Its extremely common for a woman to yell and scream in an argument especially when its a fight with a romantic partner. Instantly swap it to a man doing the exact same things volume wording gestures body language etc. and its very common to have people label it abusive,scary, threatening etc. its a case of gender being the sole thing making something acceptable or not
Crying as well. Women can cru even for minor things. Its exceedingly common for men who do the same even for just more severe things to be looked down on and treated differently. Shamed as well. And before anyone starts to ramble about the patriarchy most men who have had these experiences experienced it at the hands of women not other men
I was once at a party where there was a very physically abusive woman (an acquaintance of others present). She sat on various men’s laps, pressed herself against them while dancing, put them in a stranglehold and, for example, kissed their necks and finally grabbed their crotch at some point. Each of them got upset with her at some point (including the partners of the men concerned who were present, who couldn’t believe their eyes ^^), hid from her, asked her to stop or pushed her away at some point. There was a lot of hustle and bustle. 😅 But bottom line: she behaved in such an extreme way (I can’t even describe it very well anymore) that I’m sure that if she had been a guy, the police would have been called right then and there. 😅
Casual violence in language in relation to partners – “I could throttle my husband” is seen as a light hearted statement to express anger, but if a man said the same thing about his wife everyone would have a problem
I once was changing at the pool, and a mom walked straight into the full male change room to check on her son.
I kicked her out and reported it. Nothing happened.
If I did that for my daughter, I’d be arrested and put on a list.
EDIT – There are family change rooms where families can go, and each individual has their own stall to change. There are also bigger stalls if someone needs assistance.
So there is a female change room, a male change room, and a family change room. All the same size.
Inappropriately touching people on purpose apparently. Least basing on double standards, like those Justin bieber fan women when he was 12, cardi B ( well more of that was drugging but still), kicking boys in the scrotum in cartoons, female teachers with little boys etc.
I know its a crime, still it gets a lot more acceptance in the public, at least in the West.
Being gay. If your parents are religious a lot of girls get more softly disowned. For guys it’s like “You do butt stuff. You bring great shame to your ancestors, GREAT SHAME!”
I heard a conversation at work a few ago where a group of young women said they would never be with a man who sat on the toilet for a pee. As a bloke I can say sitting down for a pee is great and stops any splashes
I think it is so normalized that it is baffling, women strongly insinuating and touching men that dont want to be with them
If anything, if the man is single, it is usually viewed like “why doesnt he want to?” by the general group, like the one mistaken and weird and in the wrong and laughed at is the man
Its like I am not attracted to you, or I am in a relationship (at the time), or even I dont want to. End of story
The same way that a woman’s No should be definitive, a man’s should be equally definitive, but it is not even close
I’m a teacher. I’ve seen women teachers jokingly pat young students on the butt (which I personally find extremely inappropriate) and admin doesn’t care, staff doesn’t care, parents don’t care. If a man did it the police would be called immediately.
Crossing physical boundaries, like touching men without permission.
Same thing with objectification, some of the things I’ve heard women say about men they find attractive would make my male friends blush if I said the equivalent of that to them about a woman.
I used to grow my hair out and had these long curly locks, the gals at work for whatever reason felt like it was okay to just come up and touch them without asking
I am sitting there thinking, if i walked up to any girl in the department and ran my hand through their hair “just to feel it” i would be in HR quicker than i could explain myself
Sexual assault. Especially sexual assault of minor boys. It’s disgusting how often they get off lightly, legally and socially, and the boy/teen is called “lucky”.
Casual violence in general also. If a woman slaps/hits a man (arm, face, dick, etc) it’s fine (probably funny too) and he probably deserved it. A man does the same thing and he’s getting arrested
Talking inappropriately to underage teens, when a man does it it gets taken much more seriously while when a woman does so it gets brushed off much quicker.
The office I used to work in had a policy where it hired “summer casuals” who were going to Uni in September each year to cover basic jobs while the peak summer leave kicked in. So we’d get an influx of temporary young people into the office each summer.
Once, a higher up manager, female, went round the office introducing this young lad to everyone. She introduced him to one bank of desks, all female, and said
“There you go, girls. Gives us something pretty to look at all summer, doesn’t it?”
And I remember thinking if a 50-something old man introduced a 17 year old girl to a group of men old enough to be her father that way, he’d be lucky to only be fired.
My Ex Wife was an unemployed, drug addicted, alcoholic, mentally ill whore who would spend her days at a bar instead…….i don’t know, holding down a job.
Even though I had the receipts on her cheating, the DUI’s, Rehab stints etc. I still had to give her 50% on everything
After the ink was dry on the paper even my Lawyer told me “count yourself lucky, if the roles were reversed, you wouldn’t have gotten shit”
I have personally been raped by women twice and after years of thinking about it and blaming myself for being better about drinking or you can’t rape a man, I realized where I was wrong. we think of rape only from other men. talking to other guys i realized that the percentage is way higher than I first thought. Society says men always want sex so it isn’t rape. it ruined two relationships for me because my SO considered it cheating but since I was drunk and taken advantage of while passed out, that isn’t a good enough excuse. Reflecting back and talking to my children about rape and how not to put yourself in a bad situation was when the lightbulb came on. Substitute female in there and everyone would be calling the police. Blew my mind when I realized.
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Go in the women’s locker room
slide in my dms
Wear skirts without judgment.
Kiss the same sex a straight person
suck their own nipples in a sexy way.
Compliment a female stranger on their looks / outfit.
Talk to strangers’ kids.
Make a sweeping gender based generalization
Ask a man to fight someone for you
Emotional outbursts
Most commonly yelling/screaming
Its extremely common for a woman to yell and scream in an argument especially when its a fight with a romantic partner. Instantly swap it to a man doing the exact same things volume wording gestures body language etc. and its very common to have people label it abusive,scary, threatening etc. its a case of gender being the sole thing making something acceptable or not
Crying as well. Women can cru even for minor things. Its exceedingly common for men who do the same even for just more severe things to be looked down on and treated differently. Shamed as well. And before anyone starts to ramble about the patriarchy most men who have had these experiences experienced it at the hands of women not other men
I was once at a party where there was a very physically abusive woman (an acquaintance of others present). She sat on various men’s laps, pressed herself against them while dancing, put them in a stranglehold and, for example, kissed their necks and finally grabbed their crotch at some point. Each of them got upset with her at some point (including the partners of the men concerned who were present, who couldn’t believe their eyes ^^), hid from her, asked her to stop or pushed her away at some point. There was a lot of hustle and bustle. 😅 But bottom line: she behaved in such an extreme way (I can’t even describe it very well anymore) that I’m sure that if she had been a guy, the police would have been called right then and there. 😅
Say “I hate opposite gender“
Casual violence in language in relation to partners – “I could throttle my husband” is seen as a light hearted statement to express anger, but if a man said the same thing about his wife everyone would have a problem
Talk to random kids.
Show emotions
Be helpless
Body shame
Stealing and wearing clothes from the opposite sex partner
Babysitting
Wear a thong bathing suit.
Pretend it’s too heavy to lift.
Slap ass, touch chest, touch leg etc. of the opposite sex. Double standards alive and well.
Interact with children that are not theirs
I once was changing at the pool, and a mom walked straight into the full male change room to check on her son.
I kicked her out and reported it. Nothing happened.
If I did that for my daughter, I’d be arrested and put on a list.
EDIT – There are family change rooms where families can go, and each individual has their own stall to change. There are also bigger stalls if someone needs assistance.
So there is a female change room, a male change room, and a family change room. All the same size.
Inappropriately touching people on purpose apparently. Least basing on double standards, like those Justin bieber fan women when he was 12, cardi B ( well more of that was drugging but still), kicking boys in the scrotum in cartoons, female teachers with little boys etc.
I know its a crime, still it gets a lot more acceptance in the public, at least in the West.
Invite friends to join you in the restroom.
As a single father of daughters I see a lot.
Side eye glares from mother’s when I take pics of my kids at the park.
Inability to hire a babysitter that isn’t an expensive professional
When my ex wife would be physically abusive towards me I was told to “man up” and “it’s not that big of a deal.”
Parents won’t allow their kids (my kids best friends and neighbors) to sleep over at my house.
When out with the kids I’d hear “Oh, giving mom a break?” “No, I’m their fucking dad.” Ok I didn’t actually say that, I would just smile and nod.
When I was a stay at home dad people said
“I didn’t work” but when a woman stays home she’s sacrificing for her family and is really family focused.
Fuck their students.
Being gay. If your parents are religious a lot of girls get more softly disowned. For guys it’s like “You do butt stuff. You bring great shame to your ancestors, GREAT SHAME!”
Engage in low-level physical abuse to their partner. And no, I am NOT saying men should be able to do this.
Women can accentuate their boobs with clothes… people look at me weird when I do it with my balls… so unfair!
I heard a conversation at work a few ago where a group of young women said they would never be with a man who sat on the toilet for a pee. As a bloke I can say sitting down for a pee is great and stops any splashes
Sexually tresspasing or even assaulting
I think it is so normalized that it is baffling, women strongly insinuating and touching men that dont want to be with them
If anything, if the man is single, it is usually viewed like “why doesnt he want to?” by the general group, like the one mistaken and weird and in the wrong and laughed at is the man
Its like I am not attracted to you, or I am in a relationship (at the time), or even I dont want to. End of story
The same way that a woman’s No should be definitive, a man’s should be equally definitive, but it is not even close
I’m a teacher. I’ve seen women teachers jokingly pat young students on the butt (which I personally find extremely inappropriate) and admin doesn’t care, staff doesn’t care, parents don’t care. If a man did it the police would be called immediately.
Verbal abuse
Crossing physical boundaries, like touching men without permission.
Same thing with objectification, some of the things I’ve heard women say about men they find attractive would make my male friends blush if I said the equivalent of that to them about a woman.
Being a creep, when a woman flirts with a man or does wierd stuff. Mostly its just a shrug. But when men do it it requires so much attention.
Casually touch people
I used to grow my hair out and had these long curly locks, the gals at work for whatever reason felt like it was okay to just come up and touch them without asking
I am sitting there thinking, if i walked up to any girl in the department and ran my hand through their hair “just to feel it” i would be in HR quicker than i could explain myself
Hang out with their kids at the playground.
Women can tell a man that something doesn’t look good on him, but watch a man try to do that to a woman.
I know, I tried. She got all offended, and it was immediately after she told me that what I was wearing didn’t look good.
Sexual assault. Especially sexual assault of minor boys. It’s disgusting how often they get off lightly, legally and socially, and the boy/teen is called “lucky”.
Casual violence in general also. If a woman slaps/hits a man (arm, face, dick, etc) it’s fine (probably funny too) and he probably deserved it. A man does the same thing and he’s getting arrested
Talk about their new sex toy. Talk about their feelings. Brag about living on their partners money. Not paying for their kids. Abuse their partner.
Wear a miniskirt to work without it being unprofessional, ladies can rock it as empowering fashion ,but a dude …😄😄😄 instant HR meeting.
Walk into the men’s room bc the women’s room line is long.
Talking inappropriately to underage teens, when a man does it it gets taken much more seriously while when a woman does so it gets brushed off much quicker.
The office I used to work in had a policy where it hired “summer casuals” who were going to Uni in September each year to cover basic jobs while the peak summer leave kicked in. So we’d get an influx of temporary young people into the office each summer.
Once, a higher up manager, female, went round the office introducing this young lad to everyone. She introduced him to one bank of desks, all female, and said
“There you go, girls. Gives us something pretty to look at all summer, doesn’t it?”
And I remember thinking if a 50-something old man introduced a 17 year old girl to a group of men old enough to be her father that way, he’d be lucky to only be fired.
Sexual harassment at work.
I once had to listen to a sexual harassment talk by a member of HR, telling everyone that the company is concerned about females being harassed.
I asked “what about men?” She said “we’re not worried about them.”
Ironically I was being sexually harassed by another member of the HR team for about 6 months.
Oh easy
My Ex Wife was an unemployed, drug addicted, alcoholic, mentally ill whore who would spend her days at a bar instead…….i don’t know, holding down a job.
Even though I had the receipts on her cheating, the DUI’s, Rehab stints etc. I still had to give her 50% on everything
After the ink was dry on the paper even my Lawyer told me “count yourself lucky, if the roles were reversed, you wouldn’t have gotten shit”
Openly mock, insult and hate on the opposite sex at work.
I have personally been raped by women twice and after years of thinking about it and blaming myself for being better about drinking or you can’t rape a man, I realized where I was wrong. we think of rape only from other men. talking to other guys i realized that the percentage is way higher than I first thought. Society says men always want sex so it isn’t rape. it ruined two relationships for me because my SO considered it cheating but since I was drunk and taken advantage of while passed out, that isn’t a good enough excuse. Reflecting back and talking to my children about rape and how not to put yourself in a bad situation was when the lightbulb came on. Substitute female in there and everyone would be calling the police. Blew my mind when I realized.
Sexual harassment and domestic abuse.
Where I live, if there’s any hint of the main perpetrator being female then the police just walk away whistling. Not a crime, good luck.
What if I told you that women can not only perpetrate sexual harassment, but they can also sexually harass other women. It does happen.