How can a woman best get your attention if she’s a bit shy at first? What have you seen women do that worked?
How can a woman best flirt with you?
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How can a woman best get your attention if she’s a bit shy at first? What have you seen women do that worked?
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Be explicit
Pop a titty out
When she cups my balls in her hands, 100% gets my attention
Be direct ngl. Most dudes, when you flirt with them don’t even realize you’re actually flirting because women flirting varies across each specific person but usually it’s not very direct. Most guys will think you’re just being nice. Get to the point, let him know. Most men will jump at the opportunity in a good way. However, if you get rejected that’s just life and besides those guys will let you down pretty easy I can’t ever see a guy rejecting a girl rudely
If we’re talking and laughing, occasionally touch my arm when you laugh. I’ll get the hint…I think.
By walking up and saying “hi my name is Pots. What do you do for fun?”
Don’t flirt, converse. Show interest in me and what I’m talking about, the same way I do about you.
The harder you flirt with me, the faker you seem and the more I assume you’re just here to get something out of me
Well my partner just asked me “excuse me can I sit here?” Worked like a charm.
Context: we were both 12 and in middle school. She had a crush on me and her gym teacher saw her staring at me. He told her “If you don’t talk with him you’ll never know” so she did, during lunch period. Now she knows…for 28 awesome years, and 15 of them married. No exes. No history.
Through interpetive song and dance. I wanna kick my feet in the air and write in my dairy how dreamy the interaction is.
Hello. How are you? My name is ___. What’s yours? Here’s my number. Call me whenever.
Make me laugh, give me elevator eyes, then get sassy/bawdy with me. From there, be direct about what you want
Just be direct, plain and simple. U have no idea most guys have no clue at all when girls are flirting with them, even though they make it obvious
With me? Best not to.
There’s a threshold where teasing stops being fun and starts being annoying, and that threshold is lower than you think
I’ve really loved it when women compliment my looks. It’s so rare so it really stands out. I felt so flattered.
Show an interest in who he is, what he likes to do with hobbies, try to make a connection within a conversation that way.
Honestly, for me, women who just walk up to me and goes straight to explicit flirting/hitting on me triggers every danger alarm in my brain. “I’m being pranked, she is just trying to make someone else jealous – I’m just a prop for whatever act she is putting on.”
I don’t actually know. Honestly, I’m not sure how I’d react, as dudes we’ve kind of been socially reinforced not to make women uncomfortable.
Like, sometimes women are just being nice. And I get the whole vetting thing where he could be a jackass or dangerous. Plus it takes a lot of courage to approach someone, regardless of gender.
I guess like subtle physical contact? Or consistent interest and attention?
I’d like to say be direct and a conversation addressing it but I suppose that defeats the purpose of the flirt. If you have to say
Hey I like you
it could be a mood killer?
Yes. I overthink.
Eye contact and a casual touch on the arm or chest. Maybe a few suggestive comments. Tools as old as time.
Step 1: Be nice to me, signal expressely you wanna spend time with me.
Step 2: If Step 1 succeeded I’m either considering you as a potential friend or a potential friend and something else.
Step 3: Signal you wanna get dirty (when you’re ready and want to get dirty), no need to jump directly to sex, but some caresses on the chest or something like that, that without confusion do signal you wanna get dirty.
Also, I would recommend being very clear because my dumb ass can think you’re just being very nice and are noy actually interested on hopping me.
First of you need to be direct. Most of the rest depends on the setting. In a bar or when going out, get his attention, buy him a drink and get to talking. At work invite him out for coffee, again single him out and change the environment. If it is a friend or someone from a friend group invite him to a more secluded setting.
You need to be bold at first, I am shy myself so that first interaction can be very nervous, gotta bite the bullet to get somewhere.
Hope it helps
Just be direct and honest with me, thats all I ask!
Any woman who has standards that low that she would even consider flirting with a fuggo like me has my heartfelt pity and my sincere hope that someone gets her the help she desperately needs.
You’re asking for guys opinions… but what usually works for me is just giving compliments and being direct. But I’m also a sarcastic smartass who likes to joke around a lot so I’ll also say things I’m thinking in the form of a smartass joke and they’ll be wondering hmm did you actually mean that or are you playing around 😅😂but that keeps it fun and playful
Shy at first? Honestly, that already gets my attention.
Tell you one thing NOT to do.
Sing Lilly Allen lyrics to a male cashier you find attractive and then randomly tell him about how much you squirt during sex when school kids are in the shop with their parents.
Actually happened to me.. I was the male cashier. She did that to me right in front of a father with his daughter in the queue.
Be direct, forget looks/signals…they don’t work.
It really depends on where you are when you meet him.
If you are at a bar, send a beer with a note saying, “I think you’re cute.”
Be intentional… ain’t that the new trendy word in dating?
Be complimentary that would be helpful!
Be direct with me and ask me questions.
The problem is most men (me included) are terrible at hints for one of many reasons. My personal one is I never thought anyone could be interested in me and when they were i took it as them just being comfortable with me. A lot of us require very clear signs but I know that’s not exactly ideal for a shy person …
Touch.
I’d fall for:
> Hey I’m peeling oranges. You want some?
It might be not flirting but it would win me over.
Just be direct, especially if the guy gets other attention but isn’t seeing anyone he’s either oblivious or look for someone to be real with him. My vote just tell him the thoughts you have of his attractiveness and whatnot that’s what guys do… also learning lesson… pay attention to what guys compliment about you that’ll tell you what they’re after
“Hello. I find you attractive. Let’s do sex together.”
Laughing at jokes if he’s witty. Had a gal grab my arm and say I was awesome. That was clear.
Show bobs and vagene
Say my pubis needs dusting! Is your dust buster shaft working ?
Haven’t seen an answer on the second question, but aside from my last failed relationship, nothing women have done has worked. With said last relationship- she talked enough initially to make it known she wasn’t wasting my time or her time. Since then? Absolute fuck all. Solid… EXTENDED eye contact? So obvious right? Nothing. SOLID EXTENDED EYE CONTACT WITH A SMILE…. nothing. I’ll save the caps lock for this last one. Extended eye contact, a smile and being in my vicinity/ hovering? So obvious right? I mean how oblivious can men be?nothing. Solid Extended eye contact with a smile, being in my vicinity and a hey…. yeah nothing. Each of these incidents included a short convo and an inevitable asking out for coffee… and each was followed up with a response of no. This is the persuers paradox. Just because you go after something – doesn’t mean you will get it. If you can’t handle a no, you’re not an adult – you are a child. Grow up and grow a pair. Social starfishing doesn’t cut it. If you want something you’ve never had, you have to do something you’ve never done. Apologies if this came off as harsh.
Let’s put it this way – I once had a woman grab my hand and practically put them on her crotch while she was grinding her ass against me, and I didn’t take it as an invitation. Be very explicit and either use your words or do something so overly sexual that I can’t misinterpret it. I once had a woman grab my shirt and kiss me, and that worked.
One of my friends got married, the way they met was she walked up to him and asked him “is this seat taken” and pointed to his face.
So that works, i guess.
No hints, be direct.
Just come talk to me and be up front about what you want.