AITA for asking a group at the hotel pool to turn off their music?
We’re on vacation at a small hotel in Greece. I’ll do my best to simply describe the situation without unnecessary detail, because I know that I can’t be objective right now.
It’s the second time we are at this hotel, and one of the main reason are its 2 pool – bigger one next to the bar in the main area and a small one behind one of the buildings. In front of the back pool there’s a clear sign that its a relax zone and guest are asked to keep the noise to the minimum.
We like quiet but don’t expect a complete silence at a public place so we don’t mind if someone drinks a bit too much and talks loudly or something like that.
For the past week everyone but this one group has been using headphones for music in the quiet zone. I asked them politely if they could to that to.
They turned it off. Next day they we’re doing it again so we decided to go to the beach but we can’t afford to to it often as the sunbeds there are not free.
Today they were listening to music on the speaker again. We went to the reception and asked for advice, we’re quiet and shy people, we don’t like confrontation. The receptionist agreed with us and said they can freely listen to their music at the main pool. She also send someone that also politely asked them to turn it off. As soon as they left, the guy turned the speaker on again.
I waited for half an hour then lost my patience and asked the if they could either go the the other pool or use headphones.
The guy lost it, shouted to everyone if the music disturbs anyone else (most of the people there we’re with his group). Then he started aggressively saying that he has never met people like us and told us to go lie in the bushes if we don’t like the music.
I didn’t want to give him the satisfaction of leaving right away, but I’m hiding tears behind my sunglasses, and we plan to leave as soon as lunch starts. I honestly don’t know where we should go afterwards. Over 2 hours later, he’s still loudly saying things like “its a bit to quiet here, isnt it?” to his friends (family?) and they’re laughing with him.
Was it too selfish to ask him to completely turn the music off? I know that most people like music at such places.
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AITA for asking a group at the hotel pool to turn off their music?
We’re on vacation at a small hotel in Greece. I’ll do my best to simply describe the situation without unnecessary detail, because I know that I can’t be objective right now.
It’s the second time we are at this hotel, and one of the main reason are its 2 pool – bigger one next to the bar in the main area and a small one behind one of the buildings. In front of the back pool there’s a clear sign that its a relax zone and guest are asked to keep the noise to the minimum.
We like quiet but don’t expect a complete silence at a public place so we don’t mind if someone drinks a bit too much and talks loudly or something like that.
For the past week everyone but this one group has been using headphones for music in the quiet zone. I asked them politely if they could to that to.
They turned it off. Next day they we’re doing it again so we decided to go to the beach but we can’t afford to to it often as the sunbeds there are not free.
Today they were listening to music on the speaker again. We went to the reception and asked for advice, we’re quiet and shy people, we don’t like confrontation. The receptionist agreed with us and said they can freely listen to their music at the main pool. She also send someone that also politely asked them to turn it off. As soon as they left, the guy turned the speaker on again.
I waited for half an hour then lost my patience and asked the if they could either go the the other pool or use headphones.
The guy lost it, shouted to everyone if the music disturbs anyone else (most of the people there we’re with his group). Then he started aggressively saying that he has never met people like us and told us to go lie in the bushes if we don’t like the music.
I didn’t want to give him the satisfaction of leaving right away, but I’m hiding tears behind my sunglasses, and we plan to leave as soon as lunch starts. I honestly don’t know where we should go afterwards.
He spent the past 2 hours going from sunbed to sunbed and badmouthing us. In his opinion the music wasnt loud and i agree that they weren’t blasting it. The thing it, if i can hear it clearly, it’s too loud for a relax zone in my opinion.
I didn’t want to give him satisfaction of immediately leaving but I’m hiding tears in my eyes behind the sunglasses and we’ll leave as soon as the lunch starts. I have no idea where should we go after that.
Other people seem to agree with him but let it go and change topic as soon as he leaves.
I didn’t want to give him the satisfaction of leaving right away, but I’m hiding tears behind my sunglasses, and we plan to leave as soon as lunch starts. I honestly don’t know where we should go afterwards. Over 2 hours later, he’s still loudly saying things like “its a bit to quiet here, isnt it?” to his friends (family?) and they’re laughing with him.
Was it too selfish to ask him to completely turn the music off? I know that most people like music at such places.
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> I might be the asshole for asking the group to turn off their sepaker completely, instead of compromising and turning the music a bit down
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NTA and I feel sad that happened to you.
People who cannot have their fun without bothering everyone around are the worst any civilization has to offer. The rule is there and clear, they just fund themselves above it.
Go tell the hotel again and explain that this guest is harassing you. He is completely the AH
NTA
People like this suck. Buddy I’m not interested in your shit-ass music – I like my own music.
Bet that speaker wasn’t waterproof just sayin’…
NTA. Obviously volume is subjective. Just because he doesn’t think it’s loud isn’t the point. You’re entitled to not to have to listen to it.
I’d not address him directly again, but put pressure on the hotel to sort it out. Request that you speak to management, make a complaint, make sure you describe the aggressive manner in which the person spoke to you, your repeated polite requests to desist, and his ignorance of receptions previous request.
NTA. But you should have gone back to reception to say he turned it on again. If he has no regard for the rules, why would he have regard for your request? I can’t stand people like that.