There’s no one particular friend that I’d like to share benefits with but I fwb is what I think I need right now. Not ready for a relationship and I can’t do random hookups. So how do I get started? How did you do it?
How do you get a fwb if you don’t have any friends?
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There’s no one particular friend that I’d like to share benefits with but I fwb is what I think I need right now. Not ready for a relationship and I can’t do random hookups. So how do I get started? How did you do it?
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Well that depends – if you are a woman that’s easy. If you are a man then your chances are slim.
All the ones I had I met through friends.
Offer better benefits?
Dating apps
You really came to reddit to ask this? Most here can’t even hold down a relationship, much less a fwb. Look outside your friend group, too messy to look inside.
FWBs are typically romantic relationships where the relationship part didn’t work but the sex did, and it was mutually agreed upon to continue the sex. You need the romantic relationship part first, or at least to start. Seems kind of fucked up to start with friends, but I guess some do start that way.
If you had some ham, you could make ham & cheese, if you had any cheese.
Move to a city, try the apps, and if those don’t work, force yourself into social situations where you can flirt. Unless you’re absurdly hot, FWBs are not just going to fall in your lap.
Also most of my FWBs started as ‘random’ hookups. But the sex was good enough that we kept doing it, and we got along well enough to be friends.
When you’re my age, you’ve learned that a FWB is someone you love hanging out with but can’t see a relationship built off of.
Learn how to flirt with and seduce women. It’s a learnable skill just like carpentry or understanding economics. Go out and meet women, talk to them, get phone numbers, go on dates etc. When they ask what your intentions are, please be honest.
A fwb, is not a person in your friend circle, it is a person you went on a date with and you both found you were sexually attracted to one another, but you weren’t necessarily attracted to theor personality. So, sex only works better. It’s not for everyone and very difficult to maintain as feelings often develop due to the nature of the relationship.
Tinder/Feeld. Be upfront and honest. Don’t catch feels. If they catch feels and you don’t have those feels, leave ASAP.
If you’re a guy, then you’ll just have a hand with benefits.
tinder
Find a hookup you like and repeat.
Well it starts with finding an unsuitable woman
You make the proposition after the first hook up. You don’t really start fucking your friends. You start fucking somebody and they become an FWB. The other way around I don’t think ever works
These are things that just happen. You can’t just go to the friends with benefits store and be like “one fwb please sir!”.
Not too much on you OP but it’s always interesting to see people that think starting a friends with benefits or even getting a random hook-up is easier than entering a relationship. The supply of men interested in these types of arrangements is virtually limitless and less women are interested in them than a relationship, which creates a very lopsided situation.
That’s the neat part! You don’t!
Well let’s start with the big question – why don’t you have any friends?
for men? depends on how attractive you are, but generally you need to lower your standards. for women? exist.
Tinder and if you mesh, you might end up being friends down the line.
I dont think anyone ever ‘needs’ friends with benefits. All that tells me is that your horny but cant be bothered with any form of commitment or romantic relationship.
If you cant have casual sex for whatever reason, looking for fwb proactively to me reads as a pretty lazy horny person trying to have sex on tap with no real effort, commitment or plan for growth. Unless you randomly cross paths with a woman who happens to be in the same boat who happens to also find you attractive enough to go for it, its not happening man.
At that point homie, just pay for a sex worker, or maybe look inwards to really question why you’re after this?
Depending on how close you are with this one particular friend, then you could bring up the topic. If you dont have friends but want a FWB, at that point your skipping the “friend” part and just looking for a sneaky link (which is someone you ONLY talk to for sex)
Actual friends have nothing to do with fwbs, so you start at the beginning in the same place as everyone else.
Find someone who’s willing to hook up with you multiple times.
Dating apps. Unfortunately there’s a lower bound to how unattractive you can be and how small of a city you can live in.
But I’m 35 and okay looking and it still works fine for me.
Try Grindr, most of them are fwb might be what you’re looking for
bruh if you not already figuring this type of stuff out on your own no one advice in here is going to help you work on yourself
Step 1: Be attractive
Step 2: Don’t be unattractive
Step 3: Fuck good, you better make her cum at least twice per fuck session
Step 4: Profit
Handgelina Jolie
You just have to be hot and charming. Easy peasy.
Tinder worked for me. Just dont catch feelings dude, idk. been there too and it uh…sucked big time
Dating apps – Feeld is especially good for that.
Be honest on tinder. Worked for me…
I started going to social events and talked to everyone there.
I’ve just continued doing it for years and now I have a few people I can call up if I fancy a nice day out and possibly a fuck later on. Most people are friends first.
I had a chance before that I know I can pull it off but I chickened shit 😄 many instances that female friend of mine she’s into it but I kept on keeping the signal slip away.