I’m obsessed with my male friend

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We connected over our love for neuroscience and philosophy, just two nerds having fun. I was having so much fun chatting with him online and teasing each other until we finally got the chance to meet up in real life after a few months…We exchanged pics but they were silly and blurry. The moment I heard him call my name and saw him at that cafe, my brain shut down. Because why does that man, so funny and intelligent, also look like an angel?

I was so shy for those few hours, and I couldn’t even maintain eye contact. I felt like if I looked into his eyes for too long, he would sense the butterflies in my stomach. I’m better now since I’ve seen him around multiple times but my heart still speeds up and I feel all anxious and giggly.

That wouldn’t be too bad by itself but that’s not everything. Usually I’m pretty much only horny during ovulation…but that’s like 10 days away and I’m going feral already. I want to make out with him until he’s breathless. I want to grab his blonde curly hair and tug him down until I feel his mouth on me. I want to give him the best BJ that man has ever had until he’s moaning my name in that beautiful voice.

Every time I see him, I remember what I was thinking yesterday night and just feel so guilty. I want him so badly in so many ways but how would I even go about something like that? Plus, I don’t want to lose him as a friend if something goes wrong. Idk.

Comments

  1. VariousSheepherder58 Avatar

    Copy the text of this message and send it to him.

  2. rikkyboby Avatar

    Well I’m not sure obsessed is the correct word, but obviously you have feelings for him and possibly would like relations with him. I would just be honest and tell him how you feel, worst case scenario he’ll probably take the bj 😂 I sure would

  3. spikeisgreen Avatar

    Share his email, i will let him know

  4. Ibanez607 Avatar

    How does he act around you??

  5. Master_Kenobi_ Avatar

    Male friend or something else?

  6. Mollzy177 Avatar

    “In the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take.”

  7. Own_Detective_5915 Avatar

    Haha sooo cuteee girllyyy telll himmm 🥺🥺❤️❤️

  8. sitlo Avatar

    Ask him if he’s single and ask him out. This might be your only chance

  9. Rip_Jorbenson Avatar

    Hey, I’m a dude!

    Here’s a few small reasons why he might make the first move – and why you should go for it and be heard!

    1. It’s 2025 and being a creep is not cool.
    2. If your hang went as well as you thought, he’s likely attracted to you.
    3. Fear of rejection sucks.
    4. Guys are dumb. The majority of us are just not as sensitive to this kinda stuff.

    You’re an adult – tell him how you feel. Be direct, chill, and respectful.

    Upon consent, commence with the degenerate and feral ravaging you wish to impose upon him. Good luck and have fun!

  10. modrndayMCconaughey Avatar

    Tell him you wanna suck his dick. If his reaction is standoff-ish… start cracking up and say yer joking.

    Than hit me up.

  11. setzer77 Avatar

    I understand not wanting to risk the friendship, but why do you feel guilty about your feelings towards him?

  12. u-r-sofa-king Avatar

    Iv had this happen to me, just ask him on date and make it clear its date from the get go

  13. Zeldabacon64 Avatar

    chances are if you just tell him he will say yes.

  14. PaletteID Avatar

    Gurll you’re so luckyy 😭 tell him tell him

  15. Iman-_- Avatar

    how tall is he

  16. TurtleBob_The1st Avatar

    Reminds me of my ex. I had no clue she was into me, despite the most obvious signals being thrown several times and I just thought we were close friends. Until she confessed one day and caught me off guard. We ended up dating for a year and a half until we parted on good terms. Were still friends to this day.

    So go for it, but don’t rush it!

  17. No_Brain4912 Avatar

    First two paragraphs are cute. I understand the feeling. We are on average bad at signals reading between the lines.

    The remaining paragraphs, well that’s hot passion right there and many men and would love to experience with a partner.

    Certainly tell him how you feel but the second half you could save for later on if things progress how you want?

    Hoping it works for you

  18. Informalsuccubus Avatar

    As you said. Your friendship could end if you ask him out because, even though he’s made it clear he’s not into you, he’ll always know you’re into him. I’ve had friendships end because I asked the person out and it made things awkward after I was turned down.

    That said… if your first meet up went well, it’s worth a shot. He could also be having this same anxiety. I know a couple who had a similar thing go on where they met online, then met in person, spent a few weeks tap dancing around asking each other out and then one of them did. They just got married.

    It’s scary, but it’s far worse knowing you missed your chance with somebody you clicked with because you refused to take it.

  19. Peonyuwu Avatar

    You have to learn first his sexual preference and he is single or not.Ask what his type is.and say like ‘my type is this and that’ hints and traits that he has.