I am 18 and leaving for another state in a few weeks. There is this guy I have liked for what feels like forever, and the tension between us is so strong it is almost ridiculous. He jokes with me, he finds excuses to stay close, and sometimes he gives me this look that makes me think he knows exactly what is going through my head.
Since I am moving soon, I keep asking myself if I should just go for it. I am not looking for a serious relationship right now, but I do not want to leave without even trying. The thought of never knowing what it feels like to kiss him or to see if the chemistry is real keeps making me restless. A part of me is nervous about rejection, but a bigger part of me knows that if I do nothing, I will regret it much more than if I take the risk. Maybe the advice I need is not about whether I should make a move, but about how to find the courage to stop overthinking and actually give myself the chance before it is gone.
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if i were you, i would go for it, i support people who take risks, this is important in life
Having asked out many people, I can honestly say rejection isn’t that bad. What’ve you got to lose? Even if they are mean when they turn you down, which I really can’t imagine happening, you’re leaving soon. You can literally just put it behind you!
You’re leaving. There’s nothing to overthink you said you’re leaving so I guess you will be? Should be courage enough. Think about this – you’ll be on the road or sky or waters or whatever thinking about not making the move and finding out the answer
If you’re feeling that strong connection and knowing you’ll regret not trying, then go for it—take the leap, be honest about your feelings, and embrace whatever comes next with confidence.
How many times are we going to see this same bot-post?
Absolutely. You will regret it if you don’t.
What will it achieve ? If you are leaving it will only complicate your life.
Don’t you have a “bf”?
Send him your OF contact so you don’t lose touch (yes, I checked your other posts)
If you don’t I will.
Take him with you
go for it, you have nothing to lose tbh! long distance is a challenge though, but if you can get through it you could have the start of a beautiful relationship
Dont let your dreams be dreams
YOLO
GO FOR IT
UPDATE US
Take the chance!
If you know will regret not acting then act
Life is way too short to leave with a “what if” stuck in ur brain. A rejection stings for a moment, but regret lingers way longer
We should not give up on actions that we may regret for the rest of our lives.
Focus on what you feel, and then leave the rest to fate. You’re young; take this chance and don’t let fear dictate your choices. You’ll figure it out as you go. truly want and stop overthinking it. You’ve got an opportunity here that might not come back. Be bold, share how you
I mean.. if you’re moving what’s there to lose? If he rejects you (I doubt it) then you won’t see him again because you’ll be gone. Go for it.
Unless you just want to bang this guy before you leave, I say don’t go for it. You are leaving soon. If things are going great with this guy, you will be heartbroken when you leave. If this goes nowhere, you won’t be happy about that either. I don’t know where or why you are leaving but your future is there.
Either go for it or always wonder what could’ve been
Go for it
Why did you wait this long?
Look, if you’re interested in someone, tell them. Be gracious in accepting however it goes from there. And go forward with your life.
I have told several people about my feelings for them over the years, some have reciprocated and some have not. The feeling of rejection absolutely sucks but once that wears off (which believe me, it does) the overwhelming relief is so gratifying. You can leave knowing you put all cards on the table, there’s no more what ifs and you can move forward never having to wonder. Theres nothing embarrassing about expressing your feelings. I’ve always drafted out a message (if you can’t do it in person), hit send and just leave your phone, then the ball is in their court
Go for it.
Do it!
You’re leaving town. This is a feature.