Please settle this minor argument of ours. This post is read and agreed upon by the both of us.
Context:
Yesterday was a tough day for all of us (mostly tired, nothing bad happened) and we put the kids to bed at ~7PM and we were sleeping at around 8:45PM (very early for us). We work from home with a flexible schedule so we don’t use alarm clocks.
What happened: At ~6:30AM (about 15 minutes later than usual) my partner woke me up saying that our son was awake in his bed.
After waking me up, my partner stayed in bed until I fully woke up, took a sip of water, check my phone and got up to go tend to our son.
That irritated me. We both had a great night’s sleep. My partner was already awake but still woke me up and waited for me to get out of bed instead of going to get our son themselves.
My partner is telling me that they woke me up because it was already 6:30AM (15 minutes later than usual) and they wanted me to start my morning routine since my morning routine takes longer than theirs. They say that they weren’t expecting me to get up to get our son, they just wanted to let me know he was awake so we could both start our day.
Additional context:
1- We both had a great night’s sleep. We didn’t have to wake up to tend to any of the kids (very rare).
2- My morning routine usually takes about
15 minutes more than my partner’s. During this time my partner is alone with both kids as I am during my partner’s routine.
AITAH for being pissed my partner waking me up telling me that our son was awake and them not getting out of bed until I went to go tend to our son?
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Please settle this minor argument of ours. This post is read and agreed upon by the both of us.
Context:
Yesterday was a tough day for all of us (mostly tired, nothing bad happened) and we put the kids to bed at ~7PM and we were sleeping at around 8:45PM (very early for us). We work from home with a flexible schedule so we don’t use alarm clocks.
What happened: At ~6:30AM (about 15 minutes later than usual) my partner woke me up saying that our son was awake in his bed.
After waking me up, my partner stayed in bed until I fully woke up, took a sip of water, check my phone and got up to go tend to our son.
That irritated me. We both had a great night’s sleep. My partner was already awake but still woke me up and waited for me to get out of bed instead of going to get our son themselves.
My partner is telling me that they woke me up because it was already 6:30AM (15 minutes later than usual) and they wanted me to start my morning routine since my morning routine takes longer than theirs. They say that they weren’t expecting me to get up to get our son, they just wanted to let me know he was awake so we could both start our day.
Additional context:
1- We both had a great night’s sleep. We didn’t have to wake up to tend to any of the kids (very rare).
2- My morning routine usually takes about
15 minutes more than my partner’s. During this time my partner is alone with both kids as I am during my partner’s routine.
AITAH for being pissed my partner waking me up telling me that our son was awake and them not getting out of bed until I went to go tend to our son?
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> (1) assume that my partner wanted me to tend to our son instead of them doing it
(2) be pissed at my partner
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YTA. Your partner did not say, as I understand it, “go deal with son,” your partner woke you up to say, hey, it’s time to start our day and you go first because you take longer. There was zero obligation for you to deal with the son, you could’ve just as easily rolled over and gone back to sleep. It was kind of a courtesy “hey, letting you know what time it is” wake-up that you took to mean something else. That’s on you, not the partner.
NTA. If your routine takes longer than his, you should both get up and he should go to your son while you start your routine.
If he’d just woken you up to say you were running a bit behind and needed to get day started, I guess thay would be fine.
But initially he woke you for your son waking up and sounds like he back tracked into this “routine” excuse because he knows he messed up.
Verdict: husband on child morning duties for a month.
I guess this just doesn’t make sense so you guys have no start times officially to your day, so why does it matter if it takes you longer to get ready? NTA they were already awake they could just worry about themselves and the child because it doesn’t even sound like the child needs much in the morning
NTA. “Partner” imply a partnership. Which means both parties should be willing and able to care for the children when the need arises. Why wake you up? Why not just go tend to the kids?
YTA. It’s not a big deal, and it’s not a harsh YTA. However, the fact that you describe yourself being pissed (enough to come to AITA) for being woken up 15 minutes later than usual, after a great night of sleep it’s honestly baffling.
You said it yourself, it takes you longer to get ready than your partner, and while you get ready they usually take care of the kid.
You got to go to sleep earlier than usual, and to wake up later than usual, and you say you’re pissed because of it? Make it make sense