactions. Depending on the relationship, I recommend setting boundaries with them. If it’s a friendship or romantic relationship, I’d bail and move on.
TL;DR: You’re dealing with someone who can’t handle being wrong, and honestly, that’s exhausting for everyone around them.
I totally get how draining this is. You probably feel like you’re walking on eggshells or just avoid bringing up certain topics altogether, right? The thing is, you can’t actually make someone admit they’re wrong – that’s an internal thing they have to work on themselves. What you can control is how much energy you put into these conversations.
My approach? Don’t take the bait. When they start getting defensive, you can just say something like “okay, we see it differently” and move on. It’s not giving up or letting them “win” – it’s just refusing to waste your time on someone who’s not interested in actually having a real conversation. Save your energy for the people who can handle disagreement like adults.
Is this happening with someone you have to deal with regularly, like family or a coworker? Because that definitely changes how you’d want to handle it.
Deeper lens: it may be a shadow part asking to be heard kindly.
You can’t force someone to admit fault the real power move is knowing when to disengage. Protect your peace instead of proving a point.
Just walk away. You are wasting your time talking to them. Just watch them from afar and laugh at them when they found out they are wrong.
You cut em loose and let them spiral into their fantasy world. Eventually they’ll get themselves into a corner they can’t escape, and it’s not fun to be around them when they do.
Compassion
Ignore them, you can never force them to admit they are wrong. For example trying to change views of person that was imposed by propaganda.
“Ok 👍” is the best way
I make them explain their logic like I’m five. I just keep at that. Make em draw a map. Explain it five times while you’re watching the steam curly-q from their ears. Record if you can. Shit is hilarious. Every time they ask if you understand them, parrot it back wrong somehow. Watch them blow a gasket. They stop fighting and debating you after you do this a couple times.
I don’t talk to them. Unless it’s my boss, I get paid to deal with that.
Lol. I simply don’t engage. I worked him/her out for the argument and just give a noncommittal nod that obviously doesn’t believe him. Sometimes with a shrug. That’s my passive-aggressiveness.
✂️ .. only way. My sister was one of them. So much negativity and toxic energy. I couldn’t handle it anymore. She’s no longer in my life and it’s been great
Gently explain what they did was wrong by asking questions. “Why are you angry? Who made that decision?“
I had a close friend who I hadn’t seen for some years due to all kinds of life things. We decided to go on a trip together for a few months, do voluntary work on farms and pick up our old friendship that had lasted for 25 years. First farm we arrived at, we were asked to build a concrete water basin, and as I had never done that before, I looked up some things on concrete. Found out that the drier you make the mixture, the harder the end result gets (up to a certain point) but the harder it is to work it.
So I ask my friend about this, how to find the optimum for our project, and he says it’s not true, that however much water you mix in, it becomes equally hard. I show him the video of the civil engineer with 25 years under his belt who not only says what I said, but also shows it using an experimental setup. My friend realizes that he can’t keep up his story, and says that that is exactly what he had been saying, and that I had been twisting his words.
These kinds of things kept happening. He would say something, I would bring counter-proof from a serious authority, and he would switch sides and say I was wrong for not listening to him. I realized he was constantly gaslighting me, and that he was a raging narcissist. I killed the friendship, and good riddance. Narcissists are the worst.
Just categorize them in my mind as a horses ass.
The unteachable are their own worst enemy. Leave them alone if they won’t listen.