My anxious attachment is bothering my boyfriend

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1, 17M (trans), am someone who has had an anxious attachment style, along with abandonment issues, my entire life. I have had relationships in the past that made living with these so much harder, and I would argue they’re my biggest struggle to this day.

Last month, my boyfriend (17M) brought up that my anxious attachment and codependency was extremely hard to deal with, and stated that I need to work on fixing them asap. I completely understand why and see the issue. However, I have absolutely no idea how to fix it, or how to even begin.

I’m worried my anxious attachment can’t be changed, since it’s something built in me from my childhood. I’m unsure what to do and what steps to take, and I’d greatly appreciate any and all advice.

tl;dr I need advice in fixing my anxious attachment style

Thank you 🙂

Comments

  1. RocinanteOPA Avatar

    You are kids. Stop using pop psychology internet buzzwords to try to create all these meaningless labels for yourself.

  2. Catbunny Avatar

    Therapy, if and when it is accessible.

  3. spac3ie Avatar

    How do you know if you have anxious attachment and abandonment issues if you haven’t been to a professional to diagnose you? I’m so confused.

  4. unilateral_sin Avatar

    You’d first have to explain what you mean by anxious attachment