Last month, my BIL and SIL had an in person conversation with my MIL in which they specifically told her she could not come to the hospital when my SIL gave birth. It was extremely clear and matter of fact. My husband and I were even there for back up in case she wouldn’t listen. She had a bit of a tantrum, but said “okay, I won’t come.” Well, yesterday the baby was born and my MIL rushed to the hospital anyway and texted my BIL and SIL “I’m here and ready to meet the baby!” Rather than letting her in, or even going to the waiting room to tell her to leave, my BIL simply texted her and said “go home. We told you already not to come.” My MIL continued to text him over and over again, and my BIL just kept it short and sweet and then stopped responding. I can’t even tell you how proud of him I am. My MIL is the worst (look through my post history from last year) and my BIL can sometimes be quick to defend her. So, I’m so happy with the way he handled this.
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Way to go BIL!
Oh good for him for enforcing that boundary. SIL just went through a major medical event and needs him to protect her like that.
What would be juicy though is if he enforced a fair consequence, like, MIL has to be the LAST person to meet the baby. She tried to be first? Now she’s last.
Yay! So well done BIL!
Good job BIL! SIL is in good hands! She’s probably so thankful that he stood up for her. It’s a good sign for their family in the future.
Good on him! Let that be a lesson to her!
Sounds like your boundaries were respected.
Narcissistic new grandma has to be my very least favorite flavor of mother in law. Laying down the boundaries from the very beginning is the only way to survive them… and even then, it’s really tough.
She did that because she th8bks thete will be no consequences. I hope they do impose a penalty for harassing them at a precious moment, something like not meeting the baby for a month or two would get the message across.
Good job BIL if Grandma is gonna act like a child and have a tantrum she gets to be treated like one and have a time out lol. I bet he won’t be defending her anymore as he is now dealing with it on the other side and can now see how she truly is I’m sure she is a master manipulator and they grew up with that and didn’t know any different but now everyone is seeing her true colors and that is inappropriate behavior even if it’s their normal.
He should give lessons on how to set and keep boundaries! Or start a YouTube channel. Well done! 👏🏼👏🏼
Look at that spine! What a good guy! I hope she ends up in time out for that stunt.
Go BIL!! That can be damn hard to stick to your boundaries. I’m glad he did, especially for your SIL
This is awesome! Guarantee my JNMIL would have done this if it wasn’t for COVID.