How do woman feel about lavender marriages or relationship?

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Well , as a closeted bi dude I do see the point of coming out . However I never had good luck in dating woman .

I really want a GF but I feel like I can’t tell her I am bi . Honestly when I was younger I did think bi men existed LOL.

Comments

  1. Buzzbuzz222 Avatar

    Why wouldn’t you tell her? There’s nothing wrong with being bi.

  2. GlitterSandScapes Avatar

    Just date someone else that’s bi. I’m bi and so is my bf

  3. everyoneis_gay Avatar

    Where do you live?

  4. refugefirstmate Avatar

    Women are not a monolith.

  5. Boy-Meets-World- Avatar

    What you’re looking for is a bisexual woman with lots of gay friends dear. That’ll match what you’re looking for

  6. trainofwhat Avatar

    I’m a little confused. Lavender relationships aren’t a bisexual person with a heterosexual person of the opposite gender (provided both parties are into each other). They’re basically platonic marriages of convenience.

    I think you’re maybe referring to mixed-orientation relationships in general? Lavender marriages are one type of mixed-orientation marriage. Heterosexual-bisexual relationships have their own challenges, as you know, but both partners can still be very much attracted to and in love with one another.

  7. Cupcakesx Avatar

    Lavender marriages are typically between a homosexual person and a heterosexual or homosexual person, usually because one or both are trying to hide their orientation. If you’re bisexual, it might be a queer relationship but wouldn’t really be considered a lavender marriage.

    As for being closeted, I don’t think you have to hide it. Just be upfront, honesty is better. Not everyone will be okay with it, biphobia still exists but the right woman won’t have a problem with it.

  8. pixiegurly Avatar

    The less bi guys that come out, the more the stigma continues. You can’t find someone who will love all of you unless you show up as your whole self.

    While there are still plenty of bigots out there, and us bisexuals get the fun bias from both the straights and the gays, there’s plenty of folks who don’t care what their partners sexuality is.

    Personally, I love a bi bf.