In hetero sex (he’s pumping, she’s receiving) what should she be doing to make sure she’s not called a pillow princess? This is assuming she’s fully enjoying what he’s doing and making it clear she’s enjoying it, not that she’s lying there just taking it.
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Reacting in some sort of way. Like not fake screaming or whatever but just generally making it known you’re enjoying it. I’m a woman and there’s times where I genuinely can’t make a sound cos I’m so into something but it’s clear from body language I’m enjoying it. Also, reciprocating.
I’d say all this applies to dudes too although I know the term is for women. I had an ex who would get on and pound and just say nothing throughout and not even look at me, just stick his face in the pillow and jackhammer til he was done, and also never reciprocated.
Ask your partner; they’re going to tell you what they consider to be participating.
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Basically, being present and involved. Same as any other group project.
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Just be your authentic self and try to have fun. Don’t worry about what you think someone else may think, because thats never fun.
Fuck him back. Get on top. Don’t just expect for him to do all the work.
That’s not for everyone mind you. Some men will very much enjoy an entirely passive partner, though for me that’d be a turn off.
For clarity, a pillow princess does not actually mean you’re just laying there not participating. It’s a specifically lesbian term that means you are ONLY RECEIVING PLEASURE AND NOT PROVIDING IT. This typically does not exist in hetero relationships because the male usually gets to finish. The exception could be made if the man just eats the woman out and never gets any physical pleasure himself, but if he gets to finish, the woman is not a pillow princess. Hope this helps.
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People may have different definitions, but for me the difference is just participation. That can mean a lot of different things, but really boils down to a mutual desire to give pleasure and engage, even while on the receiving end. To me, legit good sex involves active participation from both parties basically the whole time.
It was originally a lesbian slang – in that context, there is a clear cut meaning that the person is just receiving pleasure and not reciprocating. People have began using the term more generally but in the context of hetero couples – in the most general sense, it means you just don’t participate enough in the sex. What that can mean is open to interpretation and depends on what the partner is expecting. Maybe it means they want the woman to moan, to suck his dick, to push her hips back, to be on top, etc. It would depend on what the partner is wanting/expecting – there isn’t a universal answer here. Communication with your partner is key
EDIT: Also, it’s not always used for women either. A man can be called a pillow princess which also has a double meaning of emasculating the guy
In hetero sex, it doesn’t exist
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Just say “this is really fun” sporadically, and “gosh this is excellent sex you’re giving me” with a bit of “oh yes, just like that” mixed in, and you’ll be fine.
Get on top, for one. Do anything other than just lay there and take it. That’s a turn off and a reliable way to turn yourself into a one night stand. “One star, won’t cum here again.”
I recommend a loud roar of “A NU CHEEKI BREEKI IV DAMKE” during the throes of pleasure. Guys love it. You’ll be a legend.
I think you’re confusing “pillow princess” with “starfish.” Starfishing means just laying there and letting the man do all the work.