I have big boobs and it’s just my luck I found the 1% of a man who prefers smaller chests. At first he said it didn’t bother him cause “boobs are boobs” but the more and more we sleep together the more I’m noticing he rarely touches my boobs even tho he claims he is a “boob guy”.
Yesterday we got into a very heated argument and out of anger he said maybe I should just get a breast reduction so that he can actually get hard when he looks at them. He immediately regretted saying it after and apologized telling me he didn’t mean it but I could tell that’s how he truly felt.
I don’t know how to go forward tho knowing he hates a part of my body. He has been so apologetic to me today and is being so sweet but the thing he told me yesterday keeps replaying in my mind over and over that I can’t even enjoy him spoiling me with all of his affection.
Edit- Ty to everyone who has responded with advice I know what to do moving forward now đ
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He sounds like a manchild dickhead. Why are you with this dude?
That sounds awful. What advice are you looking for? Otherwise you’re just going to get a lot of “break up and date literally anybody else” kind of advice
Why would you be with someone who actively dislikes your body?
Itâs tough when someone you love makes you feel bad about yourself. His apology is a start, but maybe have an honest talk about how his words really affected you and see if heâs willing to work on it. You deserve to feel confident in your body, so donât let this dim your shine.
Canât move forward after that imo
please leave him. heâs a horrible person. you deserve someone who loves you for you, not your body
I couldnât come back from that, and let me tell ya I can come back from a lot.
I personally wouldn’t trust a partner who sees no issue with flinging barbs like that at me. I am also busty and I would not want to be with a guy who had an issue with something about the way my body naturally is. There are so many guys out there who will find you smoking hot just the way you are, don’t settle for someone who doesn’t.
nice name btw
Yikes!
He’s not sexually attracted to you. Chances are he’s with you for a reason that’s not good if not with you for attraction. He could be using you. Break up with him.
How long have yall been together???? Because if this is fairly new I would leave. Plenty of men in the world that would love to dive into a pair of boobies!!!
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Dude flip the script if you were the one who said in anger âmaybe just get a dick enhancement surgery so I can actually get wet when I look at itâ I guarantee that shit would be on the back of his mind forever I donât know if he can come back from him saying this tbh
If a guy genuinely loves you âŚ. He would love you faults and all. He will love you just the way you are. He wonât try to change you or control you to their liking. And you shouldnât change yourself so much that you donât recognize yourself anymore. Be yourself. And if he doesnât see that he isnât worth time and the hassle.Â
I donât think Iâd ever be able to sleep with a man after he said something so mean about my body; Iâd be too self conscious in front of him to do so. He could do everything in his power to try to win me back and I just wouldnât be able to.
Do he said this out of anger? People say lots of things they donât mean when theyâre angry.
How big are they?
Sorry but heâs probably lowk gay if he canât get off to breasts, preferences are one thing but getting genuinely upset is weird. My ex was the same way and I have G cups. He would always complain abt my boobs and want me to keep my shirts on during sex etc and bro was gay đ
DM me and I’ll give you my opinion.
Some terrible advice circulating here
Does he cum in your pussy?
This is a major red flag to me. I would be always thinking what will he say next if he already said that.
Men know better than to bring that type of topic into an argument. Since he gave himself a pass that time when will the next be.
If his thoughts went there once they will again. Itâs really not good. You may want to plan your escape.
He doesnât find your body type attractive. Thereâs nothing wrong with that, but it definitely means you guys arenât compatible.
What the hell? That was a cheap cheap shot. He only said it to hurt you. Thatâs so cruel and fucked up. Whether he meant it or not, just the fact that he said it is enough reason to leave him. Nothing is wrong with you, and I bet you have killer boobs. Heâs an idiot. Please donât take what he said to heart
I hope you move on and find someone who will absolutely love your body just the way it is.
Hey… unless there’s something wrong with them medically, the only reason he would tell you get a reduction is because he specifically likes them smaller…. which makes me wonder why…. and then I remember pedos exist.
i wouldnât be able to sleep with him anymore without feeling insecure. idk i think thatâs a deal breaker
I got angry for you while reading your post. There are 8 billion people alive. I think there are plenty of other guys who will appreciate you. You should move on so you can both find someone more compatible.
Dump him
BREAK UP WITH HIMMMMM
Leave your boyfriend. This isn’t going away.
Plus, if your big boobs means he can’t get hard, AND if he likes, like, a-cups, then there may be other issues going on there that you don’t want to be a part of.
I always went through the opposite being made fun of for not having big boobs. Find someone who loves you and your boobs girl!!! đ
Coming from someone who is gay, this man may be a little gay
Please pay attention to the OF (check user names and profiles)bait posts in advice. To the endless posts on reddit about boobs. These are not real problems from real people. OP: DONT WORRY WHAT HE THINKS. y
If you have to surgically alter your body so that his pee-pee isn’t sad, then he is not the boy for you.
Might be cultural. Small breasts are considered beautiful in Europe. What typically matters more here is their perkiness. Saggy boobs, no matter the size, have never been fashionable on the Old Continent.
Yeah. His comment is grounds for terminating the relationship. That’s toxic as fuck.
Here’s a interesting piece of info – that 1% you quoted as absolute nonsense.
Anyway, he doesn’t like what you have.
Time for him to go.
Quit having pre-marital sex.
I would never ever be able to let a man touch me again, never mind sleep with me if he said, “Maybe if you changed your body, I could get hard.” Like…. holy crap.
Unless you were belittling him about his hydraulics before, and that was his comeback, in which case y’all would both just be toxic and meant for each other.
Can’t really tell, but this relationship doesn’t seem healthy either way.
He’s undermining your self esteem so you’re trapped with him, thinking it’s the best you could hope for.
It’s not. You need, and deserve, a partner who fully listens to, accepts, respects, loves and supports you.
Don’t bind yourself to an abuser. Your bf has weaponized his intimate access to your heart, mind and life to chip away at you. Often at your most vulnerable moments. The depth and sincerity of your feelings is no indication or guarantee that his are similar, let alone the same. His behavior suggests he feels ownership over you and cruelly enjoys seeing his power to control what you’re feeling under his influence.
Itâs def more than 1 percent
Well thats the end of him then. If he doesn’t find your boobs attractive then he won’t have a problem with you moving on to the other 99%.
Thats a truly AH thing to say especially with him knowing you are aware of his preferences and therefore going to hurt you.
You deserve better, expect it from your partner and don’t accept anything less.
Edit to add – abuseive episode followed by overt affection is not a pattern of behaviour you want in a partner.
My names Bentley. And I love titties. Mammaries Anonymous Association. Lifetime member.
Iâd dump. Thereâs really no coming back from that. Best to move on.
if you undergoing literal surgery to appease his dicks âneeds & wantsâ was on his mind enough to come out of his mouth, that man doesnât truly accept or love you
it wasnât that long ago that male partners/husbands forced women to alter or change themselves permanently for their own enjoyment like lobotomies. i know thatâs a more extreme example but to me itâs the same line of reasoning: no respect at all.
SO MANY PEOPLE LOVE BIG BOOBS youâll find your person who loves and respects ALL of you
The 1% of men who prefer smaller chests? I definitely donât think heâs right to make you feel badly, but also find it concerning your putting down anyone with smaller boobs by saying things that way.
Also, you might be surprised to find itâs a tad more than 1%. Good job finding that super rare gem though.
Dump the A-hole.
Women with small boobs reading this, trust me, itâs more than 1% đ
Never change what you are born with just change the BF.
So many questions about this.
I mean, I prefer them big but I’ve never instilled insecurities in any of my past partners who weren’t of a certain size. Let alone fling insults in an argument towards said pain point to leverage my standing.
Shallow and childish. What advice do you want here though? Most people here will just advise you to break up for obvious reasons.
Oh⌠girl⌠the fact that he even thinks about that and one day he âaccidentallyâ told you in a heated argument and quickly apologized is such a red flag.
If you feel like you want the breast reduction to make you feel more confident and happy thatâs on you, go for it, but if itâs your boyfriend who has âproblemsâ with it.. you know what to do!
Someone who would say/believe that should have no space in your life.
I’ll play with your boobs… But in all seriousness I am a big boob guy myself and I ended up marrying someone whose boobs aren’t big. But never in a million years would I say something to make her feel like she needs to change her body for me angry or not. That’s not ok.
Oooo dump him, do not stay with someone who will say horrible things when mad.
Aks him to pay for augmentation.
Another karma-farming nonsense!
Time to get a new boyfriend. Tell him your body comes as a whole. You don’t get the rest without the boobs. It’s a take it or leave it situation. And following that sentence would be… “and since you’ve proven you can’t take them” …as you’re packing his suitcase…”I have decided that you’re going to leave them! Good luck with your hunt for the perfect small titties!” As you close the door in his bewildered, protesting face!
Dude has some kind of past trauma or something to be that repulsed by large breasts. Guy needs therapy.
Break up! Stop wasting your time on this fool!? What would you do if he said he didnât like your face?
With that username I definitely believe you đ¤Śââď¸
Sorry but there is a HUGE difference in my eyes between someone admitting âActually I do prefer smaller busts so you donât fit my ideal in that one wayâ versus saying maybe you should cut them off so that he can get hard.
The issue isnât just that he doesnât like or want to touch your body, itâs that he felt comfortable suggesting you have surgery to remake yourself to his ideal.
First he should appreciates you for you. My woman is not my typical type however i love her very much and quickly got over that no sexual issues.
When you truly love someone i believe the attraction is there no matter what. He is a asshole for what he said to you but keeping a open conversation and open mind letting each other know youâre turn ons and off and understanding somethings canât be changed goes a long way.
Finally tell him he is NO LONGER ALLOWED TO CALL HIM SELF A BOOB MAN.
Girl heâs so mean why he makes you feel like this?! Just drop him you deserve better!
Only read first paragraph and I say, if a guy you’re with, any guy, has the nerve to criticize anything about your body deserves a nut knee and a good-bye kick in the ass.
You are not compatible. Simples.
You should have a breast reduction if they bring you discomfort and pain.
You should change boyfriend if they bring you discomfort and pain.
Don’t have a breast reduction just to please someone else.
You are the one living with the scars.
Good luck.
He wants you to feel insecure, for God’s sake that’s not even a joke if he really loves you,
I love big boobs. Always have always will. My wife was insecure about this, and I made her feel that I loved her boobs than any other boob out there.
So both can be true: to love big boobs and favorite boobs not being big.
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Something tells me he’s just trying to make you feel bad about yourself. Have you heard of those cases where man take really beautiful women and then slowly break them down because they think that by breaking down their confidence, they’ll have more control over them. Basically, he wants you to feel like he’s the best you can do, but in reality, they’re just scared that you can do a lot better, so they chip away at your confidence. He knows you can get any man with your big đ đ so he’s trying to make you feel insecure about them. You need to run đââď¸đââď¸đââď¸
Anybody who gets me nekkid better not criticize what they see.
Tell him you prefer guys with only one testicle, and maybe he should consider having one removed to get you horny.
In isolation what your partner said is obviously horrible and was not ok, but he also has shown that he knows it was horrible. I’ve said things I’m not proud of in arguments, what he did was wrong but it doesn’t make him a monster. Just make sure you understand that there is absolutely nothing wrong with your body, it just doesn’t fit his preference, and that is ok on both of your sides. I think you should be careful of villainising him over this, other than his comment he has done nothing wrong from what you’ve explained.
As far as you having confirmation that he doesn’t like a part of your body, I don’t think it is automatically a relationship killer, but it definitely could be. Every relationship involves people who won’t have perfect bodies, and they will always have things on the other person that might not be their preference (excess weight, dick size, boob size in your case) but that doesn’t have to mean the intimacy is dead. I’m sure there are parts of my body my wife would change if she had a magic wand, but it doesn’t interfere with our relationship at all. You need to decide whether you can truly forgive him for what he said, and also if you think he can actually move past not liking your boobs or if its just going to kill your intimacy in the future. Best of luck!
He can’t unsay it. You’re not getting past it,
my ex (notice i said ex) made a comment about how âmy double chin makes him feel some type of wayâ and i promise you, it will always be a thought in the back of your mind. im so sorry he said that to you. horrible. i hope you do what is best for you â¤ď¸
He isn’t the one. Move on and find someone who truly loves every bit of you and achieve true happiness.
Itâs normal for people to have preferences. Whatâs not normal is body shaming someone for not being said preferences. Who tf cares if theyâre big or small. What Iâve learned is that if you really love someone, you will learn and love them for how they are. Physically and personality wise even if you guys donât always agree on the same thing. The dudes a piece of shit for that BUT unless youâre willing to forgive and forget. Itâs probably better to move on bc stuff like that will eat you for the rest of your relationship.