Is anyone else absolutely exhausted by their current life? I don’t know if it’s this age, having kids, taking care of parents, trying to work a job with zero time. For once in my life I actually thought about getting a personal assistant which sounds outrageous. But yall I am so tapped out to the point I needed to type this all out into a post and see if anyone else is feeling this way. I don’t know if it’s just from traveling lately abs the chaos that is that right now or what. My phone rings off the hook- and it’s not my work phone – it’s just constant people I need to call back for various things life related like paying a bill or coordinating something for a family member. I don’t have enough hours in the day to even call people back and I’m so stressed out. Does anyone here actually have free time on their hands anymore? Is 2025 insanely exhausting for anyone else? I just don’t feel like my parents were this stressed out at my age.
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I’m so overwhelmed.
My oldest just started Kindergarten and my youngest started at a new preschool. It’s like the olympics of mental load – between understanding the logistics of getting them to their new places, all the forms, half-days, days-off…my head is about to explode.
Plus work has just been naggy. It’s all these small little naggy tasks I despise doing.
I don’t even have kids and I feel WIPED out. I can’t imagine how some of y’all are doing it with toddlers or babies. Man.
Yes.
My recent mental state can only be described as a slow motion mental breakdown. I still get my mission critical stuff done but things are falling off the pile one by one.
I only have one child and my parents are still relatively healthy etc. but our child is nearly 3, so she’s at an intense age. Work is stressful and I’m constantly worried about layoffs (tech). My wife has had instability with her job lately and gone through some layoffs in the last couple years.
We bought our first house last fall and stretched our budget a bit and then it burned down (along with all of our worldly possessions) in the Eaton Fire in January. The material and emotional fallout from this has been completely devastating. I’m finally getting some help for PTSD (I woke up and got us out, we didn’t get evacuated, we barely escaped, 19 people died in like a 1/4 mile radius of our home) but it is expensive so I’ll probably have to stop soon. We’ve been having to manage the financial fallout as well (we do still have to pay the mortgage of course), plus manage dealing with insurance, claim check payouts, finding architects and agreeing on plans, soil testing, debris clearing, hiring contractors, getting the property reassessed for taxes, etc etc etc on and on.
It’s absolutely exhausting. 2025 has sucked.
And anytime I peek my head up from my personal shitstorm to be like “what’s going on out there” it’s like….human rights abuses, genocide, masked kidnappers IN MY NEIGHBORHOOD, etc etc
Please can we change the timeline.
Thanks for the opportunity to vent.
I am very overwhelmed.
There’s so much on my plate, I feel like I’d just take decisions in life now for the sake of it.
I think I’m probably less overwhelmed task wise, but I’m not responsible for kids ir parents. I can’t imagine being responsible for both and having any sanity
Absolutely. My SO has a very demanding career. I had a fallout with a friend group and feel awkward AF around all of them. My kids have a lot of activities. Politics and world shit is heavy. Everything is expensive and things in my house keep breaking— we’ve done HVAC this year and are now looking at a new washer/dryer. I’ve survived about 4 rounds of layoffs at work and am so burnt out. I was going to go part-time to help balance but I carry the family for health insurance and I am concerned about the costs and coverage with the marketplace and current admin. I’ve aged a lot the past few years and I’m never well hydrated lol. My sleep is terrible. You’re not alone.
I just read the Emily Nagoski book on burnout, might be helpful for you as well
I was googling this same question this morning. I feel like I don’t even have the mental bandwidth to try to etch out personal time for myself. If I did, I’d just want to stare at the wall in silence.
Yes.. but I thought it was because of my whirlwind ADHD brain so what you’re saying is it’s actually just life? 😂 being time poor sucks. Can you cut down your hours? Do you have a partner? Is the workload delegated fairly?
It’s not just you. 😔🤍
I’m in my upper thirties, my home life stresses me out but simultaneously brings me joy, but juggling three kids (2 are step kids, who are actually pretty great), household chore delegation, working a lot, and the metal load is just so much.
Days like today I just sit on my phone and zone out before we go to bed. My mind is afk. I am tired.
I’m on mission “protect my mental health” EVERY SINGLE DAY. I visit my grandparents on Sundays and they always have the news on or talking about it and I’m like…”not while I’m here…I’ll cut this visit short if we don’t change the channel and talk about something else”. I think they’re more worried about the state of the world for me and I’m concerned about them consuming so much negativity but I have to remember that they lived through Jim Crow, Riots and such so this is just another chapter in history for them. Its another chapter for us as well…hopefully the middle of something…but we don’t know how its going to end so its scary.
I have a full time job as a doctor, and I’m in the middle of switching to a job closer to home. Doing all the paperwork for credentialing. Currently with a two hour total daily commute. My baby is developmentally 5 months. I’m still pumping 800ml of daily breastmilk for my baby with my full time job. Trying to coordinate my mom’s appointments, bloodwork and infusion appt. AND I currently have an actively infected sebaceous cyst in the most inconvenient region, for which I’m on antibiotics and need to see a general surgeon to remove it. Yes, I’m overwhelmed.
I just had a stay-cation and I highly recommend it (if available to you). I haven’t been this productive in years? And all that productive energy is going towards things I want it to go towards instead of work taking all my time and energy.
I don’t have kids, but it’s been a fucking year. Between my severe medical issues, my husband working like a dog, deaths in the family, moving, and the marital stress that comes with, well, stress, I’m ready for the new year. This month was the start of things hopefully looking up, and I’m going to plan a stupendous New Year’s morning of champagne and caviar to celebrate being fucking done.
I did just start grad school, so I’m adding to the stress. But I’m hoping it’ll feel like a different kind of stress since it’s an investment in my career.
Yes, usually I would stay late at work to make up tine but this time, I’m just exhausted mentally and clocked out and will be using my PTO. I don’t have energy to work for other people anymore but I have no choice.
I feel wiped but it’s I assume from my insomnia which has gotten worse since something always seems do be breaking with the house this past year & savings thus has stalled.
I don’t have kids and I always marvel at how people do it since work takes up a good amount of my time. I do have a new puppy which was stressful shes final getting potty trained.
I do try to stay off social media because it’s a bad habit & just go for walks in the evenings instead. I always feel so much better afterward.
100%
I lost my job in August, and I’ve had multiple interviews but can’t get my foot back in the door, so I’m doing extra things around the house throughout the day to keep myself occupied before I start my new course.
I’ve been slipping down a mental health slope and I’m struggling to pick myself back up.
My other half did let me loose in his garage with a sledgehammer last night though, I don’t think he realised how much I needed to smash something 🙈
I don’t have kids, but I have an intense job that spans multiple timezones / countries and an intense, time consuming hobby which may turn into my new career. Hobby takes me out of state most weekends and job out of state quarterly.
I am drowning. I have a cleaner come once a week and I mostly have groceries delivered and I cook all meals at home during the work week.
Absolutely exhausted and if any off nominal thing happens in the week (for example if part of a tree falls in my yard or a critical food item is missed in the delivery) it’s a huge stressful deal because then I have to give up any tiny sliver of rest I barely get in the evenings to go deal with that thing or cram it in between meetings….
I am basically you but with no kids or parents to take care of or any family lol still i feel exhausted! even i had put out this idea of getting personal assistant maybe just for a day and it would feel so much lighter. ALthough I do feel its pretty tough dealing with all these without any supportive partner because then you can ‘delegate’ tasks to a known person whos in the same boat.
Life even 5 years back was not this stressful.
yes.😭
Yes, lack of sleep due to young children, burned out husband, ASD, struggling at work and now not only a hostile work environment, but also my supervisor insisting we solve this how neurotipicals do this, while I’ve repeatedly said I need the opposite.
Edit: we’re also without a properly working drain in the kitchen since July as the pipes have gone bust and to get to the pipes they need to tear up the apartment below us.