My girlfriend (24F) and I (25M) dated for 2.
years before breaking up due to some mistakes and me moving to another city. Even after the breakup, we stayed somewhat in touch, but also had months of no contact.
During that time, she went on a first date with someone from Hinge. They ended up at his place, where both ended up naked some sexual touching happened (I don’t think I need to go in detail), but they did not have “real” sex. She told me she stopped and kinda jumped out the situation because she didn’t feel comfortable for herself doing that and deleted her dating apps right after.
A few months later, we reconnected and got back together.
We were not together when this happened, so technically she didn’t do anything wrong. But I keep struggling with the fact that she was able to go that far with a stranger so quickly. It feels hard to reconcile this with the picture I had of her, especially since I’m personally not into casual hookups.
How do I handle these feelings in a healthy way, and is it realistic to get over this without damaging our relationship? Has someone a similar experience?
TL;DR:
My girlfriend (24F) and I (25M) dated for 2.5 years, broke up due to mistakes and a move, and then got back together. While we were apart, she was briefly intimate with someone else, which she ended quickly. I’m struggling to process this and want advice on handling my feelings without hurting our relationship.