Hi, I’m 21F and my bf is 21M and 1 year 2mos tgt We had a conflict last Wednesday and is currently on our 6th day not talking. tho it wasn’t a full no contact as 2 days ago I asked him if we could talk in which he replied he’s not yet ready.. then yesterday greeted him on our monthsarry in which he did to but we both greeted each other on a neutral manner, then yesterday i sent him a long message explaining what i feel so that when the time comes he’s already ready to talk, he could read it and have more time to formulate his words.
i am having an anxiety whether he will leave me because of this 6days no contact or he just wants a space. for context: we fought and the situation wasnt handled properly like the way his words and phrases were delivered were not nice to me.. theres no name calling and cursing and yelling its just the way it was formulated, it’s not assurance and comfort.
the reason why i was having an anxiety is because i was in a relationship for 5 years and it ended up like this. tho the reason before was he feels like hes falling iut of love then communicated it to me then the space went like 2mos then after that he broke up with me (jn which he didnt tell me he needs space and its been 2mos of waiting only to end up like that). till now, no contacts gives me anxiety. i feel like i have trauma with it
with my bf now, heres a context on his behalf: before this we also fought last month. we havent talked to each other for four days but he explained that he needed space because theres alot of things going on including the fact that hes arranging the papers for his job application. and now it’s longer than 4 days. hes working on a restayrant now and i think hes always tired. but yesterday, our monthsarry, i saw his story and it was his day off. im having an anxiety whether this space will lead us to breakin up.
TL;DR. Bf 21M and I 21F fought and currently on our 6th day not having a proper talk about the problem. i am having an anxiety whether this is just a space for him to gather his thoughts or this will lead him to breaking up with me
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It sounds like he needs some space to think, maybe he’s reconsidering the relationship or maybe he’s just busy. The only thing you can do is wait and see.
You put some blame on your bf, but you didn’t mention anything about your part of the fight? You said that you were in a similar situation with your ex, maybe you’re doing something wrong too in arguments? You are the common denominator here.
Hey, I get why you’re feeling anxious, especially after your past relationship. But from what you wrote, it really seems like he just needs space to process everything, not that he’s planning to break up. Six days isn’t long, especially if he’s stressed with work and other stuff. You’ve already told him how you feel, so now it’s okay to focus on yourself a bit and give him time