Hi everyone. I’m 20/f and the guy I’m talking to is 27/m. I asked him for his number at the bar he works at. He was so sweet and said “yes please” when I asked him for the number. We met up and he was so nice. But when we were in the bedroom he ejaculated REALLY fast and was just done right after. The next time I saw him he ejaculated pretty fast again. Then he gets up and asks me,” do you mind if I do cocaine right now?” I was audibly shocked that he does this like it’s a normal thing. I felt like I wanted to cry I’ve never seen this before and right when I’m starting to like him. Please help me. He told me he doesn’t do it often but cocaine is so addictive and I’m worried that he’ll start to get moody and angry with me when we’re in person.
I think the guy im talking to has a cocaine addiction..
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If you are already scared why do t you just break it off?
If you’re uncomfortable with his drug use or how quickly things have escalated, it’s okay to take a step back and reassess the relationship. Communication is key; consider discussing your feelings with him openly. Remember, you deserve to be with someone who respects your boundaries and shares your values. Trust your instincts, and don’t hesitate to seek support from friends or loved ones during this time.
Your gut is waving red flags here for a reason. If he’s casually doing cocaine and it’s already affecting his behavior and mood, it’s only going to get more complicated and potentially unsafe for you. Protect your peace and set boundaries before getting in too deep.
Your concern is valid. Cocaine is addictive, and it’s okay to set boundaries or step back if his use makes you uncomfortable
If you don’t want to be with someone who does cocaine (you obviously don’t) then don’t be with someone that does cocaine. You’re only 20 so have everything going for you. There’s billions of men in the world so you don’t need to be with this guy. Find someone who doesn’t use drugs and who is capable of making love to you the way you like it. Don’t accept such a low-class man. Decide all the things you want in a man and all the things you don’t and find someone who matches that.
Just because he does cocaine that doesn’t necessarily mean that he has an addiction and a lot of people do only do it once in a while, but regardless of what, if you’re not comfortable with it than break things off with this guy now, before you guys start getting serious.
you can not fix him. he is going to just wear you down and you will end up in a really shitty situation. leave now before this guy absolutely ruins your life because he will. this is your chance. you can not help him, you can not change him, you can not fix him. ONLY he can and right now he just wants to have sex and do coke.
Cool. Run away. Obviously.
Ask your yourself if you want to be in a relationship with an addict. Drugs can make people really nice until they aren’t. Nothing and I mean nothing good comes for being an addict or being in a relationship with one.
Leave him alone you haven’t lost anything and call it a win for you, that he was upfront with you.
Don’t sleep with these people who aren’t interested in your pleasure. Cokeheads at pretty boring
I’d step away now if I were you. It can get intense when they’re deep in, I used to have to hide in the bathroom with my back against the wall so he couldn’t get in
“He ejaculated pretty fast again” he should have done more cocaine
First off, he has a problem with premature ejaculation. Second of all, nobody does cocaine every once in a while. He probably does it quite a bit. He’s certainly comfortable with using it no matter where he is. These 2 issues are red flags. Of course, they’re both fixable but this isn’t your responsibility. It’s his. Simply move on. You met him, you can meet another guy. He has problems he needs to focus on. You don’t want those problems to become your problems, trust me. And, you’re doing more than just talking to him, btw.
Eventually you will try the cocaine just to see what it’s like. Nobody I know only uses cocaine. They all use other drugs too. This is a guarantee. You’ll probably try those too in your quest to help him. Oh, wait, you were supposed to help him but now you’re being sucked into his world. How did that happen?
At 20 yrs old this is the life you want?
Ah yes, the dream of every little girl is of growing up and ending up with a premature ejaculating junky. /s
Every guy ive been with who has been on coke has taken 2 years to finish am i missing something here is there a cheat code , but jokes a side ,
cocaine is highly addictive but more so when your on it if you know what i mean . If he had a coke addiction you would 100% know its very expensive and he would be doing it pretty much 24/7 . I have found that so so so many people do coke on the weekends then never touch it during the week. I dont really have a massive issue with people doing it as long as they dont get super aggressive on it, some people do some people just wana dance and chat its really about the person i think . Tbh if this is all really shocking to you maybe hes not the kinda of guy you should be spending time with .
There is a line in an Amigo the devil song “I let you try to fix me, because it gives you the sense of purpose you need.” It popped in my head while reading your story.
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Doing drugs like heroine or coke isn’t normal.
You will get pressured to loam him money for drugs and even take part. GET OUT NOW WHILE U CAN SAFELY.
You were already having sex but you barely started to like him after, that’s wild. You should maybe get to know a person more before you jump into bed with them. That way you know if it’s something you actually want to be in
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Former cokehead here. I can handle this… first, lemne explain what it means to have “cokedick” – cokedick means we usually cannot get it up… erections are difficult for those of us on cocaine. With that said, contrary to the myth that cocaine use helps men last longer, the drug often causes significant sexual dysfunction, including difficulty achieving orgasm and ejaculating. A man’s ability to climax is typically delayed, not quicker, while under the influence of cocaine… so this doesn’t jibe with your experience.
As for his moodiness… if he is a heavy user and cannot score, he will get grumpy AF… all in all, just cut ties with the dude, cokeheads are a pain in the ass to deal with. We’ll keep you up all night, wanting to talk about shit that we think is deep and important and which, to anyone not on coke, is dumb and ridiculous… ah, I miss my coke fueled all-nighters… those were the days… it’s a terrible, terrible addiction. Just don’t.
Can’t have sex without my cocaine after. What a prize he is. Do yourself a favor and drop him please. You don’t need to be introduced to the world of hard drugs by a man 7 years your senior, and no judgement on you, but there is a reason he isn’t dating someone his own age. Trust me, my mind from 24 to 25 is vastly different, I can’t even tell you what I was thinking at 20. 7 years at 25/26 (fully developed brain) and at 20 is so different. Protect yourself. If you have any fear in you that is your gut telling you to leave, listen. He doesn’t just do it on occasion.
Please just find someone else. I know an addict. He’s currently in jail on drug charges. He’s facing prison. It’s so not worth it. Not everyone gets caught with drugs but some do. The addict I know is a great person, has no problem holding down a job, so funny, so nice, has no problem getting girlfriends. His life is now gone to shit though because he got busted with drugs. Follow your intuition
Break thing off with him
Good lord-run very far away. Also, he’s too old for you.
How long was the turnaround between your first interaction, your first sexual interaction and you feeling: “Bc I like him and I wanna be there for him but idk”
You don’t need to answer just some implied food for thought.
Is he rich
My advice? Block and delete his number. Never go to the bar he works in again and never date someone addicted to anything if you want to have the best life possible. Thank me in a decade.
He’s a junky. Get rid of him..
I say that as a former opiate addict myself. You don’t want to deal with someone like that.
I’m pretty sure most people last like 2-5 minutes on average in the bedroom if anything it should be a compliment that you made him nut so quickly. It takes a lot of willpower and stamina to pull 20-30 mins of fucking that’s why so many people rely on foreplay for the majority of the experience. Also cocaine doesn’t make you nut quick if anything it does the opposite, and yes he probably does it frequently if he asked you that after only recently interacting with you.
Growing up is realizing way more people are functional coke addicts than you actually really know.
If he came that fast he wasn’t on coke… but if you don’t wanna date him don’t date him.
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