TL;DR; : Should I get out of long term relationship?.
So here is my life.. 15 years in an exclusive relationship with him and I just can’t. He was so much different when we started dating – great potential, superb career, cared so much about me.. And now he is someone who is depressing, quit his job and doesn’t care about me as he used to.
I’ve tried being supportive as much as I could, took care of all the house chores, pay half the bills, tried to get him into therapy but he’s just in denial. We don’t even vacation together, I ended up going overseas without him last year and i am lowkey embarassed of introducing him to my friends and colleagues.
Truth is I outgrew him and don’t know what to do with it. I had a suitor who was very attentive and showed great interest, but i had to decline as it would go against my morals to date two men at the same time.. Kind of regret it now.
Its not like i hate him or anything, but we just became too different and distant. I am afraid that he will stay as he is and will drag me down constantly. I would change him if i could but I don’t know how really.
I’ve tried ending this relationship but he wouldn’t go, keeps messaging me and we sort of get back into the convo at some point. I am looking for any advice as to how I can get out of this mess. I am 35 already, have a good job and maintain myself in a decent shape. I can get dates easily, but i don’t want to be FWB with another looser.
The problem is that i don’t really want to hurt the guy it’s not like he was abusive or anything and he helped me so much in the past, he is just… Not cool anymore I guess, the spark is not there. This whole situation really hurts me and I don’t know how to get out of it.
So my question is – should I get out of it? Should I try to get him back on the right track? How?