this is an update of my orginal post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1n96aqu/comment/ncle4rx/?context=1
So I took everyone’s advice and went to talk to my sister in her room. It was really messy in there and as soon as I walked in she gave me this glare. I told her I needed to talk and laid it out straight: she needs to get a job, split rent, buy her own food, and actually respect me if she wants to keep staying here. Otherwise, she’s out.
She definitely did not expect me to say that. She started going on about how I “can’t do this to her,” that she’s still trying to heal from her breakup, that she can’t live with mom and dad, and that there’s no way she’s paying to stay at my place. I told her fine, then consider herself evicted, and that she needed to have her stuff packed and be gone first thing in the morning. She kept yelling, but I just ignored her and went back to my room.
I don’t know if she’s packing right now, but I already called my parents and told them to expect her tomorrow. My mom actually understood where I was coming from and said my dad will be here in the morning to help.
Update two will be here in this same post after she hopefully moves out. Thanks to everyone who gave me advice, because I don’t think I would’ve made this decision on my own, but I’m glad I did.
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yeah, she’s giving herself an excuse to just wallow. You’re probably helping her by expecting her to be an adult. Hope your parents do the same, for her own good.
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Good job! Dealing with manipulative users can be really hard.
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Yay! Good job OP!!!
How is this grown woman continuously failing to comprehend FAFO? Good on you OP, I hope it doesn’t take too long to get your home back to normal.
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Look at you with your shiny spine! Your sister needs to grow up.
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Your sister needs tough love right now
She wants everyone to give her a pass
She wants to play the victim
She’s not the victim
Send her the links to your posts. Let her read them
I think she needs to understand that nobody feels bad for her and that she did this to herself
It sucks, but she needs to grow up
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I don’t know all of the backstory here, but in most jurisdictions, you can’t give someone a 24 hour eviction.
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Why is she so upset? She was cheating on the guy, it’s not like she liked him that much.
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!remind me in 2 days
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good. as a backup put it in writing that you want her out
Good job.
Whatever happens, keep in mind, it is *NOT* your fault.
She fucked up (or around) and found out, whatever happens is her responsibility, you’ve already helped more than enough.
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Great job OP! UpdateMe!
👏👏👏
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I’m glad it went this way and you’re getting her out of your space, even though it must have been a difficult decision for you. The disdain she had for her multiple options that would leave her very much not homeless, were quite entitled. Your sister should (hopefully) be ok when she gets her head out of her butt someday.
Just a suggestion, when dealing with crazy family members, lock down your credit (it is isn’t already). Easy to do, and sadly soooo many people find out later that those they have trusted end up with sticky fingers when told “No, the gravy train has stopped”.
Added measure of precaution for your peace of mind, ya know?
Wishing the best in this difficult situation.
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Your sister is upset that there are consequences to her actions. She doesn’t feel remorse for cheating, she’s upset that she got dumped because she felt her ex should just tolerate it, and she’s upset that being dumped means she’s now homeless.
She’s upset you haven’t been coddling her because it is again more consequences. She’s upset she has to leave because it’s more consequences. She doesn’t feel bad, she’s just upset that her actions are having negative consequences for her; if her ex had stayed with her, or if she could go be with the best friend who I suspect has also ditched her, she’d be happy as a clam. She’s boohooing because she wants to play victim, and she isn’t.
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