are there any cons you’ve discovered? Are there stereotypes/girl code you’ve discovered since having female friends that maybe wouldn’t exist otherwise? As an adult is it the same as highschool friends? What’s the best thing so far?
What’s it like to have female friends?
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Really important that you are on the same page, otherwise even in good friendships, you besties will try to get you down. Flitting with your boy, trying to be bettern than you. Hard to trust a woman as a friend :/
Having female friends as an adult? Gosh, it’s like finding the secret level in a video game. It’s completely different from high school. In high school, everything is dramatic and feels like an episode of a soap opera. But as an adult, it’s way more chill. There’s just a lot more understanding and a lot less drama.
One of the best things is how supportive they can be. They’ve got this way of knowing exactly what to say to make you feel better when you’re having a rough day. My female friends have this magical power where they just “get it”, you know? If I’m rambling about something that’s bugging me, they just nod and jump right in with the right kind of empathy. It’s like therapy, without the copay.
Downsides? Maybe the occasional feeling of needing to be “presentable” if we’re out and about. Like, I can go out with my guy friends looking like I just crawled out of a dumpster, no biggie. But sometimes with my female friends, I feel like I should at least run a comb through my hair. There’s also the girl code, which is kind of like bro code but with more emotional intelligence. It’s mostly about being there for each other—backing someone up, keeping secrets, and just overall being a decent human being.
I’ve found that with female friends, there’s less “competition” and more rooting for each other. They’ll celebrate your successes like they’re their own. It’s pretty awesome overall, with more pros than cons for sure. Isn’t it funny how friendship warms up as you get older? It’s like, the high school stuff was just the trailer for the real movie.