I was just kind of flirting with this guy, and I was reading some dirty talk advice as to what to say and I thought about it for a second, because I usually play into the thoughts they have, and I can get pretty into it…
This is a little different situation and we only just met, he knows what he wants sexually but it’s some what dominating as I’m submissive. So I play into the fantasy sometimes saying things that aren’t gonna happen in real life.
So basically my question is, does dirty talk really matter to men? Is it for in the moment to fantasize, or do you want it to be turned into reality, example I want to bend you over (, insert place, kitchen table)… I may get into it and respond, but when it comes down to it I don’t actually want bent over the kitchen table..
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I was just kind of flirting with this guy, and I was reading some dirty talk advice as to what to say and I thought about it for a second, because I usually play into the thoughts they have, and I can get pretty into it…
This is a little different situation and we only just met, he knows what he wants sexually but it’s some what dominating as I’m submissive. So I play into the fantasy sometimes saying things that aren’t gonna happen in real life.
So basically my question is, does dirty talk really matter to men? Is it for in the moment to fantasize, or do you want it to be turned into reality, example I want to bend you over (, insert place, kitchen table)… I may get into it and respond, but when it comes down to it I don’t actually want bent over the kitchen table..
Thanks for reading, first time poster.
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A mix of both, the thought of the things that won’t happen is a huge turn on, but then the possibility of some of the more realistic things happening is huge. A lot of submissive women never follow through so there’s always a reservation where you think it’s hot but you can never FULLY get into it since you don’t have a belief anything will happen.
If you follow through and make some into a reality, dude would be wrapped around your finger
Dirty talk can definitely matter depending on the guy. And honestly, at least for me, everything I say in a text is something I can and will do IRL if it’s allowed and physically possible.
So set the boundary with him now what’s ok and what’s not because frustration is real if he thinks he’s given the green light for actions. Miscommunication is a real thing lol.
I can enjoy it if the person is close to me. I think you should ask him not reddit but if you are genuine you are probably fine
nah it’s all fantasy.. for me anyways.
The only time I’ve talked dirty with someone we had both described fantasies of what we wanted to do to each other, moreso what I’d do to her to give her the most orgasms she could have. Honestly, it was really hot to talk about and got us both excited. When the time came and we capitalized on the dirty talk it was intense. By the end of the night I laid there and literally couldn’t even pick up my head anymore. We lost track of how many times she had finished too
Just going to jump in because this is something I’ve been thinking about this morning. Guys, if a girl has swiped right on you, is talking to you, and/or considering meeting you in real life: you are ahead of the curve. You have stood out against the background of all other men. If you use that opportunity to keep trying to steer the conversation into dirty talk, you are rapidly fading into the background. We’re at the stage where I’m trying to suss out how safe and normal you might be, but you’re giving guy who wants to sext in an internet chat room. Literally any guy could give me that, if it’s what I wanted. Stop fumbling the ball. If this girl meets this guy, the fantasy won’t live up to the reality. Because this guy thinks he’s being open about what he wants, but effectively he’s completely steamrolling the ‘getting to know you’ and building tension parts necessary even in casual sex. OP, don’t misrepresent what you’re willing to do.
Dirty talk can be both or only one. It’s saying naughty things that gets you in the mood to do other naughty things. Builds attraction and similar. It’s similar to porn, the idea of what’s happening turns you on. Playing into fantasies is okay for that reason. You just need to be clear when it’s something that you wouldn’t like to do irl.
Nothing.
I hate it.
“I’m your dirty little whore.” “you fuck me so good.” “I’m going to cum.” 1. dirty and possessive(idk why). 2. dirty and encouraging. 3. dirty status updates.
never orders, like “fuck me harder”(unless they’re deliberately fucking you very slowly) or “deeper.” if Im fucking you hard and deep, that’s probably as hard and deep as I can. I feel like a lot of women tend to think oh he’s fucking me hard I should say something about that, but I’ll tell you if you’re giving it all you’ve got and she’s like harder harder, it takes you out of it.
also if he says he wants to bend you over the kitchen counter, he probably means it.
What really gets my motor running is when she begs for a cream pie
“Blood for the Blood God.”
OOF!
Personally, I like dirty talk that appeals to my psychology. The physical is premature by the body, bit the mind is pleasured by, in my case, the ego.
For example, I had a girlfriend who called me Captain Monstercock, I figure steps most I’m within the upper range of average. Was I going to correct her? Hell no, lets play into that fantasy together, lol
But I had another girlfriend who liked rough stuff, once she told me to choke her so hard she blacked out, then grab a nearby umbrella to fuck her ass wide open while I fuck her mouth hole like its a dripping wet cunt and plant my babies in her unconscious half dead throat so she couldndrown as my personal fuck doll”. Instead I opted for the power play to be like “No, I want to hear your screams” and we ran with it, but after I was like “Hey, that thing you said about being comatose, and anal fucked by an umbrella…. was that actually something you’ve been thinking about?” and she said “oh my god no, I was just looking around the room, I saw my blackout curtains, the umbrella I need to put away. And the doll thing is because I have porcelain doll from my grandmother, but I put it away when you come over because we tend to break things, it all just kind of came out in the moment. Write what you know, right?” Then we had a solid laugh.
But really I think the best approach is to see where your partner goes and follow suit withing your boundaries. If he’s talking about pounding you into pieces with his gorilla dick, don’t pull an “umm actually”. Maybe he wants love, maybe worship, maybe praise, or wants to hear your self degradation, ownership, etc… what he says will tell you what he likes.
The only dirt talk I still think about is when a girl I was seeing moaned out “enjoy it”. Everything else is nice but goes in one ear and out the other and I forget about it. Though, honorable mention to “I missed this” or “I missed you” if it’s been a while
I mostly just like when it gets more and more specific, e.g.
– You are a dirty boy.
– You are so dirty.
– You are literally covered in dirt and soil.
– You are a public hazard due to the level of filth you represent.
– The government is going to make you a Superfund site and ban habitation on your location for years to come.
I’m not a fan, it usually takes me out of it
I mean a little fantasy in dirty talk is fine i guess. But for me i rather it’s only stuff you are actually willing to do. Would be kinda shit if you said something i fantasize about it during the day. Come home wanna do it and i get told no i don’t want to do that.
Not every guy is the same. I like it, I want to hear like basic stuff…
that feels so fucking good
I want your dick
I’m gonna come all over your dick
If we are talking about dirty talk before actually doing the deed, just basic descriptions like:
why don’t you bend me over that couch and fuck me dizzy – (yes your idea here seems solid, no I don’t think the guy cares if you change your mind last second and say let’s go to the bedroom)
I can’t wait for you to slide my panties off
Whatever, get creative, but keep it simple imo. For fantasy stuff I’d need to hear it to know whether I’m into it. I’m not sure what that would be like. “You failed your constitution saving throw and now I’m gonna fuck you until your hp drops to zero” ?
Never had a girlfriend who did that so definitely not required but boy u would get sooooo turned on if she did.
Being slutty + begging for it is good
I like to have them whisper why they keep their reddit posts secret.
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