One week to the wedding, and you’re already unfaithful.
It’s probably the worst kept secret. You always hide your phone whenever I get close, changing your password way too frequently and just being secretive about where you’ve been / going.
You got so drunk tonight that you passed out with your phone unlocked. I snooped through and my worst nightmares were confirmed. How could you lie to my face and say I was the one, when you are going around behind my back with multiple women. You’ve completely stopped initiating sex and blamed it on my low libido, but it’s because you were getting your fill from the girls you were messaging and meeting up with.
I’m so pissed off at you because my family is traveling across the world for this wedding, a wedding we’ve spent thousands of dollars on, and for what? You clearly want something that I can’t give you.
Laying next to you in bed, listening to you snoring your drunk head off makes me want to smother you with a pillow until you choke.
I hate you.
But I still love you.
And that kills me inside.
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I’m sorry 😞
Don’t do it to yourself. Before it gets all legal and complicated. You shouldn’t have to question the one you love. Marriage doesn’t change a person. Sending you lots of love and strength.
I’m sorry you’re going thru this. But there’s no way to sugar coat this – he won’t change. You’re not married yet and he’s already cheating. It won’t stop, and he will continue to do it. Please take care and I hope you find someone who truly values you.
Leave while you can
I’m sorry this is happening to you. Please love yourself enough to leave this relationship and not marry him. You are worth so much more.
Delay it. Then demand transparency and complete honesty. See if the relationship survives, though I wouldn’t recommend it
Please please please DO NOT go through with this wedding. Don’t think it’s just a phase and it’ll pass. The money you’ve lost and the time and energy you’ve spent on this relationship is nothing compared to a lifetime of doubt.
When did the cheating start? Has he seemed off for a while?
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I know how much it hurts. But it will hurt more the longer you stay. I think you should leave before the marriage is legalized. Think about it, if this continues and you leave later on, it won’t be easy, it will cost tons of money, going to court, etc. leave now, let the wound heal, move on. It’s gonna hurt, but it will be worth it in the end.
Wake his butt up and tell him all of this.
I’m sorry this is happening.
Don’t go through with the wedding, get out of this while you can.
And make him pay the bills for the vendors, venue, etc…
That is horrible, but you have a way with words. Try to write something down, poetry has helped me through some dark times. The way you paint the scene with your words is beyond amazing. You are worth happiness and you are worth being treated like the woman you are. Go and find happiness, you can back out whenever you want but if I were you I would make a show at the wedding and embarrass the shit out of that peice of shit
You deserve better. Go scorched fire and rise out of that shit like the phoenix.
Please do not marry this man. Please do not commit yourself and your life to living this way. That life will destroy you and you will never be happy. He is a selfish liar and his lies will never stop. The lies will continue and they will only get worse.
I know you still love him. But, that doesn’t mean you should commit the rest of your life to being with him. Please, choose yourself and choose to move forward in your life without him.
Please.
Love yourself more.
Yeah, no. Don’t get married to this person. Run before it gets even more complicated than it already is.
Do not marry this person.
Canceling a wedding is cheaper and easier than a divorce. Get an STD panel done ASAP. No relationship is worth risking your health.
He’s not going to change. Imagine one his girlfriends comes back pregnant. Once you get married, he’s also spending money that should be going towards your family.
Go to the wedding with your family and friends only and celebrate you leaving this douchebag. You deserve so much more than whatever he is doing.
Run. Now. While it’s not too late. Better to cut your losses than spend 5, 10, 20 years being unhappy and waiting for this person to change.
It’s soo hard i want to advise you to leave him but i know you are stuck with him but girl you have to do it for yourself for your mental health
I can picture it now:
“do you Ms OP take this guy to be your husband?”
you: I …….. do not marry cheaters.
and then you have your bridal party pick him up and carry him out of the room as you explain on the mic that home boy has been sleeping with other women & therefor this is a now officially a break up party! “everyone please join me as a free myself from a terrible terrible mistake! let’s go take shots!!!”
it’d be awesome if you managed to have all his stuff packed in boxes waiting for him outside the wedding area with a sign up front that says “we’re over” & make sure to lock the doors so he can’t get back in tot he wedding.
I know this sounds like i’m trying to be funny, but in you can absolutely screw him over the way he has been screwing these other women. you don’t deserve the future this poor excuse of a man will provide you. love yourself because you know he doesn’t! and get your revenge!
I always just think these are writing exercises when OP doesnt engage in the comments
Get. Out. Now.
You can love someone without letting them massively fuck up your life.
I’m sure it’ll get better after you marry. Maybe a kid will help.
Leave doll. You are worth so much more than to be call this drunk asshats wife. I was engaged for 2 years with my ex fiance and when I found out about the cheating, drugs, and got fed up with his alcohol problems, I had called off the engagement, returned the ring and moved out. It won’t make sense now, but later on you will look back and see why God or the universe let you see it with your own eyes.
🫂 I’m sending you a strong hug. It gets better. And please don’t feel ashamed, you did NOTHING wrong. Low libido isn’t an excuse for him to cheat. And do not feel embarrassed or put yourself down because you have to face your parents and tell them you are calling it off. If anything, any parent would want their child to be happily married, please know they would rather you be happy than be stuck in a miserable marriage.
As for the money, you might still have a chance for refunds, there’s clauses and policy you can look up to get your money back and leave in peace.
I wish you the very best. 🫂
Drain the bank accounts. Cancel the wedding and take any refunds from this. Make sure your family have travel insurance then get them to cancel. When he’s out for the day pack your car including anything he has of value and head off into the sunset
If you marry this person, you’re just punishing yourself for falling for them in the first place. Don’t go through with it because of other people. Don’t ruin your life just to “save face” or if you still do, just have the ceremony, put on that happy face but absolutely DO NOT sign that marriage certificate.
Your relationship is a farce. If you feel like you have no choice, by all means, carry on with the “wedding” but this won’t get better. This will just be your future for the rest of your life.
You should get an STD test, BTW. You have no idea how long he’s been doing this.
Look at the wedding as a non refundable party with your loved ones and move on after or embarass him at the end of the reception so u can enjoy yourself.
Better to cancel the wedding than continue on with it. It will not get better after you’re married and a divorce can also very expensive. But, you know all of this…I hope you find the strength and courage to make the best decision for yourself.
Big mistake if you don’t end it now
The thousands of dollars you’ve spent on the wedding are nothing compared to what it will take from your life if you go through with it. Call it off.
Would getting married help your chances of getting citizenship? You can treat him like a roommate and tell him to pay more bills
Sometimes saving yourself means walking away from someone you love.
Without trust there is no love. Without respect – and clrahe has no respect for you or your relationship – there is no love.
You need to ask yourself what role you will be filling in this mans life if you marry him, because he clearly neither loves nor respects you. He does not even want physical intimacy from you.
So what he wants must be something like a mommy/maid/personal assistent that cant quit her job no matter how he behaves.
Is that your dream life??
Walk. Now. While its less complicated than a divorce.
Don’t marry him, have a party for your family instead.
I’m so so sorry this happened. I know the whole situation seems helpless, but it will only get worse once you get married. Please don’t do this to yourself, you deserve a lot better. Take screenshots of the messages, dont go through with the wedding and make him pay the vendors. There is still time ai promise