Basically the title.
Longer story: My sister is 4 years older than me. When I was younger, like kindergarten age, she always used to pin me down and tickle me. Afaik this is a regular sibling thing for everyone and I hated it like normal people do. Then I took this hatred out on my friends in kindergarten by tickling them. I remember having a friend group where we all took turns to tickle each other.
Eventually, my sister stopped doing this to me. And I moved on to elementary school, where I stopped doing it, too. But the hopelessness feeling when someone pinned me down and tickled me had stuck in my mind. My hatred for tickling eventually turned into curiosity, then into longing. I once told someone that “tickling is my favorite thing in the world.” But there was no one to do it to me.
Then came puberty and the development of sexual urges. I realized I had this fetish when I was about 12 yo. But it took me longer to realize that if my sister hadn’t tickled me, I wouldn’t have it at all.
So yeah, that’s basically it. This kinda feels disgusting to think about and idk if this is normal in the realm of fetishes. I’ll probably judge myself for this until the day that I die.
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From what I’ve seen most fetishes have a basis in childhood environments so I don’t think it’s too abnormal. Just something that imprinted on you differently than for most
I think it’s more complicated than that
You already had those urges and desires pre-programmed into your brain before you were ever tickled by anyone
As far as fetishes go this is actually a pretty common one as far as I’m aware. I don’t think you have anything to be ashamed of. It’s something you derive sexual enjoyment from, it doesn’t harm anyone and it doesn’t harm you. As I said, as kinks go it’s fairly common and also not one that harms anyone.
I think if and when you have a partner discuss with them that you have a kink and see if they’d be willing to explore it. If my fiance had this kink I’d be happy to explore it with them because you enjoy making your partner enjoy sexual intimacy. So embrace it! I’m sure you can agree if your partner had a kink (that wasn’t harmful at least) you’d probably be willing to explore it with them.
So don’t be ashamed by it. There’s nothing wrong with it and as kinks go it’s pretty tame and not really a problem or risk. It doesn’t make you weird or not normal. I think most people have sexual kinks of some kind, some simple while others a bit more complex but it’s absolutely fine. The fact that so many people have kinks tells you it’s perfectly normal.
Hope this helps
You probably would have had the enjoyment of being pinned down regardless, that’s pretty common.
It would also then make sense that being pinned down ended up being strongly associated with tickling, which then added that to it. You may have not felt that way about tickling specifically otherwise if it hadn’t been associated with the pinning which you already would have enjoyed.
It’s less common to like tickling like that, but not totally unheard of at least.
At least you dont like getting your chest shit on. Thats a real thing people get off to bud. Remember, there are always worse fetishes to have, lol
And now ill never tickle my daughter again….
if it makes you feel any better, everyone i’ve known who has a foot fetish grew up giving their mother foot massages..freud might’ve been onto something here
My older sister tickled me when I was a kid, too much, she didn’t stop a continued it for long time, it was awful, I was keep laughing but I wanted to stop.
Year ago a had a massage and when it goes to my chest I couldn’t relax the muscles.
Me and my girlfriend tickle each other all the time. We’re 20 and most of the time it leads to sex lol I love when she pins me down and then I do the same to her. Tbh I feel like its very healthy and in any relationship you should be doing stuff like this to stay close and connected. Not just to feel weird about it
Well, I have the same kink (from the active side though), and I don’t know exactly which occasion it derived from, but I know I’ve been interested in tickling as far as I can remember myself. So likely from some occasion with family/family friend. I just can’t pinpoint it.
And don’t worry OP, I am now in the kink scene, and tickling is pretty harmless/innocent compared to what people out there like. And many of them had their kinks from some relative/childhood friend etc.
Just be happy you are not into caretaker/little dynamics I suppose. Not that anything is wrong with it as long as it is in between consenting adults. But if you are uncomfortable that your kink stems from a relative, imagine what you’d feel if the relative was the kink itself hahah
Just some reassurance. Your brain is developing while you’re young and there is a lot of stuff going on up top and forming over time. Tickling shows up in a lot of tv, movies, and is a pretty common form of bonding. Not only is it a common way to bond, it’s an easy way to check developmental growth and get some social/behavioral maturity forming.
The way it potentially formed isn’t from a “This is someone I hold attraction to.” viewpoint, but more of a “This is someone I trust and something that I don’t hate.” perspective. It likely could have formed no matter what just because you saw it in a show or movie, there’s no guarantee where it started.
Like other commenters have shared, it’s not the most rare kink in the world (There’s like 6 different subreddits for it and conventions for meetups) and you fall into the lucky category of people with kinks that don’t come across as scary when you share them. It’s understandable to feel really mixed up about this, but at the end of the day, it’s one of the stones on the path that has brought you here.
I hope that you’ve enjoyed the trip so far.
And I also remember when I was like 5-10 my mom always had a hot friend that came over and she would always tickle ts out of me. And that definitely built a sexual attraction in me at a young age
Man, I got tickled all the time as a kid and just ended up with a touch aversion.
Really bugs me when I see people tickling kids now.
You’re lucky, at least your fetish is not incest.
– nothing wrong with liking being tickled, held down or whatever
– in the “realm of fetishes” this is common, and extremely mild bordering on not even worth calling a fetish
– neither you nor sister intended this or is responsible for it in any way
– judging yourself for this would be wrong, self-indulgent, harmful, and useless. So don’t do that.
– you can explain to a partner by saying “Hey, I like being held down and tickled!!” easy, and no shame in that
– you’ve sold me, I want to tickle and get tickled more often now!
You had a fetish realization at 12yo….gtfo of here with that lol, come on. Or do you mean you realized as an adult when it started?
I’ve got it too. Been tied up, tied others up. As long as it’s consensual, you’re fine.
Sounds like you might like a little BDSM? Which isn’t crazy I’ve seen plenty of tickling in porn. I have no doubt that any decent partner you may have in the future would be okay with that. And when you do find a partner that’ll indulge your fetish you’ll have the time of your life
Freud would be very interested in this, lol. But don’t worry, the human psyche is weird, and you can’t control every aspect of your inner world. Better not let it turn into bottled up sexual frustration and just role with it.
Here is the thing, you don’t have the fetish FOR your sister, but BECAUSE of her. That matters, really matters, so be at ease about it.
In my experience when I tell people I HATE to be tickled is when they try to do it more often
Every fetish is based on something. Dont feel shame. Just accept thats the reason. Sex is supposed to feel good not make you ashamed. You are you. You are enough. I was raped when I was six. I have to acccept how that changed me forever. But I hope I am enough too.
If your sister didn’t pin you down and tickle you, someone else would have. Like you said, it’s normal sibling behavior, and normal kid behavior.
Not sure if we can definitively say that THAT is what caused your fetish, or maybe you always had the fetish and that just brought it out. It’s a chicken or the egg thing that we may never be able to answer. But it doesn’t really matter. Regardless of what caused the fetish, you have it.
So, you just gotta find someone who has a fetish for pinning people down and tickling them, and you’re good.