I take breaks from Reddit when it gets to be too much, but every time I come back there’s a post on the front page entirely filled with people saying hateful, degrading stuff about women. What do you all do? They don’t even hide it. You look at their profile, and they seem like they spend all day complaining about how no “girl” 𤢠will talk to them because of shit like “overinflated egos.”
Iâm tired, boss. I love the small, niche communities for my hobbies, but even those get invaded if a post hits the front page. You can watch some people slowly get more and more hateful in their comment history.
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What boards are you subscribed to? I don’t see any of the above but I’m not going to hang around /redpill or whatever the trendy spot is now days to find out.
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I think thatâs a reflection of what youâre engaging with maybe ?
You have to mute a few of those subs.
I very rarely have this experience now.
Same thing as I do in real life. Ignore them. I honestly don’t care what they think. Why would you?
I try to stay in women dominated subreddits or food/cringe, however, even here I get randomly bombarded by xy’s. Their eternal dilemma: how to make a hot girl go 50/50 and keep her in non-committed, male-side open relationships till I find a fresher options is boring. Misogyny is forever, I accepted it and try to avoid any interaction with men.
I donât see anything like that either, if anything I find Reddit to be a much nicer place than other social media (low bar to be fair)
Donât really get there either as most have said. More just getting hit on like it a dating site.
To be fair, reddit is just plain awful in a LOT of places.
My advice is to try and moderate your own reddit experience by muting some subreddits.
Popular is gonna be like that, but your feed doesn’t have to be
Hey folks, don’t feed the trolls. Don’t even look at them. Hey you! Yeah, you! I see you scrolling down to the controversial comments. Go back up, just go! You don’t need to see what mean people have to say. I don’t care how they say they’re well-meaning. Ignore them. Block and move on
Some people in here saying it’s based on what subreddits you’re active in… but I ran into this on r/meirl. No, they are everywhere.
everyone actually
Those types of people are actively weeding themselves out of the gene pool. Take solace in that fact.
I never look at the front page. I have my curated feed, and avoid the subs pushed at me with the flick of a finger.
Every time I encounter one of those subs I mute it. I also mute most pop culture subs because while Iâm interested occasionally itâs a cesspool I donât want to see.
that and the “hey this is funny because boobs!!!” posts like cmon man I don’t want to think about how sexualized we all are for like 5 mins I just wanna read something
The Reddit algorithm feeds you more of what you look at, so if you read those posts, youâll see more of them. You can mute subs and block accounts to try and remove this stuff from your feed.
Ngl I spend most of my reddit time in my own pop girl subreddit where I can just ban the misogynists đ but like others have said, if you want to stay on reddit, mute the subs you don’t want to see (3 dots above the post in your feed), and intentionally visit the ones you DO want to see so they’re recommended to you more.
I participate in askmenadvice and get upvoted to mitigate this đ
I post in the piercing subreddit a lot and some guy messaged me after I commented on his thread saying heâd look good with a septum piercing (which I wouldâve said to anyone).
When during the conversation I asked if he was shooting his shot and I said I wasnât interested, he said my âego is wild if you canât even have a conversation with a guyâ.
Sorry I canât use my favourite subreddit without being harassed by men who think I owe them the time of day?
Report them and purge your feed of those subs, you will miss some content but it’s not worth souring your experience on the platform. Create the feed you like to see
Hey this popped up on my homepage; just wanted to say that while Reddit may have more male users, TikTok is dominated by women; many of them complaining about men constantly.Â
I gave myself a rule that if Reddit starts to make me feel any negative emotion at all I just close it for the day. Cause who’s about to make me feel bad on my own phone! No more debating, or even spending time reading inflammatory posts. Only spending time on subs actually relevant to my life and interests also helps.
My Reddit is my favourite place. Feminist and all of my favourite interests with my local town/province subs being super progressive. My echo chamber is quite pleasant đ¤Ł
i’ve been seeing more “this is misandry” sentiment lately too but men have always been interjecting their feelings on how men also experience fear walking around at night, completely taking it and making it about themselves
I check my message sometimes and
I see đ from random people
and Im a straight guy so it’s
pretty awful for both tbh đ¤Ł
but it’s odd that your feed is like that though
mine is mostly filled with games, some nsfw stuff sure
but mostly talks about games and casual stuff like random
photos of places/food/art and such
I only see the subs im subbed to. It works
I’m not on the front page and stick to mainly hobby subreddits. If something has a ton of posts and hit the front page, I just skip over it. I don’t care about some normie’s opinion on my niche hobbies.
I mean, everything is awful for women isnât it?
The first post when I opened today after a week was a venting post about a woman saying her boyfriend hits and rapes her.
Yeah, I feel this. Itâs exhausting how normalized the hate can feel sometimes. Iâve started curating my feed really aggressively â blocking subs, muting certain users, and sticking mostly to smaller communities that still feel safe. It doesnât fix the larger problem, but at least it keeps my own space a bit calmer. Youâre definitely not alone in feeling tired of it.
I just ignore them because reading takes a bit of time so the second I see a word and picture that I don’t want to know about I glance away. This is only way I can still read a lot of interesting things otherwise they might get blocked if I filter stuff.
Same and with Insta also. It’s either full of body shaming in the comments or there are sex jokes under the most innocent and cute videos too.
I’ve muted a bunch of subs here but still get some awful stuff when I’m scrolling.