I met this 18 year old girl on bumble, and we hit it off enough to go on a date. The date was fun, and we ended up back at my place where we hooked up, and she stayed the night. Since then, she’s been blowing up my phone. I asked her not to call me so much, and told her I’d text back when I had time since I’m busy with work and school. She got offended and sent me a long paragraph about her feelings.
Last week, I took her out and told her straight up that I don’t want a relationship. Her face turned red, and she just walked off. After that, she started blowing up my phone again, even sending me nudes and saying some pretty wild stuff. It was hot, but she wont stop. I blocked her number, but she kept making new ones to contact me.
Then today, I saw her outside my apartment, sitting in the grass waiting for me. She ran up and hugged me, asking if she could come inside. I told her no, and she slapped my arm before heading back to her car. That was about 20 minutes ago.
Hands down craziest situation I been in…. Need some advice how to handle this
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She’s crazy and she’s stalking you. Report her to the authorities, she crossed a very big line when she came outside your house. Even the unsolicited nudes were too much. Do something now. This ain’t normal, son.
Call the police, man. She’s straight up stalking you.
Report her for stalking
Ask her firmly if she understood clearly what you meant when you said you didn’t want a relationship with her and don’t give her any false hope. Tell her you’d report this to the police if her behaviour continues because it counts as harassment.
If all else fails, tell her that after the hook up with her, you discovered that you actually like guys more.
Sleeping with crazy can be a gift and a curse lol. Hooked up with someone at work that would tell me they love me after we’d hooked up a few times but then say she hates me if I helped anyone or the opposite sex. I worked in IT so it was a given to a get a support ticket.
Sex was good, headache was not. She moved on after she realized I wasn’t playing games and taking the bait on how she acted.
Seems like she’d be a nice FWB🤷🏽 some dudes would kill for this
The same advice I’d give a woman if the gender were reversed. Speak to your local police and make it known to them, if you haven’t already, make it blatantly clear you no longer want to contact them (literally say, in a text/email/writing of some sort that you do not want to contact or be contacted anymore and the relationship/fling has run its course) also inform them if they continue to try and contact you, you will involve the authorities.
Change your own number, I know it’s a hassle but mate at least that’s one less way they can contact you.
Keep all contact with them in writing and save it if required for the authorities.
Be prepared to get a restraining order/whatever it is in your state/country.
Never stick your dick in crazy unless you intend to keep crazy around
Get a RESTRAINING ORDER IMMEDIATELY
Grow up and stop hooking up with random people
At this point report her to the police, this is insane and illegal. Good Luck 👍💖
I have dates who tried to tracked me down and even trashed my front yard with whatever trash she had in her car. Another time a girl literately try to enter my place without consent and a friend stopped her from trying to enter my bedroom. Dating can be fun but definitely not with the crazies. I cherish more when my date is very boring and normal after all that.
File a report with police, change your phone number, make sure all your socials are privated, and consider a restraining order.
She’s stalking you in such a way that I don’t see this ending well for you unless you take the proper precautions.
That’s a stage 5 clinger
She has an ego problem… its less of her needing you, more of… why does he not want me? You probably the first to reject her which makes her go crazy over you and try to prove that you will break and be with her
No advice except this is why ya probably shouldn’t sleep together on the first date. You have to scope out the crazies first
Please report her. It’s important to show society these issues exists, how often it occurs and what to do.
I had a similar situation but I didn’t even sleep with this woman and she was trying to dox me.
Report stalking. Stay away. She’s trouble. Possibly psycho.
You wish!
I’ll bet the psych ward grip was almost worth it.
This is one easy. All you have to do is sleep with her again and she’ll go away!
You have a stalker. The persistence after blocking is cray, though blocking may not have been the best way to handle it….
What to do now depends on what you want. She appears to not respect boundaries or have poor impulse control which would make her a miserable partner long term. Apart from that, do you want to be her friend at all? I would stay away from FWB, because I suspect she is emotionally vulnerable….
What did your and her profiles say about what you each were seeking?
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(Aside… Now imagine if she weighed 50% more than you, was far stronger and in general people don’t take you seriously. This is why women are terrified when a man is this persistent. Sympathy for our sisters.)
Well she’s 18 her frontal cortex isn’t even fully developed yet. Call the police let her learn a lesson .
This is the “crazy” your father should’ve warned you not to stick your dick in
U learned your lesson. Don’t sleep with a girl on the first date. You thought you hit a home run when in fact you had a forced error in judgment.
“Sitting in the grass waiting for me”……
Like a leopard stalks its prey
You are being hunted
And this, OP, is why you ALWAYS need to use condoms.
Imagine this being your co-parent for life!
She wants you because you don’t want her, if you wanted a relationship she wouldn’t be interested, women☕
No sailor ever became good in calm waters….
Give the crazies a chance!
Grippy socks, grippy box!
I spent my 20’s dating this type of woman, got stabbed once, several near misses as well but the sex was AMAZING!
Your 18. Id enjoy the wildness for a bit.
Dude just fucking date her.
Maybe she can not really get over the fact you slept with each other, even feels guilty about it since it doesn’t match with her values when not being in a relationship or she feels slutty doing it without a severe bonding or similar. Now she overreacts because she doesn’t know how to handle her feelings.
We’ve all been there mate, we all that that one crazy woman somewhere in our lives.
That’s why you don’t got all out on the first hookup with a girl. Save it for the 2nd or 3rd time. Now she’s in love with the D .
Look up borderline personality disorder. Sound like her?
Going too fast with someone you don’t know is a slippery, slippery slope. 😳 She can’t be mad at you. She had sex with you before knowing what your expectations were. And you can’t be mad at her. You had sex with her before you knew her.
If you haven’t seen her drivers license, or other proof that she’s actually 18, I wouldn’t involve law enforcement.
Hopefully, she has a short attention span and she’ll be distracted by something shiny and new
I’m laughing right now but more laughing with you. I’m going to give you my best dad advice in situation. This is universal to the sexes…
I want you to think back to the moment before you hooked up and compare that to the look and behavior now. So, in retrospect… No matter how hot or charming they were, there was a moment you realized this could be dangerous. In other words, knowing what you know now, can you see the red flags in this person prior to making boom-boom?
Moving forward set a hard boundary that her showing up at your house unannounced along with some other unusual things she’s done makes you uncomfortable and to extent afraid of her. If she does weird stalker stuff again, set a firmer boundary my mentioning to her that you’re going to call the police and get her 86ed from Bumble if she continues to harass you.
I however, personally, well, I am a total hypocrite. I would lie my ass off in this situation. I would tell her that I’m deeply religious or secretly in love with a male coworker and that our Bumble affair has overwhelmed me with guilt and anxiety. Then I would start showing up unexpectedly at places I know she was going to be asking her why she’s cheating on me
Are you older than 18? Because 18 year olds are basically just legal teenagers…….
Introduce her to someone you don’t like much… 😁
Thank me later.
I’m so sorry that this is happening to you. This happened to me also but with a guy and it was genuinely scary. I had to call the police and make a report. they’ll warn her to stay away from you if you do make a report against her.. she’s stalking you which is harassment. You can definitely get a restraining order. use the text as proof also for harassment. Keep every single number she had to contact you also.
She did that because you slept with her again I guess, and you know her intentions from first and kept going, keep your d for real stuff
First hear me out stop sleeping with 18 year Olds. Treat your dick like a bar 21+ . Second file a police report for stalking and look into getting a restraining order.
Got a clinger, ha!
Don’t dick crazy
This is why we were taught not to meet strangers on the internet
Stop being that good in bed my man.
How was the sex?
You must have a magic stick.
“leave me alone or I am calling the police” and then call the police anyway
If you’re 26, why are you sleeping with teenagers?
Sure she is 18?
Don’t use women for sex
Welcome to crazy bro
She is in emotional rollercoaster. She feels overwhelmed. Let her cool down. I don’t know why in Reddit everyone is just so harsh.
Sounds like you have been doing okay so far, sorry to hear that it turned out wild lol (sorry not sorry for finding it a touch amusing when you said it was hot when it wasn’t that good behaviour)
Get back when it turns into a FWB. Cheers haha
Edit: also did anyone think the title combined with the opening he went back with her and ending with someone else? Cuz that was what I was expecting so it had a mini twist there whilst reading.
Okay but where does she rank on the crazy hot scale
Lucky
tell her you’re going to file a restraining order if she shows up again
Don’t stick your dick in crazy.
Some drown while others die of thirst
Send me her number I will go out with her
A restraining order lol
Grippy socks, grippy box lol
The sexual revolution has not been good for women
Sleep with crazy, don’t marry or date.
Call the police
She will baby trap you. Do not fuck her again.
Don’t stick your sausage in crazy LOL. All seriousness tho, you left a VERY good impression on her and she does NOT wanna let you go. Tread lightly bro
She sounds fun. I might be in love
Yikes!
Rule #1 set the expectations from the beginning!!!! Before you have sex.
Rule #2 not sure how old you are, but 18 years old are young and can fall in love super quick. (Avoid)
Rule #3 Maybe don’t sleep with the young ones first night. I don’t think they have all their emotions in check.
What to do, take the mature route.
Invite her out. Explain the reason WHY you don’t want a relationship with her or why you are not ready.
Help her understand it. Let her know what’s okay and what’s not okay. And let her know stalking is illegal and you don’t want to get the cops involved and you want to keep what every friendship peaceful
cant lie i would have folded when i saw her sitting on the grass😂😂😂
Scared for you.
Don’t underestimate the situation. It can get out of hand quickly
You got the Clingy one. First date sex and then they want to spend their life with you.
She is pregnant. Congrats, bro.
bangs a teenager as a 26 year old
teenager stalks you
“Stooop I’m going to reddit now instead of calling the police :(“
Dude why did u bang a teenager? She’s just turned legal, and you’ve been legal for 8 years. She probably still lives with her parents, and you’re old enough to BE a parent (to a young child, anyway).
Just call the police. Of course, unless banging teenagers sounds sick to them?
But, hey, who am I to judge. I’m on reddit. But still you’re disgusting.
Advice- stay away from those apps! lol
Lol so lesson learned.. never stick your dick in crazy..
Looks like Somebody got a stalker 😂
Threaten the police to here and contact them bc she’s taking this way to far that’s not okay nor safe
Shit marry her
“About 20 minutes ago” when you posted.
Wait another day or two. It sounds like she might have gotten the message this time.
But if you do hear from her again, follow the advice regarding stalkers in the other comments.
Crazy is great in the sack. Not for much else though. Next time wear your Groucho nose and glasses.
WHATS HER NUMBER??
You got yourself a baby reindeer situation
Dood just bring one of your cool friends who’s hot and rude over but is at least generally nice. Just see if you can pass her to the next home that’s cool and knows what she’s about.
Please don’t hate me but the D couldn’t have been that good 😭😭 please don’t cook me for being immature
That is why you don’t get into an intimate relationship until after it becomes committed.
Jesus, that sounds awful, I was once with the girl who had BPD literally told me she loved on the second date and would pick random fights with me for no reason and scream and junk at me, was absolutely terrible and narcissistic,
Maybe, as a 26 year old, you shouldn’t sleep with teenagers. There, problem solved.
(Yes, 18 is legal, still a teenager and still emotionally not an adult. Which works, when it’s two teenagers a lot better than this nonsense)
Did you really go after a barely legal Teen for a pump and dump?
You should report her!
marriage material, won’t see it coming. /s
idk how the bumping went down but she got it bad for you. prolly don’t wanna but like talk to her. ask questions about her and why she so mad on you. mayb sum might come up?
Can someone please enlighten me as to why people want this sorta obsessive gf and then when they actually get said obsessive of they immediately push her away.
The “blowing up my phone” posts are back! I remember when you would see that phrase in every single AI bot post. My advice is do not have sex with people you dont know.
Police won’t really do much about this. She has to do something illegal and you have to have proof. Ignore her and keep your boundaries. She’ll find someone new to torment.
Even if the authorities don’t do anything now, you NEED documentation!!! Report her ASAP! She could accuse you of stalking/assulting/raping her, and regardless of your country, it’s highly likely they’ll believe her word over your own (assuming you are, in fact, a man).
Love how you don’t mention being 26 and having an 8 year age gap with her.
You reap what you sow lmao
Don’t put your dick in crazy
19M here and I envy you lmao
(but why are you sleeping with teens?)
Run
Bro, are you gay by any chance ??
Just enjoy it, maybe sleep with Hera few more times
Block her. Be done.
Woah there.
She could be homeless too, I’ve seen this with other girls that behave that way, she is absolutely stalking you basically to try to take care of herself and find a safe place or find a way to extract money out of you. It’s a pretty crazy situation but sometimes people get desperate when they need help.
You should have recorded her asking to come in. You need evidence or she could say your encouragement wasn’t consensual.
Yo is there any chance you were her first? I mean she’s practically a kid so fair enough why she’d behave that way and I don’t think the cops will be too considerate since she’s barely legal anyway.
Yeah you’re gonna have to ween away from her. She’s already emotionally attached to you. This might be a situation where youre gonna have to let hsr drop you over time.
Have you ever watched SNAPPED?
Why do you just sleepover man ?? She might be feeling like you just used her… That’s pretty Fkd up from your side actually. Don’t do that if you’re not serious.
Lawyer, police, restraining order ASAP before she gets you into legal trouble. Record any interactions with her.
Classic case of “don’t stick your dick in crazy”.
And how do you do that ? Don’t sleep with an 18 year old on a first date.
lol purely by the title I was expecting something like getting bat shit drunk and sleeping with another girl instead of his girlfriend.
So, file a police report. Do not tell her this is what you are doing. Irrational people like her do not make rational decisions. If you tell her you’re filing a report, she could do something vengeful like saying you assaulted her. Just file the report, keep collecting evidence. Do not interact with her at all. If you see her on the street ignore her. If that doesn’t work, you’re going to start yelling as loudly as you can, “why are you doing this this to me! Stop hurting me!” Make a scene. Make her fearful of interacting with you. Hope this helps!
Has nobody looked at this dudes post history?
Once you get clear of this situation stop sleeping around, helps avoid these kinds of situations.
Screenshot all the messages. Even the nudes. Then report her for stalking and harassment. If she tries to report you for abuse or anything you are going to need that evidence that she was stalking you.
If your building has CCTV, find out how long footage is kept.
Shouldn’t have given her the big D so good lol .. she fell in love after 1 night of the trouser snake 🤣
Send her my way bro… I can fix her
This sounds like a ray william Johnson murder video, dude get a restraining order and a gun.
See where u fucked up was sleeping with her after the first day. Just not a good idea in the current era.
You’re going to be missing kidneys……. Move. Never come back
Need updates on this ASAP
Maybe stop 🦆ing people on the first date until you know them? Especially young woman who are probably going to get strong feelings quick.
Not saying her actions are right but understandable. She thought she found a good guy and then you bounced and left.
You aren’t clean in this exchange. Maybe start saying you want a relationship before you 🦆?
She’s a psycho from a Midwest suburb
No straightjacket could hold her
Marry her
She really cares about you bro!!
Well you could date her, but she’s gonna cut up your clothes every time you have a fight, and when you break up with her, she’s going to stalk you and put sugar in your gas tank and swear to you, she did it because she loves you! Now what do you think you should do? I know the sex is top notch, but there’s baggage that comes with that sex! A whole shitload! Believe me it is not the kind that is cured through therapy. Hey this will make you feel even better, the next one’s probably going to be just as crazy, she’ll just hide it better. She won’t let you see the crazy side in the beginning. one day I promise you, you will see it. At least this one’s being upfront about it!