My boyfriend owns an Airbnb in a vacation area that another company manages for him. We do use it several times a year. When we go, I end up doing yard and home maintenance, because I have the time. He spends the day working from home on his computer. So, the management company is changing hands. They held a video meeting a couple months ago that I attended for him. It was recorded, so he could’ve watched it. He never asked me anything about it.
They held another meeting tonight. He kept sending me email reminders about the new meeting. I told him I wasn’t going to watch this time. It was his turn. He kept telling me it was important. He’s selling the property and won’t be Airbnb-ing it anymore, so why do I need to attend the meeting?
He continued to send me reminders and talk to me like I was going to attend. I told him, if it is that important, then he should watch it. Here’s the thing, he was planning on hitting tennis balls with his friends. I again said, “If it is that important, you’ll make it a priority and skip hitting tennis balls or go a little late.” Then I made a doctor appointment for the same time, so I couldn’t get guilted into watching it.
So, AITA for purposely skipping the meeting?
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My boyfriend owns an Airbnb in a vacation area that another company manages for him. We do use it several times a year. When we go, I end up doing yard and home maintenance, because I have the time. He spends the day working from home on his computer. So, the management company is changing hands. They held a video meeting a couple months ago that I attended for him. It was recorded, so he could’ve watched it. He never asked me anything about it.
They held another meeting tonight. He kept sending me email reminders about the new meeting. I told him I wasn’t going to watch this time. It was his turn. He kept telling me it was important. He’s selling the property and won’t be Airbnb-ing it anymore, so why do I need to attend the meeting?
He continued to send me reminders and talk to me like I was going to attend. I told him, if it is that important, then he should watch it. Here’s the thing, he was planning on hitting tennis balls with his friends. I again said, “If it is that important, you’ll make it a priority and skip hitting tennis balls or go a little late.” Then I made a doctor appointment for the same time, so I couldn’t get guilted into watching it.
So, AITA for purposely skipping the meeting?
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NTA Unless your partner is paying for you to be his property manager, he can skip hitting tennis balls with his friends and attend the zoom meeting about his property he wants to sell.
NTA
Are you sharing the income from this endeavor or is he just using you for free labor? You say it’s his property, his Airbnb, why is any of this on you?
If you’re allowing him to exploit your labor on maintenance, Y T A to yourself.
Nta. He gets free labor from you for his property, doesn’t have to actually manage it because he uses a company…what responsibilities of ownership does he actually do ?
NTA. It sounds like you’re just free labor for your BF and his property. It’s time to put an end to that.
At some point, you will need to stand up to him, thought. After all, how many doctor’s appointment can you schedule?
NTA. His property.His yard work. His home maintenance. Sounds like are/were being used.
YTA – Because you either value yourself less than a household pet, you’re looking for someone to tell you to leave your boyfriend, or you’re just posting for attention. Regardless, knock it off.
He has a management company and they aren’t doing home and yard maintenance? Your BF PAYS them to do just that.
If you get zero benefit from this property, then you should be doing zero work.
This is a red flag.