For context I’m an aromantic asexual autistic gal so the thought of a crush is a very foreign concept to me.
One thing I’ve found interesting is when people tell me they got over a crush or Fell out of love etc. I always Wonder if that means they no longer find that person visually appealing all of the sudden, if the way they view that person has changed or if they still feel attracted to that Person but have just accepted that they can’t be with them.
Or is it like for friendship where you just eventually grow apart and no longer feel connected to that Person.
I assume the answer will greatly change person to person but i wondered if there are some common patterns
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People tend to romantically fixate on people they aren’t even in relationships with
They often do it with celebrities too, so even people they never even met.
Basically they fantasize about living a romantic life with the person and all the things they “could” be.
Like writing a romance novel in your head.
I think that any of the things that you guessed (or any combination of them) can be contributing factors.
Ultimately, I think that the main mechanism underlying a crush is hormones. And those hormones can wear off (either just naturally, or due to some trigger; like finding out that your crush is actually a horrible person) and once they do, you lose the attraction to them.