What aspects of life do you feel that women have it better. As a woman i envy some aspects of being a man so i was wondering what you think.
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What aspects of life do you feel that women have it better. As a woman i envy some aspects of being a man so i was wondering what you think.
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What aspects of life do you feel that women have it better. As a woman i envy some aspects of being a man so i was wondering what you think.
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Everything. Their lives are so much easier.
You don’t have to prove yourself to be valued by others. Other than that I’d rather be a guy because there’s a lot less bullshit that we have to deal with.
Nothing. Their lives are so much harder.
When my wife sends me pics of them hanging out at the zoo during the workday
women are loved unconditionally. Men are loved on the condition they provide something. I’d like both men and women to get the same treatment on this and both get loved without needing to provide something
Not much. 🙃
There are several advantages to being a woman (people will help you randomly, if you’re being attacked someone will step in, HR will believe your side of the story, there’s a better chance you won’t have to pay for dinner at all and even if you do you probably only have to cover your own half, family courts favor you etc)…
But in no reality would I choose to be a woman over being a man. The pros do not outweigh the cons at all imo.
I think sometimes I don’t like the fact that I am expected to be certain things just because I am a man: like to be a provider, or to keep emotions at bay, or to be strong etc.. so in a sense I might envy a woman because these expectations are not there (socially speaking). But ofc, I am aware that women are expected of other things, and I know I wouldn’t like that either 😂 overall, I don’t really believe in gender roles, and I think people are just people. You shouldn’t expect something from someone just because of their gender. Thats me at least.
It happened just ONCE.
We met at a bar and clicked. I took her home. In the bedroom she started undressing. Then I stood with my mouth open, in utter surprise, at how big her dick is.
Only time I envied a woman.
I had bad acne as a teenager and as a dude, I just had to suffer through it. Whereas the girls could conceal it with makeup.
the social support they get. We often get told to “man up”
Outside of the fact that I wouldn’t have to spend less money on food? Like nothing.
Being a dude is so fucking great.
Not being seen as a threat for just existing sounds really nice.
By simply existing, someone will validate you. This is, of course, a double-edged sword. This is best shown when women who age talk about how they become invisible to society. Some welcome this. Some don’t. Men, however, are by default invisible.
Feels like women can effortlessly be involved with cool plans with lots of people while single lol.
That doesn’t happen to me unless I’m dating a woman and it involves her friends.
But yeah like someone else said, they got tons of social support. I get like 0. I get by with hard work and grit.
I don’t
In male-female interactions women catch lots of breaks on stuff that wouldnt be tolerated or allowed either other dudes.
Just this morning the processor next to me (who is a woman) got a government permit changed instead of having to request, pay, and reissue a new one.
The guy on the other end kept repeating he couldnt update it, but caved and did it anyway.
When I ask its a firm no.
In fact my entire team except 2 are women, and they get away with a lot. Running over deadlines, forgetting to do stuff entirely, etc. All the contacts save a few with our contractor are men.
Presumption of goodwill is the big one. One of my main motivations for losing weight is to have negative things assumed about me less often.
They have the privilege of being seen as victims no matter what, even if they are completely in the wrong they will always be given the benefit of the doubt. If they make an accusation it is believed without hesitation even when we have numerous examples of women outright lying, people will still believe them off the strength of their word as if women are incapable of lying.
I am envious of them receiving that level of blind faith
When I see them on twitch streaming stupid shit with cat ears on and the “donos” are pouring in just because she’s pretty and gooners are pathetic.
Not very often. They do get free drinks but those drinks aren’t really free. It’s easier for them to have casual sex, but it’s likely not who they’d prefer to be with. Then there’s the personal safety issues and don’t get me started on periods. I’m just fine being a guy.
I was walking into work today and a young lady looked at me and said “Smile more” instantly I got a big ass smile.
Then she asked “what gym do you go to because it’s working!” And I smiled even more.
It’s the only random complement from a stranger I’ve received in a year.
Women get compliments all the time we don’t. Except from other dudes generally.
Gonna be that bitch here, as a woman, I don’t envy men. There’s TONS of stuff I hate about being a woman and preforming femininity, but life is usually harder for men than women. Weird gender roles screw everyone over.
They get emotional or financial support by just existing. We, as men, have to work hard to be validated or useful.
For the most part I don’t; I’m very happy being a man.
But sometimes –
The incredible ease by which they get validation in general, attention from the opposite sex, and just a social life overall. Even women I’ve known who were introverted or even shy to the point of isolating themselves for weeks at a time, they still have an endless list of social opportunities and men wanting to date them.
I keep thinking I should’ve been born as a woman. My life would be better. My personality works better in woman’s body.
I would get offers, would not have to pursue anyone, the whole social aspect would be like on easy mode.
Sure, there would be some downsides, but I think it would fit me better.
If a guy is super introverted and doesn’t engage, he’s alone forever. If a girl is super introverted, there is always someone who wants to talk to her. It is much better to be deep, dark and mysterious as a girl, than a guy who doesn’t talk.
And as a girl in IT, I’d be playing life on easy mode, because there is always some guy who wants to help.
The ladies first thing?
I don’t know.
Nothing much, the only one I would say maybe in the dating game. Even then, luckily I’m quite sociable and blessed to have decent features that make me quite attractive to few people so it didn’t even matter in the grand scheme of things for real. I’m glad I have I don’t have a period.
It makes sense that women would envy men. We do have a lot of privileges- in many ways. For example, men can usually walk outside without the constant fear of being followed home, assaulted, kidnapped on a first date, or drugged at a bar. Those are real, frequent concerns women live with that most men never have to think about.
When it comes to envying women, I can’t say I really feel that way strongly. The closest thing might be compliments- women seem to receive them more often, while men can go years without hearing one. But even then, I wouldn’t call that true envy. I receive a lot of compliments from men and women daily. But women tend to offer compliments to one another in such a fun and supportive way, like you all tend to make friendship after the fact.
The only area I feel it more deeply is with children. I’m a former teacher- I’ve taught every grade level, and preschool was always my favorite. I love working with kids and I know a lot about child development. But people are often hesitant to trust men as babysitters, and I understand why. I was only ever hired to babysit because I worked at a school where the parents knew me, and their kids liked me. If I just filled out an online application, I doubt I’d get picked.
On top of that, I have tattoos, I’m Black, I wear my hair in dreadlocks- and I’ve mostly worked in privileged areas. So when parents first meet me, I sometimes catch that initial look of hesitation, like: “Oh… interesting.” But after a few days, once their child comes home happy and full of good stories, the parents completely shift. They become kind, open, and genuinely appreciative. And that always feels good.
This isn’t to criticize parents- being cautious about who watches your child is completely valid. But I can’t help feeling envious of the natural trust women often receive in this role. I hate that the mistakes of other men have ruined it for men like me, who love children and are committed to their care.
I find these two answers hilarious. 🤣
“Nothing. Their lives are so much harder.“
“Everything. Their lives are so much easier.“
The duality of man indeed. 😌
If I’m alone, it’s my own fault and something has to be fundamentally wrong with me.
If a woman is alone, it’s the patriarchy.
Being able to flirt/be playful. Without the fear of being labeled a creep, stalker, rapist. And hardly being rejected for sex.
She gets to spend all day with our child and I have to work.
Women can feel boobs any time they want. But more effort for men.
Also, women have better emotional support systems. Men can have them too, but they don’t kick on until someone is in crisis mode (example: my brother was diagnosed with cancer, his male friends were great about giving him supportive, emotional support. Outside of that the support is more “man up”)
But conversely: I don’t have other men trauma dumping on me all the time like my wife does with her girlfriends.
Saving money.
My girlfriend was at a Whole Foods to buy clams. She’s been there maybe 3 times. Guy behind the counter remembered her and gave her like…a whole pound of clams for $0.13.
The types of support they get especially in things like education or in SA/IPV recovery. Both could have helped me a lot. Especially the latter. I tried so many of the help services and they didn’t take me seriously or turned me away altogether. And that’s not even going into the how differently men and women are treated in social interactions.
You have way better clothes.
It would be nice to be desired.
I believe that women have much wider options of clothing & styles. I’m jealous.
Having many options when it comes to dating.
Just how simple it is to get positive attention from us. You can find a guy willing to try to be good to you on every corner and every building.
Way less accountability especially if attractive. Can choose a lower paying job than their spouse that they enjoy more and not worry about stigma from society. Can give up on a career any time and become a tradwife. Way more options/ opportunities dating relationship. Lives longer, better social support network.
I think being an attractive white woman would be life on easy mode. Preferential treatment everywhere you go, free stuff… what’s not to like?
Not too much honestly. All the additional hardship has really shaped me to be more like the person I want to be. But I will say the emotional support structures that women develop naturally would have been comforting when I was in my 20s and hurting so much.
I can’t help but think that people taking my side every time, even when I’m wrong. might have made me a little too soft and stunted my growth. Ultimately I believe I’m happy to be a man rather than a woman.
Ballerinas. They’re so light on their feet.
Social support and fame come easy.
My sister got money to live while in school, I did not. Worked my ass off only to be called an addict.
I started a small business and sold hotsauce for a while. She started a business while on mat leave, works 2 days a week and gets invited to conferences to speak. She hasn’t found any success and lives off of her husband paying bills.
Her project is cool and she is talented, no doubt, but how we are treated by family and society differ so wildly. Despite having very similar childhoods we have had vastly different levels of effort for vastlt different levels of success.
How easy it is for someone to show interest in them when it comes to dating.
When they are hot lesbians.
My coworker told me 10 minutes ago that she has never been single her whole life. Any time she has exited a relationship, a guy comes in and asks her out within a week. She’s currently engaged. As a man, it has never ever been that easy for me to receive love or attention like that.
Honestly, probably not having women be wary of each other. If I take her dog out in the evening or early morning for a walk (its dark at 9pm now, even darker at 5am) and we pass, or come up on a lone female you can see them just eyeballing and essentially doing a risk assessment (and I dont blame women for that, im) Rarely get a good morning or hi in return as I cheerfully go on my way. If we walk together we get all kinds of positive greetings, she is always mentioning how she was stopped by this person or that person on an evening or morning walk just for them to gush about how pretty or sweet or well behaved her dog is. Im not even a big, scary looking dude.
Not one thing. They can’t even get control over their own bodies in 2025.
Tl;dr: women have an easier time playing the field
A sexually aggressive woman is seen as progressive and celebrated. A sexuality aggressive man is so feared that all men are potentially monsters.
Most women would choose to be met by a bear in the woods than a man. No man would choose a bear over a woman. This latent fear of men due to typical asymmetrical physical abilities is as valid as it is asymmetrically harmful to men’s ability to date.
Successfully slutty men are often such because of money or an athletic build while a successful female slut needs very little. They are lumped in with Andrew Tate and other scum of the earth manosphere types. A less than athletic woman might not be approached, but will still see more success when approaching men.
A woman hitting on a guy in a grocery store line has a staggeringly better chance of success than a man. A man is more likely to be told that it’s not an appropriate space to approach people romantically as people are trying to get errands done without additional obstacles.
Hobby groups are ok for creating friend groups that are useful for repeated social interactions leading to sturdy relationships, but it’s very dependent on finding the right group and not at all useful for playing the field to figure out what you really want in a relationship. Men can’t just join pottery class, hit on all the women and expect success. A woman hitting on men in pottery class will see more success.
The only appropriate place for men meeting new people romantically is clubs. Women who go to clubs is a narrow subset of women and can give a distorted view when learning what you want from a relationship.
Women have more dating options and it seems that there are many more doors that open for women more easily than men. There’s more opportunity for women
The physical attention they get. Like… it would be nice to be sexually objectified sometimes lol. I understand how constantly hearing about it would get annoying. But for once it would be cool to be desired not for my personality or achievements or money or whatever, but desired just because somebody thinks I’m really fucking hot.
Having so much stuff for oneself in bookstores.
Seriously, their stock is like 70% romance novels nowadays, and not the kind a man would ever find remotely appealing. I have to either perform archeological search for something that interests me, or spend even more time on the Internet where my gender keeps getting flak for not reading more. It’s moderately frustrating.
I don’t
Y’all have a social thumbs up to demand unreasonable things from men purely because you like it or whatever. And if they disagree or protest, they are “not real men”.
Mostly just fashion. 99% of men’s clothing is terminally boring, and I don’t have the time or energy to make my own
When they’re carefree and care not what a single soul thinks of them.
Accountability
Women can get away with murder. Everything is your fault simply because you’re a man.
IMO it’s seen as healthy and funny for women to be open about their sexuality. It’s creepy for men.
I can feel envious in some ways, but I always try to look at the why.
“I wish i could have a shirt like that”
“The fabric is horrible and overpriced for womens fashion”
“I wish I could get that much attention from others”
“Most of it is probably unwanted, and I understand being overwhelmed.”
Women have solidarity with one another that men really don’t.
Obviously, women are individuals and unique from person to person, but in the overall collective it seems like there are far more women supporting and lifting each other up.
Men have a hierarchy centered around a very narrow definition of masculinity and it is brutally enforced. Yes, I know women do this to men, too, but women only seem so much freer now because they supported each other when men wouldn’t – that’s the kind of solidarity I mean.
Men will never be allowed to express emotions or experiment with their appearance or be okay with not being physically big or strong or any of the host of other grievances so long as we’re still enforcing it among ourselves.
Their legal and social protections against circumcision.
They dknt get treated like they are invisible like i am
being wanted.
knowing that if you really wanted to, you could fish for attention just for feeling that high of being wanted. I’ve only ever experienced this once, and with only other men. I completely understand how addictive that feeling is. I felt like the king of my castle.
having the ‘nuclear financial option’ in your back pocket in case things go sideways for you, financially. Yes, I’m talking about OF, selling feet pics, etc.
Having a girl group.
and yes, I know not every woman has these things I mentioned but generally, a lot do.
When I see a woman with a sugar daddy
Non-transactional admiration. As a man I am admired for the ways I help people, the attitudes I maintain, the ways I make the lives of others better. Essentially, everything people like about me is dependent on the potential for me doing something for them in the future. But how wonderful would it be if people liked me just for me? If the sight of my body, the flash of my smile, the sound of my laughter could improve the day of a complete stranger just by virtue of me being near them.
Women are better at handling relationships.. deciding who’s in or out, but their modern, very high standards make them miss a lot of opportunities for building a good life. Relationship-wise, I sometimes wish I could be a woman, but personally, I’m happy being a man.
Honestly, nothing. I don’t think I have ever envied a woman for anything in my entire life. I love women, but I wouldn’t want to be one.
Giving birth and being able to breast feed. My wife tells me that’s the most rewarding part of being a woman.