I’m 14F, and constantly feel like I’m too immature to be even classed as a teenager. It’s a mixture of habits. I still have plushies, I still like it when my dad tucks me into bed from time to time, I still go to sleep at around 10:30PM. I feel like in the future, I’m going to be one of those people living in their mom’s basement. How do I stop feeling this way? It’s seriously eating me up, I feel like a 7 year old!!
I feel immature.
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In my opinion, You are still a child you don’t need to be in any hurry to grow up, enjoy your youth!
Ur right. U should probably start going to bed at 12am, u should not like ur dad, and throw away all ur plushies. Fr though, going to bed at 10:30 is good for you and having a close relationship with your dad is too. And stuffed animals are for all ages.
I’m going to bet in 2 years, you’re going to be in an entirely different place. You ARE a CHILD, and even though a bunch of the kids in your age group want to claim differently, they are kids too. Don’t be in a rush to grow up. You won’t get to be a kid anymore in 4 years, so enjoy it!
Yeah, you’re 14, most 14 year olds are. I don’t really think anything you explicitly listed makes you immature though.
To me, it’s responsibilities that tend to make a person more mature. I could arguably say getting a job when you’re 16 is a good start, but at the same time if you have the luxury of not needing a job to help your family or to buy things for yourself, then put that energy to doing well in school. Do chores. Help your parents run the household. Learn to make a few meals and offer to make dinner. Help with shopping. Keep your bathroom clean.
My advice is to enjoy it. Especially if you have loving parents. Not everyone gets them. I had 2 terrible abusive parents that loved emotionally mentally and PHYSICALLY abusing me any chance they had. I cant tell you how many times I went to school smacked up and bruised. My parents never hugged me either so enjoy that tucking in. I’m real jealous lol and I’m 32f. Nothing wrong with plushies even my older sil has a whole wall of them. People still collect them, heck I’m looking to own 2 specific Squishmallows I’m trying to find, I only collect the giant ones and specific ones so I only have a collection of 3 so far. Some adults I meant collect puzzles, or Pokémon cards still so youre good dont worry. Keep the things that make you happy. Enjoy life dont rush.
As an adult now I wish I had let myself be a kid more when I was your age. Now I do all these things with my bf but also hella hyper independent since I made myself grow up early. Do what makes you happy as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else and literally fuck everything else.
14? You’re still a child. Enjoy your childhood. Do some dumb stuff, don’t overthink it and don’t hurry.
Trust me, when I was 14 I was in so much of a rush to mature and become an adult and now that I am one I would give any thing to be a kid for awhile longer.
Enjoy being young dude. You’re going to grow up eventually and you’ll wish you weren’t rushing it if you do it that way.
i’m 40 and i still have my stuffed animals. I have been giving them to my kids and it’s awesome
I still have the same obsessions that I had as a kid and continue to collect random related items, just for being “cute”
I still like being pampered and babied, I like when my mom pats me on the head, etc. and I don’t live in a basement.
maturity isn’t necessarily about not liking plushies or affection from your parents & there’s plenty of time for you to be an adult. It’s the part where you’re a kid that doesn’t last long enough & you can’t get it back. Don’t grow up too fast, go at your own pace, stay carefree 🙂
You’re 14….enjoy being immature cause being mature mostly sucks
Have you not seen grown adults with plushies and other lil trinkets.
You’re okay bro.
I’m 25, I love my stuffies
baby i’m 21 and i sleep with a teddy bear every night. Comforting habits don’t contribute to your level of immaturity.
you don’t need to worry about moving out anytime soon at 14, so you don’t know if you’re going to be living in your moms basement. And who cares if you do live there a few years? You aren’t paying rent like everyone else your age!
i’m knocked out by a range of 9pm to 12:30am. You’ve got a good bedtime ! Healthy!!
also, i’d do anything to have my grandma tuck me in again even at my ripe age.
I’m 18 and have a giant collection of plushies. Hell, I know adults of all ages that play video games, collect anime figures, and watch cartoons. Your likes and interests don’t determine how “mature” you are. And going to bed at 10:30 is a very reasonable thing that many adults do! And don’t feel ashamed for liking when your dad tucks you into bed, that’s a very wholesome and normal thing that shows that you and your dad have a healthy relationship. There is nothing here to be ashamed of, and it doesn’t make you “less mature” than your peers!
omg… i wish that i was an actual 14 year old when i was 14. honestly, i envy you. there’s nothing wrong here, you are a child with what sounds like a health living environment. you are 100% going to be okay! there’s no hurry to grow up. many people don’t get to just be kids so consider it a privilege and not a bad thing!
Take advantage! Adulting is hard, enjoy every minute of what you are feeling. I’m 43, I’d give just about anything to have my dad (who’s passed) tuck me in, I still have my favorite stuffed animal (which my husband replaced when I was 33 because it was lost) and there’s nothing wrong with living in your parents basement. I have a 21-year-old in my basement and I wouldn’t have it any other way. You are so very fortunate and I would like to see you flip your mentality. Growing up happens too fast. Enjoy every single plushie, every single tuck-in and every single moment you could possibly have as a kid. Just take our advice. Please, try to enjoy it.
Choose a relatively harmless/mild rite of passage you’d like to try, and start there. You don’t have to give up any of your current listed habits, though: they all seem healthy for 14.
-be me
-cishet 37m
-has robust collection of plushies
-goes to bed at 2100
-has outstanding full time job
-live with amazing, supportive partner who has her own collection of plushies and is typically in bed by 2000 in a gorgeous apartment we rent together.
Don’t compare your life to anyone else. Stop rushing to be more adult. Enjoy your childhood. Enjoy your freedom. Collect plushies. Go to bed whenever you like. Take every chance you can to be tucked in by your dad. Those things, when they go away, will be something you’ll miss for the rest of your life. That’s okay too. Just enjoy life. Take it one day at a time. Everyone grows and matures at their own rate so you should stop worrying so much about the future and spend more time enjoying the now. You’ve got this. Promise.
I’m in my 30s and still have plushies. There’s no actual rules around what being a teen or adult is.
The only things that matter in terms of maturity is how you treat others and how responsible you can be for yourself – are you kind? Can you control your temper and express anger without lashing out? Do you gossip about people or stand up for them? Do you take initiative to get your homework done or do you need your parents to tell you to do it?
Even if you are ‘immature’ in some of the ways above, that isn’t some insurmountable problem – you’re a teen, now is the time to learn these things. And even mature adults struggle sometimes with empathy/responsibility – getting help and learning to do better are also ways of being mature.
I’m 34 years old and I have and collect plushies. I like being tucked in (by my wife though). Sometimes I go to sleep at 10:30pm especially if I need to wake up before 8:30am.
There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re holding yourself to the wrong standards. Focus on what you’re learning. How you behave socially with your peers, how you behave socially with your parents. Learn how to do chores all adults do for themselves (like cooking, laundry, scrubbing toilets). Learn how you want to keep yourself groomed/clean/personal hygeine. Brush your teeth and floss. Etc.
It’s fine to still feel that way at 14, and I bet your dad loves that he still gets to tuck you in. You don’t need to grow up fast. Also 10:30pm is late 🤣🤣🤣 I’m 37, and go to bed at 9pm at the latest (I try for 8:30, because I wake up at 4:30am to go to work, but I have 3 kids so it depends when I can get them into bed) also I still have plushies. And like to sleep with 1 🤣 I used to have lots of toys in my early 20’s, but then had kids and they ruined them all, now they’re finally a little bit older 5, 7 and 8, I can finally think of treating myself again to cute toys and things without feeling like they might destroy them!
Enjoy being 14, it goes too fast!
I’m 40 years old and have a plush cat on my bed from when I was 4. I play video games before bed. I will eat a cupcake with pink frosting and sprinkles like you’re throwing it in a wood chipper.
Having some fun and whimsy in your life … close connections with family… those things don’t make you immature. Maturity comes from having a good sense of integrity and responsibility.
When I think of someone who is mature, I think of someone who can be trusted to keep their word when they give it. Someone who thinks before they act. Someone who has good control of their emotions (not that they don’t have emotions, but that their emotions don’t control them). I think of someone who is responsible. I think of someone with empathy. I think of someone who lives a balanced life… They are neither a doormat nor are they a selfish jerk. They know how to have a good time and they know when it’s time to work. I think of someone who is curious and will consider all angles and possibilities before coming to a conclusion. I think of someone who takes care of their mental health. I think of someone who is considerate of others.
That’s what I think of when I think of maturity. They can have all the Squishmallows and fairy lights and play all the games they want but at the end of the day, maturity is about being responsible and having integrity.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. I’m 25F and while not perfect, I also have plushies and go to bed early. I don’t have a good relationship with my father, but maybe if he’d tucked me in more often things would be different. I have a college degree, and I’m in a cushy office job making $50k, set up for a promotion soon.
This all to say that adultness/maturity and success aren’t measured by those metrics. You’re literally a child, and I’m sad that the younger generations (you excluded) are so eager to be adults and fully mature. You’re still learning and growing, and you have nothing to worry about.
If you want to focus on something, focus on making/keeping good habits and relationships, and learning new skills. That way, when you are fully mature and ready to face the world, you’ll have a much easier time.
Don’t rush yourself! I know a lot of teens that aren’t ready yet. Some are forcing themselves to grow up too fast in spite of this and it’s not going well. Others are taking the time they need before diving into the teen or adult world and are doing much better than those that are rushing. The world is more complicated now and our brains take longer to mature. Give yourself the time you need! You won’t regret it.
Liking comfort is not immature. Dont give into ridiculous peer-pressure. No its not weird to sleep with stuffed animals or have your father tuck you into bed, its weird that people put so much pressure on arbitrary things about ‘growing up’ like their older siblings dont have stuffed animals or their parents are supposed to stop loving them or wanting them to feel safe after a certain age. I promise you its not worth rushing maturity to make some school kids happy. Its corny but your parents are right: STAY A KID FOR AS LONG AS YOU CAN, INDULGE IN THE JOYS OF YOUTH BEFORE LIFE TAKES YOU UP IN THE TORNADO THAT ALL THE ADULTS IN YOUR LIFE TELL YOU YOULL REGRET WANTING WHEN YOURE FINALLY IN IT! One day your dad wont be there to tuck you into bed, youre gonna move out and youre gonna have your own family and youre gonna be tucking your children into bed and youre gonna miss being that child, in a couple years you and your classmates will be digging your stuffies out of the closet and cuddling them again so dont let peer-pressure around aging stop you from taking joy in these things
You sound normal to me. I think you are comparing yourself with your classmates/friends and confusing yourself. Everybody grows at their own pace. You’ll be alright in a couple of years. Meanwhile enjoy being a kid stay off social media.
I’m 27 and I go to bed at 9:30 with all 7 of my stuffed teddies, including one I’ve had since I was 2 months old. I’ve also lived alone for 9 years and have a master’s degree. You’re fine. Don’t rush to grow up because when you do you’ll wish you appreciated being a kid for just a bit longer.
you’re literally 14.
I am 20 years old. I have plushies. I aim to sleep early because I’m an adult. I have a job and studies so I don’t see why I should be awake all night. You’re legit only 14 years old. You are not immature you’re very aware for your age. Dont stress about this????
Just enjoy being a kid .
we had a short power cut and I came back to 43 notifications, yall are seriously fast lol
Enjoy it, that sounds so nice. Absolutely do not rush growing up you have plenty of years to be an adult but not many as a teen/kid.
Sometimes I wish to think like a kid again so it’s not really a bad thing .
Honey, I’m 30 and when I visit my parents, I love when my momma comes to tuck me in! Don’t worry so much about growing up. It’s a process. 14 is still so so young to be worrying about any of that. Lots of grown adults have plushies, and there’s nothing wrong with living with your parents either, but there’s no reason to think you will!
Hey, OP. Maturity isn’t something that happens all at once. You won’t wake up one morning to find you’re sick of the plushies and angry at your parents for no real reason. Growing up doesn’t happen that way. It’s ok.
I guess if I had to describe it, I’d say that growing up sneaks up on you, mostly. Your shoes fit just fine until, one day, you notice they don’t anymore. You’ll be super-into a particular tv show, until you notice one day that you haven’t sat down to watch that show in a week or two. Different interests and thought patterns and feelings will pop up and surprise you sometimes. Some things will stick with you from childhood, and others will change. It’s all ok.
The important thing to remember is that it doesn’t all happen at once. You might actually take a few steps back toward your childhood behaviors or interests, especially if you’re growing quickly in other ways. It’s ok.
Hormones are wild & powerful forces at your age. We’ve all been through it. You’re still you. You know right from wrong, you love who you love, and I hope you’re kind to yourself as well as others. Those qualities don’t change as you grow.
Be close to your parents. They can help guide you through the confusing parts. Try not to compare yourself to others. Comparison is the thief of joy, and no one else gets to live your life. Don’t pressure yourself to “grow up”. It’s going to happen, whether you rush it or not. Be true to yourself. Most of all, do that.
ETA: I almost forgot, you can always change your mind. Always. It’s so important.
Enjoy being a child.
It’ll never come again, and unless you were born into privilege, it only gets harder.
So… Enjoy it. But when it’s over, get serious about what you’re going to do with yourself.
Being only 14 and admitting this is a big step toward maturity. There’s nothing wrong with being loved and tucked in some times.
You’ll eventually get older and have more responsibilities come your way. Maybe ask to stay up later and voice your feelings to your parents.
They may adjust certain things to help you feel more independent, but overall, you’re still very young and just became a teenager from an adolescent.
Don’t rush growing up if you don’t have to! Enjoy being young!
You’re 14, if you weren’t immature then life’s been too rough, it’s important to mature but you’ll be doing that for the rest of your life. Just remember maturity is about how much you care
I am 48, have plushies, and would really like to be tucked in from time to time. Maturity is owning the things we love and taking care of ourselves. It sounds like you’re doing just fine to me.
Don’t be in a hurry to give up on these things that bring you joy. Soon enough you’ll live on your own and no one will tuck you in.
I’m 23 and I love plushies!
I am just going to say that I do not think that you are too immature or anything like that. Kids are at different levels of mentality and development in all of that. There is nothing wrong with having plushy because I know adults that have them. I know plenty of teenage girls that still like their dad tucking them into bed and there’s nothing wrong with that. Do not feel insecure about that and just live your life.
I’m 50, have a great wife, kids, good job, own house etc. I have a plushies, play video games and still act like a kid at the most inappropriate times.
I wouldn’t change for anything.
Be you, not what you think others want you to be.
Look , childhood is way too short and before you’re ready your parents are going to be gone. Enjoy this time as long as you can. There is nothing wrong with loving and having stuffed animals. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying things that some people call childish. As long as you understand and accept the responsibility of adulthood. But you’re only 14, be a kid . Adulthood will be there before you know it. Too many people try to become adults before they are ready for adult responsibilities and they 9 times out of 10 make a hash of it. Watch and learn about adult responsibilities first. That way when you do go out on your you will be better off than most.
I’m a 45 year old woman who is looking for a guy willing to give her a bath, sometimes feed her, brush her hair and read bed times stories. My closest friend is 40, obsessed with anime and video games. My son is 14 and still likes to sleep in the same room as me. These are comforts that go beyond age and will probably be things you always desire.
Please hold onto that as long as you can. Trust me, you’ll be thankful you did. I’m 33 and still have plushies, there’s nothing wrong with enjoying small things in life. The last time I went trick or treating, I was 19 (granted, I went with a small group who was also 19 because we were taking a friend’s little sister) and I’m glad I did. I went with friends to parks at night to go on the swings and run around during the summer when I was in college. We spent our weekends and summers riding bikes, swimming, playing pokemon, and MTG while we still could. And now at 33, I’m so glad I did. I got to enjoy that last little bit of childhood before it seemed like life went to hell. Kids are too quick to grow up due to social media and a lack of an age appropriate third space, and it’s heartbreaking. Please enjoy your age and enjoy your childhood.
I’m gonna tell ya know. I am almost 30. I do Lego’s with my boyfriend. I have the biggest squishmallow collection. I am dead asleep by 8-9 usually. You are not immature my concern is that you’re actually mature for your age because you are worried about it! Stop listening to the outside pressure online. You are normal. You have things you like and know them. That’s amazing. You have a good bond with your dad that’s even better.
Don’t be mean to yourself. You are wonderful!
Hello. The brain isn’t fully developed until we are in our early 20s. Give yourself more time to experience your childhood. You are only 2 years into being a teenager. Hold on for a while longer. Im 54yo. I wish I had a dad that tucked me in. I can’t say that he ever did. So if yours does, rejoice in this. I apologize for my grammer. Best of wishes to you.
I went through a phase in my early teenage years where I had to sleep next to my mom in order to fall asleep. I was embarrassed then.
Now that I don’t live with my parents anymore I’m glad to say that I don’t regret it. Don’t force yourself to grow up fast. They love you. Let it happen.
Girl I’m 28 and still sleep with teddies. My boyfriend tucks me into bed in the mornings when he’s getting up. I also still live with my mum and dad. If I’m not in bed by 9:30pm I am grumpy. They’re not bad habits to ever have.
You’re still a child… so that’s okay. Enjoy it!
We all like/need to be comforted. I have two kids, both of them are in their 20s. But they both want to cuddle up still, when they are feeling the need. Just not when the other is around. I hope you don’t stop feeling this way. It’s very healthy. You can be an adult when it’s time, and be a kid at heart at the same time.
Bro you are aloud to be your a kid enjoy it
Doesn’t make you childish or immature. Don’t worry about it.
I’ll be honest, you sound like a well balanced kid to me. What you’re most likely feeling is a pressure to be like your peers. But what you don’t understand is that you don’t know what your peers are like behind closed doors. There’s no good reasons to change any of the things that you mentioned, even after you do grow up. Even when you’re a full grown adult with kids of your own, sometimes you still need a good plushie or the comfort and security that only your dad can provide. Don’t be afraid of being just you.
OP, enjoy your youth while you can! Savor every living moment of it. I mean it. You’re not immature, you’re growing as a person, and when we grow and change, our mind changes with us. Don’t let your thoughts dictate your true identity.
You are fine. Don’t compare yourself to the girls of tiktok and social media in general. You feel like that, enjoy while it lasts because one day you’re going to miss this feeling.
Hey I’m 41 and I still love this stuff! Just because you get older doesn’t mean you let go of the things that made your childhood happy.
You do not have to be in a rush to grow up. Don’t rob yourself of that. Sounds like you have wonderful parents and its your right to enjoy it as much as you can. My son is 12 and still loves his stuffies and thinks he needs a kiss on the forehead every night to keep the nightmares away lol. You are a true gem to be 14 and still so innocent. Don’t let your peers convince you to conform. You’re exactly who you need to be right now in this moment. ❤️
dude i’m 17 and i sleep with my winnie the pooh plushie EVERY goddamn night 🤬🤬🤬!!
it’s okay to have a “childish” side as long as you know when it’s the right time to be serious and mature. your sleep schedule, having plushies, your dad tucking you in, those are all normal things especially for your age. actually, enjoy the “tucking in” before you’re hit with adult life!! don’t worry about rushing into being older!!
Okay but… No 7 year old should go to bed at 10:30 P.M. That’s too late.
I’m 18 and I go to bed at that time, I also have plushies at 18. My aunt is 40 and still has plushies.
But also, you are a child. You’re only 14, enjoy these things while you can. You don’t gotta mature fast, enjoy being a kid, because that’s a time in your life that you’ll never be able to go back to.
I’m 35f, still have plushies, still a gamer, still like cute things, things like My Little Pony and Care Bears. I have a cat shaped ita bag with a bunch of pins and keychains of favorite characters and I give no shits about what anyone thinks of me. My hobbies and interests didn’t just magically change the day I turned 18. I refuse to mask who I am to please others or fit in. And if someone doesn’t like me they can go to hell. It’s a them problem. Not a me problem. Growing up doesn’t mean giving up the things you like. Hobbies and interests form in childhood and are often life long. Being an adult means paying your own way and making it in the world. Why should I let society dictate what I like just because of some judgmental pricks. Do what you love.
None of those things are only for children or actually harmful. Besides, you are only 14, you have plenty of years to grow at your own pace. You can be 30 and still have your plushies and go to sleep early, nothing wrong with it.
‘KIN ‘ELL…53 Yorkshire Woman… stoll got plushies, and 10.30 is late as fuck!
Im 45, a major business owner, mom of 4 young adults (plus bonus mom to 3 others). The cool thing about growing up is YOU get to decide what your life looks like…inside and out. There literally isno right or wrong. Maturity is about wisdom and open-mindedness and being a good human, not how you refuse to surround yourself with things you love because someone miggt deem them “childish”. I too have plushies, “silly little art” all over, a fae alter, “couch pets” (plushies that live around/on the couch), movie posters and anime on the walls, and a family of golden duckies living in the open beams over our family room. I have a french fry pillow that everyone calls “happy fries” in my car. Soon Im putting up a cargo net in front of a 2nd story window above the family room, and putting a hammock there so I can read and snooze high up “in the trees” in my hammock….and Im installing climbing apparatuses around for strengthening and body movement practice. And so forth. Do what makes YOU happy, others will be miserable no matter what you do, and your life is absolutely yours to live! Have no fear, take no crap! Forge your own unique path, you wont regret it!!
Oh and ps….my 54yr old Partner tucks me in just like a caring parent and its soooooo awesome. No shame here!!!
hey, you’re only 14 ,you’ve got plenty of times to learn and grow. please know that life isn’t a race, and that you need to go at your own pace, as it’s totally okay and valid to do so. and for the plushies : if that can reassure you, I’m 22 and I still have tons of plushies, mostly unicorns, and there’s people that are older who still have plushies ! what you said about it and the whole tucking in bed thing isn’t hurting anyone, so if you like thoses things then go ahead and enjoy, and screw people who judges. take a few deep breaths, you’re doing great, alright ? be kind and gentle with yourself. you got this !
I’m in my mid 30s and have a ton of stuffed animals and I drive with one in my car cuz of my intense anxiety. My husband tucks me into bed every night. You aren’t being immature. Trust me
Soak it up. Love your youth. Be playful. It’s your time to be a kid.
You sound like you have a great dad too.
Enjoy it kid. Life hits quick, when we get older.
I’m 19, I love my plushies and nourishing my childlike wonder. You do not have to be any way other than yourself. Believe me, your “immaturity” is a strength, and you have plenty time to grow into the person you already are👻
Edit: and no one is ever too old for love. Let your dad tuck you in if that’s what makes you feel good, loved and safe. Nothing else matters. I’d love to be tucked in again!
None of that is predictive of your future success.
Pro-Tip: At your age a lot of kids try to distance themselves from their parents as much as possible because they think it makes them appear more grown up or mature or whatever.
But that is just a facade… You don’t need to distance yourself from your parents to be mature. In fact if you have good parents, being close to them is a sign of maturity.
The most mature for their age teens that I have encountered in my life had close relationships with their parents.
Also there are adult women who like plushies. Another good sign of maturity is being secure in who you are as a person and not trying to put on a facade to impress other people your age.
Start smoking
Watch TED Talks
Growing up is over-rated. Enjoy yourself. You don’t get this time back.
Trust me, as someone who couldn’t wait to grow up at your age, it will come sooner than you think. 14 is barelyyyy a teenager. There’s nothing wrong with still liking your dad tucking you into bed and liking your plushies. I promise you, once you get older you’ll miss where you are now. Enjoy it while you can
Pal your only problem really is caring too much what other people think. It makes you way too vulnerable in this world. Have the courage to be yourself.
Don’t worry, you are perfectly fine.
At some point in your life you have to be an adult and then you long for being a kid again.
I am 44m and have a wife and daughter and just like to act like a mid.
Enjoy, you don’t have to act like a teenager or an adult. Plenty of time for that.
Don’t feel bad about living with your parents in the future most people do for atleast alittle bit, and the future looks like this will be even more common as housing prices keep going up and wages don’t. I am 39. I got 2 kids, and I fully expect them to be living with me till I am dead.
I’m 30, I still have tons of plushies, and I collect Barbie dolls, and I love when my husband tucks me into bed. He’s 31 and also goes to bed at 10PM lol. I promise there’s really no rules to adulthood.
My now 18 year old had me tuck her into bed at 14….she still has plushies…hang into your childhood….soon enough you’ll have to enter the adult world and everything and everyone will want to drag the fun out of everything.
You are acting your age, others are acting older. I loved my bratz dolls until I was 14 and was forced to grow out of that “habit” and now that I’m double that age I dont understand what the rush was about.
Enjoy your youth. Play with stuffies. Love your parents. Play games. Fuck the rest of the world. You do you.
>I feel immature.
>I’m 14F, and constantly feel like I’m too immature
ok two things
one: this is a good thing, it means you’re self aware! hone this in a way that doesnt hurt your self estheem and learn to look at the things you see as bad traits, and learn how to address them or change them. You might be too young to understand but a lot of flaws in adults are unrealized aspects of a person being poorly implemented.
two: You’re a kid! you are immature! that’s not bad! learn, you’ll probably be immature for a while longer, maybe 5 years maybe 15. I know people in their 30s who havent ever had the thought of “i should be more mature”. you’re off to a great start kid.
Be well in life, do your best, im sure you’ll shape up to be a very mature person in a decade or two!
Enjoy normality. When you’re older you might go all the way to the other side; edginess and a cool kid, just to realise being yourself and normal was the way all along. Trust me.
I mean, you are a kid/teen – you should enjoy your teenhood if you can. BTW, it’s okay to enjoy stuff like plushies. I’m 46 and have plushies. And honestly, I wish I’d had a dad that was loving enough to tuck me in sometimes or to even say he loved me. Mine wasn’t nice to me at all. Plus you don’t need to rush being an adult. And as an adult, there are definitely times I don’t feel adulty. Sometimes it’s nice to enjoy those moments.
Please allow yourself the grace of growing at your own pace. I’m 30f and i had to grow up at a very young age, and i missed on things. Plushies are for everyone, being tucked in by a loving parent gets me even at my age (I don’t go back home often, and they didn’t tuck me in when i was a child). And there’s nothing shameful about living in your mom’s basement.
I’m gonna be real, I’m in my 20s and every girl I’ve met my age has had plushies stacked to the ceiling on her bed, do def don’t feel bad about that
As long as you’re independent, you’re doing fine. Are you choosing to sleep with your plushies, go to bed, or be tucked in? If you are, good. If you want to stop, then stop, and if your parents force you to keep doing it, that’s when you’re in hot water. Doesnt sound like that for you tho.
I am 33 and bedtime is 10:30-11. Staying up late is more a mark of youth than adulthood.
My GF is 31 and has around 3 dozen plushies on her bed. if I stay over at her place, I have to put them all into a basket in order to have room on the bed, and she doesn’t like them being on the floor.
Being ‘mature’ isn’t about hobbies or preferences, it’s about being able to navigate the complex problems that life throws at you.
You have the rest of your life to be bogged down with all the shit that comes with maturity. It’s one thing if you’re avoiding any and all responsibility as you get older but what you’re describing is totally fine. There’s plenty of grown adults collecting plushies and various other stuff.
teenagers are supposed to be immature. you’re still a kid. on that note, maturity is relative – who says only kids can like plushies?
Enjoy it while you can! You are not grown up, do t wish for it neither!
Chill, I know a few people who are 20 yo+, living on their own, that still like to be tucked to bed by their parents when they are visiting home, so don’t worry too much about it. Also most of my friends have a lot of plushies even tho we’re all 17yo+. There’s nothing wrong with you
Girl, I’m probably 40 something and and I got hello Kitty stuff and squish mellows and I don’t live in a basement. You’re gonna be all right.
You’re still a child! Let yourself be a child!
You are still a kid, be a kid. Its ok.
I wish I was a kid still.
Embrace what you like, my ex wife(30yo) has a huge plushie collection and loved getting and cuddling with them before setting them into a big pile. Your idea of what an adult is will become obvious when you gotta make money. If something changes where you don’t care about them as much, that’s what it is. The same way you don’t care about plastic fruits and all that toddler shit. You’re good
Don’t ever give up anything you love based on some arbitrary standard. ANY OF IT. You want to stay connected to those feelings, they’ll keep you young. Those of us who want to get old quickly tend to accomplish their goals.
For context, I’m 44 and have a career and I’ve accomplished more than my parents had an opportunity to. And I’ve also got the sickest action figure collection I’ve ever seen and dress like I’m still 16 when it’s not work time.
10:30 bedtime that loops around from less mature to more mature.
Enjoy it. The world is hard and childhood is short. As long as you are keeping up on your school responsibilities, doing your part around the house with chores (different in every home but if you don’t have any, ask your parents what you can do to help), have at least one friend you spend time with and hobbies and/or sports you spend time on you are right where you should be at 14. Also you should have some independence – which really depends on where you live. For example walking, biking or taking public transit alone or with friends your age, is an age appropriate way to have independence but talk to your parents about what is right for you. Everyone develops at their own pace and the end result is adulthood all the same. Having stuffies and getting tucked in are great comforts and routines. Your dad will be sad when the time for that ends, too. From a mom whose 15 year old son still gets snuggles.
My 22 year old girlfriend’s queen sized bed is more plushie than sleeping space. You’re fine, you have plenty of time to grow up and realize that adults are just kids in adult bodies that do what makes them happy
Your 14. Be inmature the real world is rough.
Plushies are the best :)))
Enjoy being young, enjoy whatever makes you feel comfortable.
Trust me, there’s no rush to be an adult!
My husband is 46 and still hugs his stuffed animal when he’s sleeping. It’s cute. It’s one I bought him when we were first dating.
I know you still feel like a 7 y/o but honestly you NEVER get over that feeling. my dad is 52 and he says he still feels like a child playing pretend. Don’t rush this love. Also living with you mom in your 18-early 20’s is not a bad thing either. This will allow you to save money and learn/grow as a person. You got this babes.
Don’t rush thru your childhood. Enjoy the time you have with family and friends when you get older the less time you will have time for them. You will miss this time in the future.
Perfect advice for you. Tell your parents to give you all of the tv media services you have and the money to pay all of them. Everything left over is what you can spend on yourself. You’ll get real creative.
I am 39 years old. I still have plushies and go to bed even earlier than you because of work. Same goes for most 30-somethings I know. I don’t live with my parents anymore, but I am painfully reminded that they are getting older. Enjoy those moments of affection with your dad while you’re both still alive, there is nothing immature about it.
I’m 34 and I like plushies, I got to bed at 10:15. enjoy what you like. as an adult your still into what your into just with the freedom to buy it.
i still like pokemon, Pusheen, I play games, pet dogs and get excited over cute things. my hair is pink!
you are 14 still a weeeee bab. maturing takes years and years and years. I’m still learning things, still maturing.
you do this at your pace. enjoy dad tucking you in!
your not immature, your growing at your own pace which is fine.
10:30 bed is excellent for your still growing and developing body and brain, so that’s amazingly forward thinking of you. teens need so much sleep to keep up with the growing and learning
Please. Enjoy being your age, have great memories when your being your older self will appreciate it.
Please enjoy your childhood: stay young for as long as you can. Keep letting your dad tuck you in; cuddle your plushies; enjoy your sleep. Being grown up always seems amazing when you’re young but every adult spends their life wishing they were young again.
I’m 49 and still sleep with plushies. Also, being an adult sucks. Enjoy your youth and don’t let anyone take away your spark. Stay safe and surround yourself with supportive people, including family. Just be you.
You’re going at the exact speed that’s best for you. You don’t need to worry about what your peers are/aren’t doing because what’s right for them isn’t right for you.
My daughter is 19, still has a few stuffies, and is still obsessed with Sharks. She’s also a junior in college living on her own and loving life. Don’t overthink it. Enjoy being a kid and be passionate about the things you like.
There’s nothing wrong with plushies! I had a few plushies until I was like..i.d.k…28? And I’m a man!
Also, going to bed 10:30? There’s nothing wrong with that either! That means that by 6:30 You’ve got enough sleep, anything beyond that is a bonus!
Also, please never stop loving your father. I don’t have any kids, but if I did, I’d be heartbroken if my kids stopped loving me or my affection just because they felt a need to “grow up”.
You know what’s common when it comes to father’s and their daughters? At one point, when girls are about your age, they stop displaying affection to their fathers, most often out of peer pressure/trying to fit in. Then 10-15byears later they stop caring and start to show affection towards their fathers again. Don’t be that girl, it’s cruel. Men have feelings to! Hug your father, tell him you love him and you’ll always love him. He might not show it, but I can promise you he’ll be so happy!
Parent of a teen here.
Don’t rush it. You can’t go back. A lot of times what we think is immaturity is instead just a lack of experiences. Once you get to high school or college age I encourage you to do all the safe & age appropriate stuff you can: games, dances, music, travel, everything. You’ll find others that share your niche interests and grow closer with friends than you ever thought possible, likely over nuances you used to view as immaturity.
You do you. Now and in the future.
You’re still a kid. Maturity isn’t about being loved by your dad or going to sleep early or owning plushies. I’m pretty sure most adults do these things.
Maturity is about being able to handle a situation, being emotionally intelligent and acting rationally.
You wanna be mature? Don’t take yourself too seriously. Having fun is not the same thing as being an adult.
I am twice your age, live with my partner, and still have an extensive plushie collection. 10:30 is a perfectly reasonable time to go to bed, especially since you’re still growing. And there’s nothing wrong with enjoying your dad tucking you in. You are a kid, and you’re allowed to be immature. Don’t rush.
My friend, please do not be in any rush to grow up. Trust me, I am 29 and life only gets harder as you get older. I recently started collecting plushies and replaying old video games to try and reconnect with the things that made me comfortable and happy in life. You’re in the good times. You get less than 18 years realistically before you’re thrust into work and society expects your childhood to end. 18 vs the 60+ you’ll likely live for as an adult. Let yourself be young and don’t question it. You’re doing nothing wrong, and whether most 14 year olds want to hear it or not; you are a child. And that’s perfectly okay
My 47-year-old wife still has plushies that she calls stuffies. I’m a 46 year old male, dad, electrical engineer and I don’t feel mature enough to be called a teenager. I still play with Legos.
Growing old is inevitable. Growing up is optional. Adulting sucks. Stay young for as long as you can.
I grew up and now I’m old. I wanna go back.
Don’t hasten things, do things you enjoy… But leave out the stupid things that are forced on you by peer pressure.
You’ll grow to realize that old people were actually (mostly) right…
Well, at 14 you are still immature. That’s not a bad thing, though. It’s a time of life that you can enjoy differently than when you start coming into adulthood. FWIW, the almost 20 year-old that just moved out a month ago, had more plushy toys on her bed than space to sleep and decided in the week before she moved into her first apartment, that it was time to adult a bit more and transform her room from the teenage nightmare to something a little more…sanitary. She also has more blankets than a Nepali village could need in winter and that was only culled down by about a third.
My wife and I are both 46, we both still have plushies.
Growing up is overrated.
Don’t try and grow up too fast. When I (36f) was your age, I was so looking forward to being an adult and doing adult things. And then I learned that adulting is very difficult for me (I have autism and ADHD).
Also, cherish your relationship with your parents. Just as it was just yesterday to them that you were born, one day you’ll wonder where the time went as they get older and frailer. Trust me, watching your parents get old is hard.
Be you. There’s no one way to age
When you start studying for your driver’s license (15 1/2?) you’ll grow up quickly.
This is completely and entirely normal. I know 20 something year olds, heck even 30 year olds who still have and love plushies. It’s sweet. Keep being you. And keep letting your dad tuck you in because I bet he loves it too, you only get to have that privilege for so long in life so make it last! Don’t fret about your life at all. (Sleeping early is good for your health and development as you grow older especially through your teens so keep going to bed at 10:30 too I’d recommend!!)
Enjoy your time as a child!!!! You’re only 14, you have a long journey ahead of you!
I would not say these are signs of immaturity. I would say these are activities that you enjoy because they bring you happiness, comfort, and security.
You are still so young. Keep enjoying these things for as long as you can, dont be in a hurry to grow up. You’re all good. You got this!
I’m a 31 year old adult currently scrolling Reddit snuggling a stuffed bunny. I lived at home until I was 31 because I lived with my granny. It’s always been us and my sister and we stayed with her until she passed away. Life is different for every single person. I know 50 year olds who are as immature as a 10 year old. Live your life the way you want, just don’t be a horrible person.
Lmao i am 37 and bought plushies and toys everything I always dreamed about , age is a number made up by the government so what ever feels comfortable in ur own skin , I live with my dad just it’s hard in Vancouver
Try not to worry about it too much. I’m in my thirties and my husband is in is forties. We both have good jobs, a house and have 1 kid and 1 on the way. We both like gaming, sci-fi and watching cartoons. We also both sleep with stuffed animals and go to bed at 9 pm. Things like this don’t determine how mature you are. Being an adult is hard sometimes, so we all just try to enjoy the things that make us happy and bring us comfort. For some those are things like riding a motorcycle or going out to eat and for others those are cartoons and stuffed animals.
Enjoy being a teen. You’ll be an adult before you know it and far sooner than you’d like.
Do not worry little bro, these are the years TOO be young, you’re finding yourself out just make sure to accept what you DO find
I’m 71, and I still have my Kissy doll, whom I’ve had for 64 yrs. I have teddy bears & other plushies & 2 troll dolls, one of which I bought when I was 10!! Life is too short. Enjoy your youth. Let your inner child enjoy herself! Before you know it, you’ll be an adult with responsibilities and will look back at your childhood. Make it a good one so when you look back on it, you’ll smile and have warm thoughts about your youth!!
I still have loads of plushies and still buy toys and action figures if I really like them. I’m 38
Your level of self awareness/ reflection would show you are 14. No young child could do what you have done by noticing somethings you do and question if it’s ok to do. It sounds like you have loving parents and that is great, don’t push them away. As for the plushies, fully grown adults have them. Don’t be hard on yourself and enjoy the life you have. 🙂
I am 47 currently hugging a plush rhino, I sleep easier with something in my arms.
Slight context for this story; I have a chronic illness.
Nearly 3 years ago, not long before my dad died, I was visiting him and needed a nap he insisted I took his bed it was hot but he knew I can’t sleep without a cover so he found his thinest sheet and tucked me in making sure the air conditioner was pointed close but not at me. It is one of my fondest memories. I would have that every night if I could and that is not affect of grief I would loved it then. Maturity is not a series of things you stop doing or give up. It is how you react and process things. It happens at different rates, research shows on over certain iq points children mature slower.
Take responsibility for your shit , do your work,
You are 14 don’t be in too much of a rush to grow up. Importantly you can’t fake it.
I’m 50 and still have my special t shirt at night with the good seams to rub, I miss my Dad tucking me in, and love a good Mum hug. Enjoy being a kid for as long as you can, and never grow up…..it’s rubbish adulting.
I’m 39 years old, and I go to bed at 10 pm, still buy random teddies, and recently brought a pink unicorn light up, yoyo!! At 14, you’re still a child, navigating hormones and your identity. Never give up the things you enjoy. Just be YOU.
I wish so bad I could go back to 14 and have my mom pack my lunch and be yelled at, at soccer practice – just enjoy it you got no where to be but here, now! Like what you like
You’re fine. Enjoy your life. It’s great you still like plushies, or when dad tucks you in. Life will creep in on you eventually and it’s not always pleasant. Revel in the pleasantness for now!
I thought the same thing growing up! People younger than me seemed so mature. It bothered me, I thought I was behind in life. Now I feel old.
Don’t think that way it’s totally normal. I am 32 years old and some days I would like to cuddle with my mom. She’s my mom and I love her, age shouldn’t matter. Also, my husband collects lots of toys and I have friends who still buy plushies.
Plenty of adults still have plushies. Both of my daughters do, and they’re young adults now. And you won’t always want your dad to tuck you in. And that day will be bittersweet for both of you.
You won’t end up just living in your mom’s basement because you’re still holding on to some things from earlier. It’s quite okay. Even sweet. Don’t be in such a hurry. We grow up fast enough.
I’m 42 and don’t classify as an adult. You’re too young to be worried about that
Wow same here but im know myy brain is 7 years old
You are 14 you are not immature and many adults have plushies. Many adults don’t feel like adults, it is normal to not feel like we are the age we are, especially if you try to compare yourself to others. Don’t do that. If you want to feel more mature you can do small things like take on more responsibilities. Maybe take over new chores, learn to make simple meals and cook occasionally. Even learning new skills can help us feel more capable things like woodworking, art, crochet or other fiber arts. Build up some life skills
Hey Girl, as a 28year old daddy’s girl, I still wish my dad could tuck me in like he did when I was a kid. You’re young, let yourself stay little. The world is big, and cruel, and you’ll have more than enough time to “grow up” once you’re an adult.
Even as an adult, I don’t feel as grown as I am. I still call my parents for help sometimes.
Also, there is nothing wrong with living in your parents basement, stay as long as you can, save money, better yourself for when the time comes for you to buy a house you love, or have the career you want.
There is no specific timeline on YOUR life. Your life is yours to do as you please, and if that means having plushies and having your dad tuck you in at night? Do it. Enjoy it. 💕💕💕
People mature at different rates.
I was immature for my age. Now I’m in my late 30s and only feel like I reached “adulthood” maturity 5 years ago.
It’s okay though.
That’s a good thing, trust me.
Don’t rush, you’ll really miss it someday. It’s gonna suck not being able to tuck my son in to sleep when he gets older.
Our youth today wants to think they’re grown, so they dismiss things like plushies and closeness with parents, etc. Just enjoy the ride and take it as it comes. If we are still talking about this worry when you are 39, THEN we might have something to worry about…lol.
I’m 60 and I dote on my baby yoda dolls as if they are real babies. I adore my plushies. My house is decorated with Grateful Dead stuff, photos, art prints, crafts/stitching I’ve done, and I have an extensive Harry Potter collection. I go to various ‘Cons’ to meet fave performers of my youth in the 70s.
You are only 14. Enjoy your youth and I’m sure your dad is happy you want him to tuck you in! You can have any future you want. Don’t be in a rush to get older cause it goes by soooo fast. 🙂
Enjoy your life while you have it, and don’t compare yourself to others. You want to have soft toys? Fine. You want to go to bed early? Fine. If you think that makes you immature, then so be it. None of us have to conform to anyone else’s standards. I really like the phrase “you do you”, and I think that sums it up well.
Dude, you’re good. Im 40 and still feel the same way.
In all honestly, you’re mature enough to realize there is growing to do.
I’m 21 and my mother still hugs me goodnight. Having a healthy relationship with your parents is not childish!
Going to bed when you feel tired is actually way more mature than staying up super late for the sake of it.
It’s ok. Take your time to grow up. You only get one childhood and it’s much shorter than it feels like to you right now. Embrace the whimsy in your heart!
I am 48….I have plushies!
You’re 14, you have plenty of time to grow up. Take it from someone who grew up WAY too fast (first job at 14, though I lied and said I was 16)and now has kids (21, 18, and 15). Enjoy your youth. Be a kid as long as you can. Don’t lose that innocent wonder. Enjoy the time you can playing with your plushes and such. Youth goes away fast once you become an adult. Every adult you know is envious of you. They wish for the days they had few responsibilities and plenty of time to be with friends.
Take it from an old crusty bastard you have plenty of time to be an adult you can never go back many of us try but you just can’t enjoy what’s left of you childhood while you grow we advance as time progresses I know plenty of 35+ successful women with lots of plushies.
It’s doesn’t define you
You are so young at 14. Being 13-14 is totally different than being 17-19, and you are very much still a child and I think most people could relate to your feeling at your age. Don’t grow uo too fast, you will get there eventually
Sounds like you are happy at home with your family. You feel safe and also get enough sleep. Not everyone has that so getting out of the house is important to them because home isn’t safe or comfortable.
Being tucked in feels so nice. My husband and I will tuck each other in if we are going to bed at different times. And one of my closest friends collects plush toys and LOVES her collection.
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Nah. Seven-year-olds go to bed at like 8:15 also it’s okay to like affection and Therapy toys by which I mean Teddy’s.
This is perfectly healthy! Teens nowadays are growing up way too fast. You have your whole life to be an adult, enjoy the time you have to live life as a teen!
I’m 27M. Have plushies. I also pay bills and help family through work as an IT engineer.
Your family loves you and you love them.
Just be yourself, keep fulfilling your responsibilities and don’t worry about anything else.
You’ll be fine when the time comes. Enjoy your youth while you slowly expand your adulting.
My 13 year old foster daughter is the same as you, and I don’t want it to change. I grew up too fast as a teenager, and I think it added a bitterness to my view on life. Stay young as long as you can. You are able to be a grown up for most of your life. Having someone willing and able to tuck you in won’t last forever. Take advantage of this time.
Don’t be so quick to grow up. Enjoy your time as a kid for as long as you can. One of the most important lessons that im still learning today, you make the rules. Be yourself, enjoy being uniquely you. You like your dad to tuck you in? Enjoy those moments while you can. Time is a bitch and it doesn’t wait for you to catch your breath.
I’m 38 and still have plushies (although I call them stuffies), I prefer to go to bed before 10.
Girl, don’t stress about it. You are going, allow yourself to enjoy it. Those of us that had to grow up early desperation wish we could go back and be a kid again. You’re doing just fine, there’s nothing wrong with you.
There nothing wrong with feeling the way you do.
Many adults still have plushies and like to be treated well by their parents.
Don’t try to change yourself because you’re comparing yourself to others.
Learn to accept who you are because who you are is perfectly fine.
Enjoy what you like, be yourself.
14 year olds aren’t meant to be mature anyway. There is nothing wrong with you.
You are likely to grow far healthier and mature best with a good nights sleep and loving home. All of this is just fine, including the plushies!
Hi, 32F here. I go to bed at 1030pm, and have some very dear stuffed animals, and like being tucked in (by my husband).
Maturity is not about doing (or not doing) what everyone else your age is doing – it’s realizing who YOU are, and trying to be that best version of your most authentic self. And I think the more focused you are on “being mature”, the less likely it is to be authentic.
Don’t be in a rush to grow up. Speaking from experience… most of us dont really grow up anyways lol.
19 year old f here!!! i go to bed at 10 usually and i bring plushies on every vacation and sleep with stuffies every night! i also enjoy when my mom tucks me into bed, it makes me feel that inner child joy 🙂 dont worry about “growing up”, that comes naturally and enjoy the “childish” stuff because WHO CARES???
baby i’m 28 and still have plushies and go to bed at 10:30
Don’t worry. The older you get the relatively younger you’ll look and feel and outpace your contemporaries. You’ll live well into your 90’s if you keep fit and eat properly.
Nothing wrong with taking longer to grow up – I didn’t feel like an adult until I was 24 and I wore pigtails to my first day of senior school. I still have plushies now!!! Take life at your own pace.
62 years old . Bedtime 10. Husband tucks me and my plushie in every night. I think your concept of what it means to be an adult is flawed.
This was me at your age. Even now at 32 I still feel like I’m 22
Father of 2 here (M11, F19)
All good, bud. You are on good hands.
And its amazing that you’re evaluating the situation, taking time to be aware who you are today.
Dont worry man, just keep being yourself. You are growing! Thats it.
We all mature, physically, mentally and emotionally, at different times. Humans are not allowed the same.
I’m extremely mature in age, but I’m a man. So mentally, I’m still a silly kid.
Im 25, and I work, come home, and play video games to wind down. I know it’s hard not to care what other people think, but try your best not to, because enjoying things that you love is not something one should be ashamed of.
You’re a child. Get off Reddit(the longer the better) put your phone down and go play.
I still have plushies and im 26 year old somehow functioning adult.