was the text I got from MIL hours after having given birth to our baby 🙃 I remember laying in the hospital bed looking at my daughter thinking she’s basically still an organ in my body and MIL thinks it’s appropriate to even suggest she prefers this random guy she just met
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That’s just your MIL trying to undermine your feeling of oneness with your own new child. Ridiculous, really.
Oh god. Enjoy your beautiful child. Call her out each and every time she does that. Don’t let her speak to the baby about what mommy or daddy say. Put up walls. My sister has. In order to see her and her family, we are all clear on what causes her anxiety. We are careful because we love them. Don’t let her get into your head. He needs to call her out faster than you do.
I think she may have actually been asking which one of you your baby looks like. “Prefers” or “favours” is a super old-school way people used to say a baby resembled a parent. I look like my father, so it was said that I “preferred” him.
Unless your MIL’s not very old in which case she’s asking something stupid, as new born babies won’t exhibit any preference for anything other than food, sleep, and cuddles.
This made me lol “random guy she just met” — so true! Congrats, mama!
“Me, mil, I have the boobies” 😂😂😂 she’s already pushing for LO to be a daddy’s girl. At that age I used to marvel at my kids, they could still remember what life was like before they were born.
Tell her that she “prefers” your mother 😅 uno reverse B 💅🏼
She’s stupid
I mean, your daughter definitely recognizes your voice and, to a lesser extent, your partner’s voice, since she likely heard it in utero, too, so it’s not like she’s a blank slate… still, what a seriously dumb and unhinged question to ask
Your baby doesn’t even know she is a different being from you yet and you not only have food but your heart beat and other sounds your body makes are the most familiar thing to baby. She knows your partners voice a little but that is about it.
“This random guy she just met” 😭 ik she sucks bc only traumatized people are that funny. Sorry bestie tho
Any response other than, what the actual fuck is wrong with you? Is wrong.
“me, she said father looks ok but comes with a creepy old lady”
This random guy she just met! BAHAHAHAHAAAAA!!!!!
You just KNOW that baby’s like “UGH…you’d THINK he’d get the hint, I’m CLEARLY here with this hot chick.”
Response: All I know is she ADORES my mom. Can’t stop looking at her.
Wow. That’s such a crazy window into her soul, and probably also how she rates her relationship with her own kids. I’m so sorry she ruined those first moments for you with something so incredibly thoughtless and designed to divide you and your mate.
“Basically still an organ in my body” and “some random guy she just met.” Absolute gold. 🤣
Your baby doesn’t even know she’s been born yet. How ridiculous.
That’s insane talk. Serious wtf?!