This is an update from at least a month ago. Long story short I have lived/ leased a property for two years and I had a girl there for two years living board free with her horse. I finally asked for it and after a tantrum she finally paid. Well my her ex boyfriends family paid her board, who happened to be my neighbors. She has caused so much damage and pain to everyone I absolutely disgusted. She had only paid for two months then moved off my property which is fine. However, I didn’t even know she was moving off until someone completely unrelated to everything told me that my neighbors were building her a loafing she, she didn’t even tell me until a week before the end of the month. So she moved onto my neighbors property. She didn’t go anywhere really and now she is using my arena for free. I texted her asking that she pay me an arena fee, again only $25 an hour (super cheap). Instead of talking to me she went over my head asked my neighbors to get involved and is threatening to bring my landlord into this mess. What the hell? I pay for my arena, clients pay to use my arena, and even my friends have paid me? So how is it fair to have her the only exception? Now I feel like a massive asshole cause now everyone is involved. Am I the asshole?
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This is an update from at least a month ago. Long story short I have lived/ leased a property for two years and I had a girl there for two years living board free with her horse. I finally asked for it and after a tantrum she finally paid. Well my her ex boyfriends family paid her board, who happened to be my neighbors. She has caused so much damage and pain to everyone I absolutely disgusted. She had only paid for two months then moved off my property which is fine. However, I didn’t even know she was moving off until someone completely unrelated to everything told me that my neighbors were building her a loafing she, she didn’t even tell me until a week before the end of the month. So she moved onto my neighbors property. She didn’t go anywhere really and now she is using my arena for free. I texted her asking that she pay me an arena fee, again only $25 an hour (super cheap). Instead of talking to me she went over my head asked my neighbors to get involved and is threatening to bring my landlord into this mess. What the hell? I pay for my arena, clients pay to use my arena, and even my friends have paid me? So how is it fair to have her the only exception? Now I feel like a massive asshole cause now everyone is involved. Am I the asshole?
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> I think I’m still the asshole for asking board. She has caused all this problem because I asked. I need advice on what to do
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NTA: this person has poor boundaries and has already exploited you. If I were you I’d just ban her from your arena, let her find someone else to harass you don’t need this drama.
NTA – to your point, this is standard so let her go to your landlord or, just cut off all access and be done with this person.
Sounds like girlfriend has found a con that works for her. She’s working all these people (mostly guys I’d bet) and not spending a dime out of her pocket and got OP feeling guilty too! Also, how did she go over your head via the neighbors? Are they your landlord??? I fail to see that connection.
You need to speak with your landlord! Did/ does she have an arrangement with your landlord to use the arena? Does your lease give you full control over the arena? INFO