the first night we got home my wife called her grandma on her dad’s side and she got mad about the name we gave our boy. The name we gave him was “nikosis” it means “my son” in MY language (plains Cree native) the grandma isn’t native but white/german & has native children (my wife’s dad) he’s Ojibway, to put it into perspective EX: Korean/Chinese. Ojibwe and Cree are two different cultures. But are both native… she called my sons name odd and said that isn’t the correct pronunciation. And listed off how it’s supposed to be said in ojibwe… backstory (we chose to keep her dads side last name out of my sons name due to them not being there for my wife during her pregnancy. And them not liking me. The grandma I’m speaking of even offered to drive her to the abortion clinic 8 months ago. Also my wife’s mom said her dads side is like a cult when it comes to this stuff. Like the way they behave. When my wife’s mom was still with her ex (wife’s father) she was practicing a Guyanese teaching the same grandma said “that isn’t a thing” and that it was wrong) anyway now before naming my son me and my mother who is a full blooded plains Cree from Saskatchewan Canada. Double checked and made sure the pronunciation for my son’s name was correct in our language and it is. Who says something like that on the first day we get home from the hospital? No “he’s so cute” or anything like that. Just straight to scolding. My wife is very upset and if you guys had any advice to give to her that would be appreciated. Thank you.
My wife’s grandma is mad about the name we gave our son/called it odd
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So grandma offered to drive her to an abortion clinic and she ….. called her the day you took the baby home.
Can’t change other people, can change what you do to get better results. Seems she can do whatever she wants and there aren’t any consequences, so why should she not think it’s her world and you’re just living in it?
Congrats on your baby! All situations resolve themselves, this won’t last forever.
Sigh
Shitty people are the same no matter where they’re from
After what she said to your wife 8 months ago she should’ve stopped talking to her. Period. Family or not, FaFo. I hate narcissistic people so much. And congratulations on your baby. Love the name!
Time to have some firm boundaries with Grandma. “Well, that’s the name we chose for our son, and we like it. (You could go light) We could have named him Tunafish, and we didn’t. (Or you could go bold) He’s our son, not yours. We have chosen his name and pronunciation. (Either way) We need you to respect that. We really want you in Nikosis’ life. We want him to grow up having a relationship with his great-grandmother.”
The name is just a device they chose to find a reason they don’t like you, it seems like you’re in a star-crossed situation.
The easy way out is to move away from them, otherwise you will have to mend the fences somehow.
His nickname could be nick so its not odd. Well your heard from her grandmother no reason to see her again before Thanksgiving . Just limit her holidays I would not trust her to babysit.