So this happened 3 months ago and I don’t have anyone to vent this to, I’m 19F everyday it haunts me like what if I get threatened by this in the future like, I met him on discord and I was bored enough to start sexting and he asked me to send nudes I hesitated at first but then I sent him, it started with just pics, then he asked for a vid of me… yk. I didn’t show my face, just my lips in one pic. But the vid he asked for I sent clips of it cuz I couldn’t sent the whole thing, then he told me to move on and send him on telegram or google drive.
My dumb self went to send it on google drive, while that was sending cuz it took a while, he sent me a voice message and it was an Indian guy I quickly cancelled the vid sending I tried to call to confront him he didn’t pick up so I blocked him. Thing is I’m sure he saved them cuz everytime I would send something I would immediately delete it so I’m sure he would save it before I delete it.
Thing is I have my insta connected to my discord, I’m always scared he might try to leak it to my followers or smthn
Ofc I’m ashamed of myself, I’m stupid I know, so I don’t want anyone in the replies telling me this cuz I’m already disgusted by myself I stopped sending nudes ever since. But I started hearing abt ppl getting their nudes sold on websites and it just scares me… what can I do I literally sometimes wake up in the middle of the night having panic attacks abt it.
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You didn’t show your face right? Then you have nothing to worry about. He cannot blackmail you with that. If he does, just say that it’s not you and it was just some random video and pics found on the internet. Tell him to do whatever he wants with it and you don’t care. He’ll back off.
Wow! I’m sorry you are going through this.
I’m not sure what you can do here, try googling your name (or username that you used with him) and see if you find those videos.
If you have any information about this person or if you have your conversations/interactions saved? Maybe see if you can file a complaint.
Unfortunately this is common. You just gotta be careful with such things
If you are in fact, having panic attacks, then I would humbly recommend that you see your doctor or OB/GYN and get a referral to a therapist to a psychiatrist.
Panic attacks are extremely serious, and without treatment, they get worse.
Meantime, you might want to simply disconnect all of your accounts from the Internet. And go completely off-line, perhaps for a month or two.
Never mind about your “followers.”
Good luck to you.
honestly, i feel like it is good that you vented this somewhere, even reddit. thing is, stuff like this happens every day and people keep getting away with it. but be glad because it could have been much worse. you’re smart for not showing him your face. and im pretty sure that he is not smart enough to leak it to your followers, he is likely just a dumb scammer. you should not feel disgusted, we all make mistakes, especially when horny, our organs start thinking instead of our brain. tell yourself that it is okay and try moving on.
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Do you have any personal information of his in order to trace him and his location?
No face no worries.
Ohhh girly.. it’s okay. The good thing is you didn’t show your face. He likely saved them which of course is disgusting but just deny it should it ever appear. Everything you do going forward please just protect yourself. You cannot trust anyone you meet, especially online. Limit what you send, emoji out anything that can be linked to you or any personal info.. don’t beat yourself up love.. sadly so many people end up facing things like this.. you’re not the first and won’t be the last. You’re young, just be mindful who you allow close to you and always keep in the back of your mind to protect yourself above everything.
Im so sorry that happened 🙁
Nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about. Most people send nudes all the time. He was just not a good person. The best thing you did was not show your face. Like someone else said you think with your organs first before your brain and it happens all the time. Nothing to worry!
Even if he ever tries to blackmail you, like if he tries to ask you for money or he’ll leak the nudes, just tell him to screw off or ignore him. He’s not actually going to share them, otherwise he’d have no leverage in trying to get your money or some other blackmail. It’s frustrating but I wouldn’t worry too much
Don’t lose sleep over this. Block/ignore him.
Chalk this up to a learning experience. No more sending nudes – even if you’re in a relationship!!!!
Anything you send electronically is in the public domain. Full stop.
Learn from it and move on. Be excited to know you are got enough for a guy to want vids of you. No face, your safe.
Nice one
He probably showed his friends or sold them online, my advice is just to own it. Most of us did crazy stuff like that when we were young.. what matters is that you learn from it, and won’t make this mistake twice . I still wish he doesn’t leak your nudes, but the odds of him not leaking is slim.
Wow! This amazing
Sorry to hear OP, just remember how low one has to be to do such a thing and try to not beat yourself up too much about it. The other comments about search, unlinking etc are useful. Just remember this for the temptations of a possible next time.
So sorry this happened. There truly is no going back. You can give yourself some time to rant rave or beat yourself up yet it’s over. You’ve already put all of the blocks in place . All you can do is use this as a truly tough lesson & just keep moving fwd with your life. You do have a whole life ahead of you. Give yourself a break & simply be more protective of yourself. It’s better to just keep your head up & brush off the heavy part of what you’re feeling, you do have decisions to make . You can accept that you are not alone in this mistake & you can refresh your own “social media “ by sorta “rebranding” yourself. Yesterday you made childish mistakes , today you are trying to grow into your big girl life. You can do this! 💪🏼✌🏼
You cant really do anything. But you didnt show your face so theblikelihood of this biting you in the ass is slim. Unless you have some other identifying marks. Its in the past, dont worry about it and dont let it stop you from having fun. Just be cautious who you trust, never shownyour face in a pic or vid, and try not to beat yourself up so much.
No face, don’t worry. Even had you shown your face you can fairly easily argue something is deep faked these days. AI is advancing and nudes of everyone will be online at some point most likely.
Check this… Might be useful to you…
https://www.reddit.com/r/TeenIndia/s/tVqDc0Inp4
Lmao kinda funny about it being an Indian guy … Honestly, I would just try not to worry about it.. the internet is absolutely saturated with Porn and naked pics, even if he did release them, I am almost certain they will just be a “drop in the ocean”… you probably have a better chance at getting hit by lightning then having someone you know see them (and know that it was you)
It was dirty what he did.. but try to move on… you are 19 years old, you have your whole life ahead of you to meet someone and be intimate with them… maybe just wait until you meet them personally next time lol
As you should had been
No need to continue beating yourself up over it. Blocking him was the right move, if finds a way to contact you just tell him you knew he was catfishing and claim they’re AI. Fuck him
19f still sending nudes in 2025.. grow the fuck up…