I just wanna rant about my latest online drama, that I mainly just find hilarious while bewildering.
I saw a funny skit on TikTok about being a serial dater, like 7 dates a week, questioning how the guy even had time to everyday things. All just a joke and such. Earlier this year I broke up with my long time boyfriend, and this summer I went on dating apps and also gone on several dates. I recently tallied it up and turns out over 3 months, it’s been about 30 dates, with 14 different guys, so an average of 2 meet ups/guy, tho really maybe 5 were interesting enough to go on 1-4 more dates with. Thats also an average of about one date every 3 days.
So now I’m being spammed with comments about being a ‘hoe’, that it’s ‘outrageous’, or ‘how would those poor males feel if they knew’ – knew what? That the woman they asked on a date has also been asked out by other guys and had the audacity to say yes?? Someone also ‘pointed out’ when I commented about how if a guy wanted exclusivity, then he could ‘communicate’ it, that he’d probably be ‘thrilled’ to discover how ‘active’ I’d been. I mentioned the dates have primarily been to get tea, go on walks, play boardgames at cafes and sometimes drinks, which prompted the ‘hoe’ commenter to add that ‘at least I’m selfaware’ (self aware of WHAT even?!?).
So many ‘innocent’ dates yet in these commenters head I assume they think my original comment probably meant I’ve screwed 30 guys over this summer, which I honestly wouldn’t be against, it’s just wild that mentioning spending one’s summer going on otherwise normal dates makes people categorize one as a slut. Who wanna bet a guy going on 2-3 dates a week would be called a derogatory name or would he be called a stud??
Male loneliness epidemic where?? It’s lovely being a woman huh.
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I wish I had your kind of energy. I generally find people draining to be around and hate the performative nature of dating so I only manage maybe a couple a month lol. Those guys just hate women/feel envious of your options.
For some guys, they need to put women into one of three categories. You can be a bitch, you can be a slut, or you can be a slutty bitch, but actual human being capable of valid thoughts and the full range of emotion? Don’t be ridiculous.
1 no it doesnt
2 nothing wrong with being a hoe
3 why do you give a fuck about their negative opinion
4 they are probably just jealous anyway
Lol this ain’t the 1950s. An active dating life doesn’t make anyone a ‘hoe’. Just like men, women are allowed to date around, that’s what’s up! So, keep doin’ you, and let the haters hate. Smh…double standards much? 🙄 We gotta kill this kinda outdated mindset, for real! Stay strong, sis!
I mean a guy going on 2-3 dates a week with different women without ever getting laid would probably get roasted for being professionally unfuckable. He definitely would not be called a “stud” for taking chaste walks in the park with 30 different women.
People are weird about dating. There is a narrow window of what most people would consider “appropriate” dating, and anything that falls outside of that window is going to be put under a microscope. You’ve just gotta do what works for you.
All these men complain they barely get any matches and dates from online dating and then they’re going to insult a woman who is matching with men and going on dates.
They also assume that because they’d be willing to sleep with that number of women if they could get all these dates that women must be too. It’s such male default thinking
When they call you a hoe, just say it is better to be a mattock, that thing can uproot small tree stumps
I mean you can always just not mention your dating life on social media. That way you don’t have to deal with this crap.
Plus, seems you’re just enjoying living your life. These strangers aren’t worth your time.
You gasp had the audacity to speak with men! How shocking!
Of course if this was 100 years ago there would be social gatherings for the specific purpose of single men and women mingling just like you did.
The apps have ruined us. They made the entry cost of a conversation too high. So many screening procedures and information to judge before ever hearing the other person’s voice.
What’s the male version of a hoe? A guy.
If she does it she’s a whore, if she doesn’t she’s a prude. There’s no ‘winning’ for women, we can only do wrong.
Just laugh at these fools. So worried about what other people do. It’s pathetic really.
A guy once offered me £300 to sleep with him again, and when turned down I was all the sluts, whores, prostitutes (ironic) to exist. Dodged a bullet there!
So many men wish they could be a hoe. Since they can’t, they insult you.
To be a respectable woman , you only get one first date per quarter, didn’t you know? /s
I’ve gone on 15 first dates this year after not dating (and being abstinent) for the first 1.5 years after a significant breakup. I’m highly partial to drink or ice cream first dates because I’m also highly partial to weeknight first dates. I’ve only slept with one of these men and it was the guy I was seeing consistently (and exclusively) for 2 months that I was hopeful would become more. Most I never even kissed or saw past a first date. I don’t see them again after any sign of long term incompatibility or it turns out we are looking for different things.
I’m literally going on dates to find the RIGHT partner – once I do I’m happy to stop and looking forward to it! I hate rejecting people and being rejected.
Remember, women — dates = sex to a lot of guys
And sex is all that matters
Who is spamming you with comments and how did they even find out about this?
No it doesn’t. And fuck any man woman or otherwise that thinks so. Doesn’t matter if you meet for coffee, dinner, a week holiday or sleep with every person in the club twice a night.
Remember that someone’s opinion is just that
Theirs.
Ignore and live a happier life.
The guys are trashing you as sour grapes because THEY can’t get dates.
It used to be normal to date around while looking for a partner.
Just laugh at them, if you can.
“Btw small disclaimer, I have been on dates before you. And if we don’t really match I will likely go on more dates. Hope you’re okay with that? The men on Reddit called me a disrespectful hoe for it so I’m just making sure ✨”
Shake it off, as Taylor says.