Just like the title says. At the time I’m writing this (on September 14, 2025), it has been five years since my older brother passed away at age 20. I feel like I’m in a good place to talk about it openly, and part of me hopes there are others out there I can fully relate with about my story and his. I’ll do my best to reflect my side of things. I only ask that you be respectful about your questions and my answers.
It has been five years since my brother passed away. Ask me anything.
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what was your favorite memory with him?
Sorry to hear of the loss of your brother so young. What happened?
Hugs, OP. My husband died 6 years ago & I know that’s a terrible loss for you. The unfairness of life is never more vivid than when a young person is snatched away.
Do you have a favorite memory with your brother, that you’re able to share? Did his death change the path you were/are on for leaving home, college, etc?
I treasure the memories I have with my late hubby; I hope you are able to enjoy the memories in the midst of all the grief & healing. Good luck & thanks for sharing!
From what did your brother passed away from? Ligma?
I’m so sorry for your loss. Having lost both of my older brothers, I understand how you feel. Do you have other siblings?
How are you holding up? What was your relationship with him like when he was still here?
I’m sorry to hear that, have you had any self destructive behavior with your grieving?
Am soo sorry for your loss. How are you holding up? What was your favourite memory of him? If you could see him again what would you want to say to him?
Since you said you were hoping to relate, I just want to share that yesterday was 4 years for my older sister. She was also my only sibling and was also in the hospital for a couple of weeks before she passed. It’s weird to be alone with the memories of our childhood. And to know she just won’t be here for all the memories I make going forward. I wish I had taken more pictures. I wish things could have been different.
What is it that you want to talk about most regarding the loss of your brother? I know this is an ask me anything, but I’m leaving the door open for you to tell me anything you might want to say.
Sorry to hear about your loss. Just hear to give you some warm words.
I lost one of my sisters when I was 14, she was 16, an I still think of her every day. And sometimes I think of what she would say to me.
It wont get easier, but I think it shapes you to a person that can deal with a lot!
Take care of yourself and thank you for sharing your experience.
Do you want to share a thing that makes you smile when you think about him?
Hey OP – I lost my brother 30 years ago. I know brothers can also be annoying. When did he piss you off the most? Sending you love. Sibling loss isn’t talked about enough so thank you for this AMA.
I am very sorry for your loss. Dying at 20 is very young and tragic. Have you thought about making a t shirt drawing of him to remember him?