So about a year ago, me and my gf were planning on taking the prerequisite for nursing together so we could hopefully get into nursing together. We were doing it online. Well I was pretty far ahead of her, she never really worked on it, I always had to beg her to do it with me and she still never really would. Well I guess I lost my motivation, and I wanted to wait for her because our plan was to do it together.
Fast forward to now, she got into another pre requisite for nursing that is in person, so she will be able get into nursing next year, which was our plan, and don’t get me wrong, I am happy for her, and excited for her and proud of her.
But now my issue is, I did not think she would “leave me behind” like this. Like obviously I know she didn’t really leave me behind, but I was just so stupid and I can’t get over it. I waited for her so we could do it together. And now she’s doing a whole other one alone, and I’m stuck. I did not see this coming, I would not have done that, considering we had a plan together.
Now my stupidity has left me with less than 2 months to complete human anatomy and physiology. I don’t know what to even do. I just keep crying at how dumb I was. I don’t even know how I could be that dumb. I should have seen it coming. Just because I’m not the type of person to “leave someone behind” like that, obviously doesn’t mean other people wouldn’t. And I should have known she would. It’s the type of person she is. I’ve known her over 10 years now and I was just so god damn stupid and foolish.
I wish I could reverse time. I dug my whole and now I have to lie in it. I just want out.
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Run your own race, babe.
Anatomy is easy homie, the funny bone is connected to the wish bone. Thats about it. You got this gl
Hey… you’re not stupid, you were just trusting and hoping to share a journey with someone you care about. Plans change, people grow, and sometimes that leaves us scrambling, but it doesn’t erase your effort or your worth. You still have time to get through this, one step at a time, and you can do it. Be kind to yourself.
A&P is just memorization. Also it’s “hole” not “whole” English I and II are most likely prereqs as well. You got this!
Is it possible you both have different learning styles? I prefer being in a building attending classes. I get too distracted at home on my laptop. I need a teacher to keep me focused and on task. I’m also more of a hands on person, i like labs better than classes. Maybe online learning wasn’t working for her
You’re not stupid, you just cared. Focus on your own path now you’ve still got this
Use all kind of apps that help with memorizing and understanding and try to learn to put yourself first once in a while it is your carrer path only yours
And this is the long start to an inevitable break up.
Even if you entered the same school at the same time, there is no guarantee you’d be assigned to the same classes or clinicals.
What’s done is done. Now its time for you to navigate your own course.
Do you know each other or just say hi in passing?
I understand your frustration, yes you made a mistake but its because you cared about her and that shows what a good person you are. My best advice is to talk to her about it and how much it bothered you instead of building resentment to her, and in the end crying overit isnt gonna do you any good. Just get over it, accept that it happened and get to work!
Get off of reddit and get your ass in gear, do what you can, try your best, and see how it works out. What else can you do?
Dude, make your plan and go forward on your own timeline. You’ll both be nurses. Focus on the big picture. You’ll both be nurses. Who cares if one of you finishes six months before the other? For your own benefit, I want you to do a tiny bit of googling and reading about codependency. Your post brought that issue to mind for me. You’re fine, bruh, you got this. All is well. Nothing is on fire.
You can’t go back in time. Consider this a lesson learned and keep moving forward. If this is something you truly still want, stay focused and get it done. You can do this. Stop wasting energy on something you can not change at this point.
that’s normal buddy. Mind your own race 🙂
Its not leaving others behind when it comes to your education and future. Neither of you should turn down opportunities to better yourself at this point. You were able to get ahead before if you dig back in and focus on your own education Im sure you can catch back up.
Comparison is the thief of joy. And also, don’t let 1 semester of regret turn into years. Just keep going, fuck it
Stop using the “waiting for my girlfriend” phrase as an excuse not to pursue a career in nursing. Do it now or you’ll regret it later. Nursing is one of the best jobs you can have; plenty of jobs, plenty of overtime and also, “healthcare never sleeps.”
I know it seems daunting but it’s possible! I got accepted into a nursing program where all the classes are only 8 weeks, it feels impossible but somehow we all still get it done. Don’t give up!
Yeah this whole plan was stupid. Reconsider nursing. You would be awful at it. When do you take a writing class? You seem so far behind.
This is YOUR life. Never let anyone dictate what you do with it!! Now go get em!!
This is so confusing. Isn’t the point of supporting one another through a course to do just that? The point of doing it together is not to make a promise that if one person falters, you both stop/quit/fail.
You’re literally doing it wrong lol
It is like working out. You tell your friend “I am working out at 7; please join me.” And you work out at 7. You don’t ever not workout if they don’t show up.
The only yardstick you can measure your life by is your own.
You’ve got this
Make sure you don’t give up
You’ve got this
Make sure you don’t give up
Nd try and prioritize yourself a bit more from now on
Pull yourself together! Non of this is her fault.
Do your own thing. Get going and quit whining. Make a plan today.
I took, Biology, Math, chemistry and English; requirements for nursing. Did it in four months plus worked full time. I was 50! I’m sure you got this!
Join med school and show her who’s the boss
She didn’t leave you behind, she went at her own pace. You waited because you assumed she wouldn’t finish, but she did. You failed to keep pace with her, which was your goal
So what’s the worst case here? She becomes a nurse a year before you? It doesn’t seem like a big deal
Live and learn
Those who have never made a bad choice may they cast the first stone
I am not here to judge for I too will be judged
Doing things together does not mean you will meet goals at the same time. Focus in on your work and you’ll get there. In order to build a future together you guys need to do the work to be able to do these things. Think about twins meeting milestones not everyone is going to walk and talk at the same time the others climbing walls. You just need to move past whatever is keeping you stuck
Does she exhibit manipulative tendencies? Cuz its kinda crazy youre blaming *yourself* over this when she violated something you both clearly communicated with each other about.
I don’t think you should be upset at her for not being ready. As most people mention in this comment- you should “run your own race”…and that goes for you and your girlfriend. It is soo important to remember that while being in a relationship and having “couple goals”, it is also key to not forget about your own goals. I understand that a lot of people want to achieve milestones together, but I also think that if you wait on your significant other to achieve something and try to compare yourself to your significant other (relating to achieving goals), you will just break yourself. Yes- it is obviously important to realize that while one is just running around, aiming and achieving one goal after the other (professionally and/or personally) and the other one is just sitting at home not having any type of aspiration in life, then that is one thing and something that is irritating and just simply doesn’t work. Still, you don’t have to be “siamese twins” and complete everything “conjoined”. Finish your classes that you still have to complete in a pace where you understand the basics of anatomy and physiology, and god knows…maybe in the next ten years you end up being “nurse of the year”, while your girlfriend is just doing her everyday “9 to5 “ job. No shade towards your girlfriend but my point again is…everything happens for a reason- chill out and focus on your OWN goals that are important TO YOU.
I know the feeling, I’ve made so many mistakes along my educational journey but I’ve kept moving forward, and now they are distant memories. I got where I needed to be.
You won’t handle Nursing if you can’t handle THIS. RN and Midwife 50 years. Trust me.
Now she will be able to give you the intel on clinicals and classes, that’s a great resource!